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cypher1

38 M San Francisco, CA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 6:16pm
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Sign
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Technology
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Dislikes dogs
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I'm here to meet men and see what sort of relationships develops. I prefer socializing in small groups or just hanging out with one other person (whether a date or a friend). I enjoy the occasional party or big event, but these days I'm more interested in the sort of conversation where we can get to know each other without shouting over a noisy crowd.

I'm fairly introspective and have spent a lot of the last year or so sorting out what I want from life and what isn't working. I haven't found a definitive answer about what I want (it's never really that simple), but I'm much more comfortable with where I am.

Eventually I want to find a long-term male partner (I'm bi but not looking for a girlfriend- I just felt dishonest setting my orientation to "gay"). But I'm not fixated on finding that immediately.
What I’m doing with my life
I love playing music- I play keyboards well, bass guitar tolerably, and while I own a banjo I can't really claim to play it at all well. Although I'm making a renewed attempt to learn it. I've never been in a serious band that's gotten out of the rehearsal studio, although I do play out with a rather silly comedy band from time to time. I'll leave it at that (I need to have some mystery in this profile to be enticing, right?) I'd like to find more new musical projects, particularly any that write material out of group improvisation.

I love comics (or graphic novels if we're being mildly pretentious) and I've done a lot of researching and writing about comic book history, particularly U.S. comics in the late 30s to the late 40s. Some of my writing is now getting published in print. I have about 30 short articles contributed to a four-volume project that should see print towards the end of 2014.

I work as a software engineer (more specifically a software architect, which will probably only mean something to other software people). I enjoy it and continue to push into new areas, but it's not the main driving force in my life. I try to strike a balance between a good forward-moving career and having enough time to pursue other things like music and writing about comics. And a social life.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Food:

No particular food but when it comes to beverages I love tea! Pretty much all varieties from delicate whites to earthy pu-erhs. I have decided I need to stop buying tea and just drink what I have as I recently realized that I have at least small quantities of about 30 different teas.

Books:

I mostly read comics these days, with a smattering of non-fiction, typically while in airports :-)
Favorite comics include: The Invisibles (Grant Morrison), Watchmen (Alan Moore), Planetary (Warren Ellis), Phonogram (Gillen and McKelvie), Saga (Brian K. Vaughan and Fiona Staples) and various more mainstream superhero guilty pleasures (Marvel has been amazing recently, but I dropped all of DC by the end of the 2nd year of their "New 52" reboot).

Music:

King Crimson (see above comment about group improvisation), Radiohead, David Bowie, The Arcade Fire, Uncle Tupelo, Wilco, Bob Dylan, The Rolling Stones (especially late 60's-early 70's era), The New Pornographers, The National, The Walkmen, The Velvet Underground, Yeah Yeah Yeahs, Lorde, Alabama Shakes, The Black Keys... I tinker with this list every time I edit my profile.
The six things I could never do without
Friends
Music
Reading material of some sort
that's about it, really
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What to do next. The last few years involved a lot of change and instability, and now that I'm in a much more stable and happier place I have a lot more time on my hands. It would certainly be nice to have someone else to spend it with.
On a typical Friday night I am
Sometimes out with friends, and sometimes home reading or working on a project.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I probably have not see whatever movie you think I absolutely *must* have seen. Which doesn't exactly sound "private", but my lack of interest in movies tends to baffle people and create rather awkward conversational dead stops. So I have a tendency to try to smile and nod my way through such references if I think I can get away with it.

BTW, I do watch movies sometimes as a social thing, and think it's a perfectly acceptable date activity. I just rarely will ever think to do so on my own- too many things that I'd rather read.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like guys
  • Ages 34–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating