Political Scientist by training (and sausages seen, seen, seen); writer by passion (hastily a keyboard breaks the heroic silence of sunset blasting the rat-a-tat-tat of the coming night's terror - purile purple patter); a Finder of Things Thought Lost by profession; and an impish scalawag by disposition.
I am an Ethical Hedonist, a Rationalist Deconstructionist Ignostic Nontheist, a Neo-Third Wave Feminist, and a Libertarian-Socialist. I believe most of those words matter. I am polyamorous and sex positive; the two are exclusive (the non-exclusive is exclusive).
I am a member of a generation so shit-scared of seeming passionate about anything that sarcasm has become currency, disenchantment has become rote, and we look more often at the snide than at the stars.
What I’m doing with my life
Whatever catches my attention for however brief a moment. I never really believed it was mine to begin with. Just borrowed from the ether for a short while before returning to the unending black.
I’m really good at
Conversation, cognition, cards, trivia, erotica, honesty, Scrabble, Chess, wit, fucking, fondling, talking, and often forgetting to use the oxford comma.
One cannot take pleasure without giving pleasure; every gesture, every caress, every touch, every glance, every last bit of the body has its secrets waiting to be woken. Lovers should not part without admiring each other, thus neither being conquered or having conquered, neither is bleak or gutted. All that remains is the honey of human interaction and the memory of movement.
The first things people usually notice about me
My candor; or my commonly constant consonance.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: In Search of Lost Time, The Fountainhead, Walden, Love in
the Time of Cholera, The Naked Ape, The Stranger, Tropic of Cancer,
The Denial of Death, Naked Lunch, The Unbearable Lightness of
Being, V, Beyond Freedom and Dignity, In Cold Blood, The Jungle,
The Sound and the Fury, Sirens of Titan, Johnny Got His Gun, What
Matters Most Is How Well You Walk Through the Fire, Women in Love
and on and on.
Movies: Network, The Lives of Others, Children of Men, American
Beauty, City of God, The Dreamers, Taxi Driver, The Bridge, Dog Day
Afternoon, The Believer, Battle Royale, and on and on.
Music: Bob Dylan, Hot Water Music, The Clash, Tom Waits, Leonard
Cohen, The Mountain Goats, Radiohead, The Avett Brothers, The
Flaming Lips, At the Drive-In, Neutral Milk Hotel, The Velvet
Underground, The Jam, Prince, and on and on.
I define my tastes, my tastes do not define me, and on and on.
The six things I could never do without
The letters of the alphabet, coffee, sex, the quest for knowledge,
art, and laughter.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why so many people hide what they want, what they are, and what
On a typical Friday night I am
Wondering to whom the night is typical. Or being wondrous.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I would rather know or speak the truth, however candid, brutal or curt, than speak or hear a lie, no matter how kind, flattering or polite.
I've never been to the moon, though I've seen it many times.
I have a rapier wit - but who the hell can make pithy observations seem cogent in an OkCupid profile.
You should message me if
You damn well fucking want to.