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Nov 8, 2008
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Christianity, and somewhat serious about it
Graduated from two-year college
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Hello :)

As I've turned my page more into a reposting of emails I receive, I wish to let you know they are NOT my work. MUCH as I would LOVE to take the credit, it's been a few years since I have written, tho I am getting back to that part of me again.

So PLEASE feel free to ~ 'take what you like, & leave the rest,' as we say in Al~ Anon. There are many more things in my journal postings which is how I got this started actually. (OK ~ truth time, it was to up my profile ranking ~ lol :)

There are LOTS of wicked good jokes towards the back, & after receiving the messages I have been over these 'inspirationals' as I call them, & the 'dating' & 'players' articles, I'm going to see what happens with other subject matters I have been working on.

These ARE my personal favorites, as well, how I have tried to live my life. Remember, we ALL ARE, a Child of God. Irregardless of our imperfections, or what someone may have done to us. This does NOT mean however, that we have to "accept the unacceptable" from them. EVER.

Best wishes to you all as we each journey our paths.

Smiles ~ Pat


People come into our lives for ~


Some tread lightly in and out of our lives, others leave deep imprints, never to be forgotten.

Which are you? ~ What lesson shall we teach ~ or learn, from each other?

Family and friends are to be treasured ~ and not taken for granted. I try to see and find the good ~ in everyone and all situations.

Everything in life happens for a reason, whether we like the lesson or not!!!


Something To Think About

Have you ever noticed that the worst way to miss someone is when they are right beside you and yet you can never have them.....when the moment you can't feel them under your fingertips, you miss them?

Have you ever wondered which hurts the most; saying something and wishing you had not, or saying nothing and wishing you had?

I guess the most important things are the hardest things to say. They are the things you get ashamed of because words diminish them, words shrink things that seemed timeless when they were in your no more than living size when they are brought out....

Don't be afraid to tell someone you love them. If you do, they might break your heart...but if you don't, you might break theirs.

Have you ever decided not to become a couple because you were so afraid of losing what you already had with that person?

Your heart decides who it likes and who it doesn't. You can't tell your heart what to do. It does it on its own.... when you least suspect it, or even when you don't want it to.

Have you ever wanted to love someone with everything you had, but that other person was too afraid to let you? Too many of us stay walled because we are too afraid to care too much...for fear that the other person does not care as much, or at all.

Have you ever loved someone and they had absolutely no idea whatsoever? Or fell for your best-friend in the entire world, and then sat around and watched him/her fall for someone else?

Have you ever denied your feelings for someone because your fear of rejection was too hard to handle?

We tell lies when we are afraid.. afraid of what we don't know, afraid of what others will think, afraid of what will be found out about us. But every time we tell a lie.... the thing we fear grows stronger.

Life is all about risks and it requires you to jump. Don't be a person who has to look back and wonder what they would have, or could have had. No one waits forever...

~~ Author Unknown ~~



Paint everyday with a rainbow ~ rich with love and kindness

I am Immeritous, picayune, and extraneousness
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.

Mothers hold their children’s hands for awhile

But their hearts forever


Have you ever looked into the eyes of your child And seen the unconditional love that lives deep within them for you.

That’s true love And that’s how you know you are a good parent.


Children are our Angels, lent to us for a very short time.

Precious Gifts we are entrusted to raise to be strong,

self-sufficient secure adults who leave us far to soon.


When I come to then end of my journey and I travel my last weary mile,

Just forget if you can, that I ever frowned and only remember the smile.

Forget unkind words I have spoken, remember some good I have done.

Forget that I ever had heartache and remember I've had loads of fun.

Forget that I've stumbled and blundered and sometimes fell by the way,

Remember I have fought some hard battles and won, ere the close of the day.

Then forget to grieve for my going, I would not have you sad for a day.

But in summer just gather some flowers and remember the place where I lay.

And come in the shade of evening when the sun paints the sky in the West.

Stand for a few moments beside me and remember only my best.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
In case you missed it on 60 Minutes, this is what Andy Rooney thinks about women over 40:


As I grow in age, I value women over 40 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why:

A woman over 40 will never wake you in the middle of the night and ask, "What are you thinking?" She doesn't care what you think.

If a woman over 40 doesn't want to watch the game, she doesn't sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do, and it's usually more interesting.

Women over 40 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won't hesitate to shoot you if they think they can get away with it.

Older women are gener ous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it's like to be unappreciated.

Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 40.

Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 40 is far sexier than her younger counterpart.

Older women are forthright and honest. They'll tell you right off if you are a jerk, if you are acting like one. You don't ever have to wonder where you stand with her.

Yes, we praise women over 40 for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it's not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed, hot woman over 40, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of h imself with some 22-year old waitress. Ladies, I apologize.

For all those men who say, "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?", here's an update for you. Nowadays 80% of women are against marriage. Why? Because women realize it's not worth buying an entire pig just to get a little sausage!


Andy Rooney is a really smart guy!

