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I am 49 and a widower for 8 years. Some people consider me the preverbial nice guy. Unfortunately, it seems like nice guys finish last. I still believe in romance, openning doors for my date, giving up my chair for a lady.... I love children but never had an opportunity have any of my own.

I am a very active person who likes to go out and challenge himself. When I have the time I like to mountain and road bike, cross country and downhill ski, and occasionally scuba dive. I am still losing, what I like to refer to as, my widower weight and like to go to the gym.

When anybody needs anything they know they can come to me for help. Sometimes I spread myself too thin, but what the hell, what are friends for.

I am very laid back and my friends tell my nothing seems to phase me. Which is true, it takes a lot to get me angry and rattle my cage. Why be mad when it doesn't change anything, just stresses you out. I love sarcasm and playful banter. If you can't take a joke or are really PC we probably won't get along. I believe everybody should just lighten up and not be afraid to laugh at themselves.

Currently I am just working a lot and trying to advance my career as a programmer and system analyst. For the last few months I have been starting to really push the weight loss and start to strength training so I can get back into competitive powerlifting. Don't get too excited, powerlifters are not the cut pretty boys most people think.

Guess you could say my best asset is my ability to get things done. I am very mechanical and do all my own auto, plumbing, electrical, computer, and you name it type of work.

How happy I always seem to be. It is rare that you see without a smile on my face. I came from poverty and have seen a lot of bad around the world so I know I have much to be grateful for.

My favorite movies are comedies. I also like feel good movies and, I hate to admit this, romantic comedies. But I am open to any type just as long as they are not too depressing.

As for music, it all depends on my mood. When driving home I like to listen to the Sinatra station. When I go out dancing I love 80's retro and old school. For DJ'ing it is Tejano. Live music is my favorite and I like everything from country bands to alternative at the Rave.

Food is not really too important to me. A lot of times it is something I just have to do. But I do love sushi and Italian food. Don't give me a steak because I will probably eat most of the side dishes and take the meat home to my dog. I am a fish and chicken type of person.

If I don't work late I typically go out with my sister and her husband. It is either retro 80's night at the Mad Planet or dinner and drinks at a local restaurant or bar. Maybe see a band if we are up to it.

The guys would give me a very hard time if they found out I watch the Golden Girls.

Please do not be afraid to ask me anything. I am a very open person but not too agressive in these areas.
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