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44 Rochester, NY Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 30–49
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 3:59pm
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body Type
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
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Freshly 44 years old. Blissfully child-free (and staying that way). Looking for my partner in crime...

I am a bit of a geek. Most days I am looking at cells on my microscope. I also love to read. I have found that neither activity is especially conducive to meeting guys.

I think that food is one of life's great pleasures. I had a pistachio and chocolate croissant from Flour City Bakery last week that was so delicious, I am still thinking about it. Cooking for my friends is one of my favorite activities.

I enjoy being outside and I am not the type of woman who cares if her hair gets wet. I also do not need to put on my "face" before I will leave my house. This is not to say, however, that I don't clean up nicely. Normally I really like to garden but I hardly planted anything this year except lettuce and catnip. At least my cat and I are each getting our greens! Last summer I spent a lot of time at the beach: swimming, reading, and napping. This year, however, the weather has been so chilly that I have not visited as much. I also like walking around Durand Eastman park. They have a great botanical collection, and there are good birds to be seen and cool mushrooms to be discovered. I can always find something new there. I bought a bike last summer and had a fantastic time exploring Rochester. Someday I will escape my car and manage a bike commute to work. I need to master some basics first, however, like patching a flat tire.

Last year I made a friend who helped me rediscover how much I love music. Rochester is such a great town to hear live music and discover local bands. I am looking forward to the all of the concert possibilities that 2015 brings!

What else? Love chewy red wines, bitter beers, movies, pickleball, Words with Friends (though I actually only ever play it with one person and I lose every single time), and my cat. Does anyone in this town play backgammon?
What I’m doing with my life
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Trying to live in the moment and without regret. Acting out of love instead of fear. Pushing my boundaries. Looking for fun.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Chatting up perfect strangers. Finding the needle in the haystack.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Probably my hair because it is short.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I am always reading something. A few of my favorite books include Magician's Assistant, Three Junes, Peace Like a River, Desert Solitaire, Bel Canto, and Zeitoun. I read mostly non-fiction but I squeeze in some fiction occasionally. Currently, I am reading This is the Story of a Happy Marriage by Ann Patchett.

Current favorite shows are Girls, Louie, Nurse Jackie, and True Detective. I really miss the Wire. Movie faves include Flirting with Disaster, Rushmore, Sideways, Dawn of the Dead, Beginners, and Y Tu Mama Tambien. I just watched The Skeleton Twins and now have a major crush on Bill Hader.

Favorite music is much harder to narrow down but I must admit that I love New Wave from the 70's and 80's. I have been a little obsessed with David Byrne after seeing him play with St. Vincent. Three albums that I have been listening to a bit too much lately are Everything That Happens Will Happen Today (Brian Eno and David Byrne), Sea Gold (Beck), and Ok Computer (Radiohead). In my car the radio is set at NPR, WITR, or WBER. I also listen to a lot of podcasts while I am working at my microscope. Savage Love, This American Life, and Fresh Air are my top choices. I just started listening to Serial and I am hoping to get through it before someone blurts out the ending to me!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My sunglasses
Burt's Beeswax lip balm
A great glass of wine
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Ego, non-attachment, mindfulness, and expectations. Also, why must my best matches live in a different state or even worse, another country!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Recovering from the week at home, or out with friends, probably checking out a band.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My first concert was Shaun Cassidy.
You should message me if
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You want to learn more about me.

You are both confident and assertive.

You are a bit unconventional.

I am more likely to reply if you send me a message first. I have noticed that many okc men say that they won't message a woman they like because they think that our mailboxes are already overflowing and they don't want to burden us with a single extra message. Um, why do you think we are on OKC? I read all of my messages. If I am interested, you will definitely hear from me. If I am not interested, however, I probably will not reply. I am not trying to be rude. It is only because I have received some really nasty messages from men to whom I have politely said "thanks but no thanks."

Profile pictures that actually include your face are a necessity. And no, I don't want you to send me your picture via text!

Also, when I am interested in someone, I would rather meet sooner than later. I have learned that online chemistry does not necessarily translate into real-life chemistry. Plus, I am just lousy at small talk with strangers via the web. Life is short. Let's meet for a beverage and see what's what.