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cyto41

43 F Rochester, NY

I’m looking for

  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 30–49
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 1:07pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism
Sign
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Medicine
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Looking for that elusive thing called chemistry...

I am a bit of a geek. Most days I am looking at cells on my microscope. I also love to read. Perhaps these are not great ways to meet men?

I think that food is one of life's great pleasures. I especially love to cook for my friends. Cooking for multiples is always more fun than cooking for just one person. I find that I really enjoy reading about cooking, food, and wine. I look forward to every new issue of Food and Wine in my mailbox. I have been experimenting with baking my own bread, mostly because I can't find many breads that I like at the store. Plus I have found that kneading dough is very therapeutic.

I enjoy being outside and I am not the type of woman who cares if her hair gets wet. I also do not need to put on my "face" before I will leave my house. This is not to say, however, that I don't clean up nicely. Normally I really like to garden but I hardly planted anything this year except lettuce and catnip. Thus, my cat and I are each getting our greens. Last summer I spent a lot of time at the beach swimming, reading, and napping. This year, however, the weather has been so chilly that I have not visited yet. I also like walking around Durand Eastman park. They have a great botanical collection, and there are good birds to be seen and cool mushrooms to be discovered. I can always find something new there. I bought a bike last summer and had a fantastic time exploring Rochester. Someday I will escape my car and manage a bike commute to work. I need to master some basics first, however, like patching a flat tire.

Last year I made a friend who helped me rediscover how much I love music. Rochester is such a great town to hear live music and find new bands! My favorite recent local shows were Televisionaries and Harmonica Lewinski.

What else? Love chewy red wines, bitter beers, movies, pickleball, Words with Friends (though I actually only ever play it with one person and I lose every single time), and my cats. I compost like a champ. Does anyone in this town play backgammon?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying to live in the moment and without regret. Acting out of love instead of fear. Pushing my boundaries. Looking for fun.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Chatting up perfect strangers.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Probably my hair because it is short.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I am always reading something. A few of my favorite books include Magician's Assistant, Three Junes, Peace Like a River, Desert Solitaire, and Bel Canto. I read mostly non-fiction but I squeeze in some fiction occasionally. Currently, I am reading Knitting Yarns: Writers on Knitting. I have been knitting a baby blanket for my niece since she was in the womb. She just turned eight in February. Hopefully I can finish that sucker before she leaves for college.

Current favorite shows are Girls, Louie, and True Detective. I really miss the Wire. Movie faves include Flirting with Disaster, Rushmore, Sideways, Dawn of the Dead, Beginners, and Y Tu Mama Tambien. The last movie I watched was a documentary about the movie critic, Roger Ebert, who recently died of cancer. Wow. Talk about living in the moment and finding joy in one's life despite physical suffering.

Favorite music is much harder to narrow down but I must admit that I love New Wave from the 70's and 80's. I have been a little obsessed with David Byrne after seeing him play this summer with St. Vincent. I just saw the Fleshtones perform and they are one of my new faves. In my car, the radio is set at either NPR or WBER. I also listen to a lot of podcasts while I am working at my microscope. This American Life, The New Yorker: Fiction, PRI Selected Shorts, and Savage Love are top selections of mine.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Books
My sunglasses
Burt's Beeswax lip balm
A great glass of wine
Music
Sleep
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Ego, non-attachment, mindfulness, and expectations. I read a few books by Eckhart Tolle last year so these things are on my mind.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Recovering from the week at home, or out with friends, probably checking out a band.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
If you really want to know, check out my answers to the okc questions...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You want to learn more.

You are a bit unconventional.

I am more likely to reply if you send me a message first. I have noticed that many okc men say that they won't message a woman they like because they think that our mailboxes are already overflowing and they don't want to burden us with a single extra message. Um, why do you think we are on OKC? I read all of my messages. If I am interested, you will definitely hear from me. If I am not interested, however, I probably will not reply. This is only because I have received some really nasty messages from men to whom I have politely said "thanks but no thanks".

Also, when i am interested in someone, I would rather meet sooner than later. I have learned that online chemistry does not necessarily translate into real-life chemistry. Life is short. Let's meet for a beverage and see what's what.