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43 / F / Straight / Single
Silver Spring, MD
- Last Online
- Mar 5
- 5′ 7″ (1.70m)
- Body Type
- Mostly anything
- Catholicism, and laughing about it
- Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
- Graduated from masters program
- Relationship Type
- Likes dogs and likes cats
- English (Fluently)
I have gotten the chance over the past few years to do a lot of traveling, thanks to a dad with a long bucket list and a mom with a short one. My dad and I have been to Peru to visit Machu Picchu, to Idaho to go river rafting, and to Thailand and Cambodia (visited Angkor Wat).
--Thinking about the big picture
--Asking questions and then listening for the answers
--Books (the paper kind)
--Trying to live in the moment
--But also plotting my next steps
- Straight guys only
- Ages 38–45
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating
More about you...It's hard to reduce a person to a few sentences. I'm a big believer in in-person chemistry. However, I'll throw in a few essentials here. First, it's important that you want a woman, not a girl. Second, I'm looking for an intelligent guy who knows his way around current events and likes to explore cultural outlets such as theater and museums. Also great is a sense of fun and a desire to be active -- let's rock this town! It would be great if you had an offbeat sense of humor without being (excessively) dirty, mean, or bitterly cynical, although you'd get a thumbs up for judicious use of sarcasm. You are caring and compassionate, but not treacly. You can both make fun of and participate fully in popular culture. You are always pleased but never satisfied. An interest in sports is fine and welcome. On a big-picture level, you're someone who wants to leave his mark on the planet, in a good way.
But essentially, I'm looking for someone I can talk to and have a connection and mutual understanding with, someone to enjoy traveling through life with. I think physical attraction and sexual compatibility are very important, but they run a close second. I think everyone's looking for emotional and intellectual compatibility first. You need someone you enjoy looking at across the breakfast table, reading the paper with, arguing about politics with, or talking on the phone with.
For now, it's important that you want to try to be friends first. Let's just meet for coffee or a drink to get to know each other, with no expectations. I prefer to start out cool and casual, and after that we can decide if we want to go on a "date." Then let's take it slow. If things are right, the sky's the limit.
P.S. Can I talk about the shy thing again? I've encountered guys who are great on paper -- very charming in their profiles and later in texts and emails -- but very awkward and shy in person. If this is you, you need to admit this to yourself, make it clear in your profile, and then practice being more open when meeting new people. As a person, I have compassion and understanding for you. In a dating situation, I have impatience. It's disheartening to read a nice profile and have good conversations online and then discover that in person, you can't manage to shake my hand when meeting me and can't maintain eye contact, and then I have to figure out how to draw out the personality I thought I saw online. We all have shy and awkward moments, but if that's your usual demeanor, step up to the plate and work on it so you can make it easier for people meeting you. Dating is not magic -- a woman will not suddenly find you worth dating just because you are present. Don't make her do all the work. Let your personality shine through!
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