I'm a very intense person. Anything worth doing is worth doing hard, in my opinion. Sometimes I like that intensity to be balanced by a carefree person, sometimes I like it to be amplified by an intense person.
I think Conor Oberst said it well for me when he said, "On a scale from 1 to 10, 10 is exactly what I am with 0 being everything I'm not. Tell me what you like. Is it less than 5?"