Send this to five fine, fun, fabulous, fancy-free female friends over 40, or Men who might appreciate it too.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm short ~ that's obvious ~ HA!!

& After being here in Central Flori~DUH for almost 7 years, I STILL have a VERY heavy Maine accent, and am VERY proud of it :)



Maybe...God wanted us to meet the wrong people before meeting the right one so that, when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift.

Maybe...when the door of happiness closes, another opens; but, often times, we look so long at the closed door that we don't even see the new one which has been opened for us. is true that we don't know what we have until we lose it, but it is also true that we don't know what we have been missing until it arrives.

Maybe...the happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.

Maybe...the brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; after all, you can't go on successfully in life until you let go of your past mistakes, failures and heartaches. should dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you dream of and want to do.

Maybe. .there are moments in life when you miss someone – a parent, a spouse, a friend, a child – so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real.

Maybe...the best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had. We should all have one. should always try to put yourself in others' shoes. If you feel that something could hurt you, it probably will hurt the other person, too. should do something nice for someone every single day, even if it is simply to leave them alone. someone all your love is never an assurance that they will love you back. Don't expect love in return; just wait for it to grow in their heart; but, if it doesn't, be content that it grew in yours.

Maybe...happiness waits for all those who cry, all those who hurt, all those who have searched, and all those who have tried, for only they can appreciate the importance of all the people who have touched their lives. shouldn't go for looks; they can deceive. Don't go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile, because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright. Find the one that makes your heart smile. should hope for enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, and enough hope to make you happy.

And the last maybe.....when you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. should try to live your life so that when you die, you are the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.


This must be why I so loved your smile ~


The memory of a Friend’s smile Remains close at heart ~

Despite the miles.
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~ Desiderata

Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.

Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

Max Ehrmann, Desiderata, Copyright 1952
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
First and foremost would be my Faith, without nothing is possible really ~

Otherwise it IS my son, he is the light and joy of my life, as all children should be, and after your marriage ends, even as you are raising your children to leave you, your children SHOULD come first.

Next, would be the relationship with my significant other, (when that is next meant to be) as that should be the most important (or top priority) relationship you have in life ~

Family, trusted friends, (who are family really)

Last??? HMMM ~ should be before maybe?? My Serenity, happiness, peace of mind, knowing I've done all I can to better myself, my child, anyone and everyone near and dear to me. As well as any 'random acts of kindness' whenever possible.


Sometimes we are stronger than we ever thought we could be. Either we choose to be better from what we encounter in life, and see what the lesson (s) may have been, or we are prone to make the same mistake (s) again.

The lemon vs lemon aid or glass being half full vs half empty analogy here!

Everyone IS a Child of God, no matter what they may have done, or continue to do.

As Maya Angelou puts it so beautifully:

"When we know better, we do better."



When I was little, I used to believe in the concept of one best friend, and then I started to become a woman. And then I found out that if you allow your heart to open up, God would show you the best in many friends.

One friend is needed when you're going through things with your man. Another friend is needed when you're going through things with your mom. Another will sit beside you in the bleachers as you delight in your children and their activities. Another when you want to shop, share, heal, hurt, joke, or just be.

One friend will say, "Let's cry together," another, "Let's fight together," another, "Let's walk away together."

One friend will meet your spiritual need, another your shoe fetish, another your love for movies, another will be with you in your season of confusion, another will be your clarifier, another the wind beneath your wings.

But whatever their assignment in your life, on whatever the occasion, on whatever the day, or wherever you need them to meet you with their gym shoes on and hair pulled back, or to hold you back from making a complete fool of yourself .. those are your best friends.

It may all be wrapped up in one woman, but for many, it's wrapped up in several.. one from 7th grade, one from high school, several from the college years, a couple from old jobs, on some days your mother, on some days your neighbor, on others, your sisters, and on some days, your daughters.

So whether they've been your friend for 20 minutes or 20 years, AND ONLY IF YOU'D LIKE TO, pass this on to the women that God has placed in your life to make a difference
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Here is something you should take the opportunity to read and is a sermon by T.D. Jakes and is called "Let It Go"... it will help if you take it to heart.

Let It Go! By T. D. Jakes

There are people who can walk away from you. And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you: let them walk. I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone.

When people can walk away from you let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left. The Bible said that, they came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not for us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us. [1 John 2:19]

People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not joined to you can't make them stay. Let them go. And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it just means that their part in the story is over. And you've got to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead. You've got to know when it's dead. You've got to know when it's over.

Let me tell you something. I've got the gift of good-bye. It's the tenth spiritual gift, I believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He'll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it. Stop begging people to stay.

Let them go!!

If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to...... LET IT GO!!! If you are holding on to past hurts and pains ...... LET IT GO!!! If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and see your worth... LET IT GO!!!

If someone has angered you, LET IT GO!!! If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge... LET IT GO!!!

If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction... LET IT GO!!! If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents… LET IT GO!!! If you have a bad attitude....... LET IT GO!!!

If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better... LET IT GO!!! If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to a new level in Him... LET IT GO!!! If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship ... LET IT GO!!! If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try to help themselves... LET IT GO!!! If you're feeling depressed and stressed… LET IT GO!!!

If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling yourself and God is saying "take your hands off of it," then you need to... LET IT GO!!! Let the past be the past.

Forget the former things. GOD is doing a new thing for 2008!!! LET IT GO!!! Get Right or Get Left … think about it, and then… LET IT GO!!! "The Battle is the Lord's!"

Stop and think and appreciate God's power in your life, for doing what you know is pleasing to Him.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
True Love ~ If You Believe In It ~ Still Have Hope ~

Should Be

For love to be genuine, it must be caring, unselfish, honest, unpretentious, considerate and compassionate.

It is the kind of love that says "your well-being and happiness above, and before, my own," or "sacrificing myself for you gives me joy in my heart."

It is that many-splendored feeling that comes with mutual respect,

trust, and dignity. One that confers inner peace, joy and contentment on both friends or lovers, and one that inspires confidence and determination for the loved one to achieve his or her full potential in life.

One of the qualities of true love is that it is as strong as steel and as soft as silk, as hard and heavy as stone and yet as tender and light as a feather.

It is love without walls, without bars, without locks, and one that provides a lot of space and a lot of keys instead.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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What It SHOULD Be ~ If You Deserve It ~ Are Honest &

Not Playing Games With Yourself & Others


Love vs Marriage

One day, Plato asked his teacher, "What is love? How can I find it?" His teacher answered, "There is a vast wheat field in front. Walk forward without turning back, and pick only one stalk. If you find the most magnificent stalk, then you have found love."

Plato walked forward, and before long, he returned with empty hands, having picked nothing. His teacher asked, "Why did you not pick any stalk?"

Plato answered, "Because I could only pick once, and yet I could not turn back. I did find the most magnificent stalk, but did not know if there were any better ones ahead, so I did not pick it. As I walked further, the stalks that I saw were not as good as the earlier one, so I did not pick any in the end.

His teacher then said, "And that is love."

On another day, Plato asked his teacher, "What is marriage? How can find it?"His teacher answered, "There is a thriving forest in front. Walk forward without turning back, and chop own only one tree. If you find the tallest tree, then you have found marriage."

Plato walked forward, and before long, he returned with a tree. The tree was not thriving, and it was not tall either. It was an ordinary tree. His teacher asked, "Why did you chop down such an ordinary tree?"

Plato answered, "Because of my previous experience. I walked halfway through the forest, but returned with empty hands.

This time, I saw this tree, and I felt that it was not bad, so I chopped it down and brought it back. I did not want to miss the opportunity." His teacher then said,

"And that is marriage."
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  • Ages 32–86
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  • Who are single
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enough money within her control to move out and rent a place of her own, even if she never wants to or needs to...


something perfect to wear if the employer, or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour...


a youth she's content to leave behind....


a past juicy enough that she's looking forward to retelling it in her old age....


a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra...


one friend who always makes her laugh... and one who lets her cry...


a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family..


eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems, and a recipe for a meal, that will make her guests feel honored...


a feeling of control over her destiny.


how to fall in love without losing herself.


how to quit a job, break up with a lover, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship..


when to try harder... and WHEN TO WALK AWAY...


that she can't change the length of her calves, the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..


that her childhood may not have been perfect...but its over...


what she would and wouldn't do for love or more...


how to live alone... even if she doesn't like it...


whom she can trust, whom she can't, and why she shouldn't take it personally...


where to go... be it to her best friend's kitchen table... or a charming inn in the woods... when her soul needs soothing...


what she can and can't accomplish in a day... a month...and a year...


You will have good luck for an entire day..


you will have good luck for all of the year or if nothing else... you know that you are tru ly lov ed and thought of by the friend, who sent this to you...

and that she only wishes the best for you and your life...

Thank you for the blessings knowing you have given to my life...


On a ‘related note’ ~

Subject: 18 versus 54 "To My Dear Wife, You will surely understand that I have certain needs that you, being 54 years old, can no longer satisfy.

I am very happy with you and I value you as a good wife. Therefore after reading this letter, I hope that you will not wrongly interpret the fact that I will be spending the evening with my 18 year old secretary at the Comfort Inn Hotel. Please don't be upset; I shall be back home before midnight...."

When the man came home late that night, he found the following letter: "My Dear Husband, I received your letter and thank you for your honesty about my being 54 years old. I would like to take this opportunity to remind you that you are also 54 years old.

As you know, I am a math teacher at our local college. I would like to inform you that while you read this, I will be at the Hotel Fiesta with Michael, one of my students, who is also the assistant tennis coach. He is young, virile, and like your secretary, is 18 years old.

As a successful businessman who has an excellent knowledge of Math, you will understand that we are in the same situation, although with one small difference. 18 goes into 54 a lot more times than 54 goes into 18.

Therefore, I will not be back home until sometime tomorrow...."