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36 Brooklyn, NY Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 28–38
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 3:50am
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body type
Strictly vegetarian
Graduated from university
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), German (Okay), Spanish (Okay), Japanese (Poorly), French (Poorly)
My self-summary
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A complex world demands complex ideas. Reason is great for understanding the natural world, but terrible for understanding people; we all live in collections of stories we use to make sense of the world, and we need those stories to fulfill ourselves. It also helps to laugh at and poke fun at everything, even the hard and painful stuff, as we keep learning about everything we can.

I have a lot of deep intellectual commitments to semi-obscure stances on things most people don't care about (political, philosophical, art, scientific) and there are many things in common culture that people seem to care about a lot where I don't really care at all. I'm happy to talk about and explain my mental world, and would hopefully like to learn about yours too, even though I'm normally pretty shy.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I program as a profession and a hobby. I sometimes teach small classes on programming. In the evenings, I often go to events at museums or scientific societies, occasionally to philosophy or current events meetups. On the weekends I usually spend considerable time in a coffeeshop, perhaps visit a museum, make a day trip to Philly, or visit family in Boston.

In the past I did neuroscience research (still interested, decided not to make it the focus of my career). I'm also interested in Bioinformatics. If I were starting it all over again, I'd probably be a researcher in mechanisms of cellular differentiation and/or aging.

I sometimes jog or go to a climbing gym, and I'd love to have someone to go hiking/camping with occasionally.

I'm not in it for the money (but don't do bad on that front), nor the power or position. I just want a comfortable life, continual exposure to neat ideas and opportunities to learn, and suitable companionship.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Deciding what kinds of idealism to shed and what to keep. Meaning I'm at least decisive and can offer good reasons for my decisions; it doesn't mean that everyone would like them. I've learned that if one doesn't explain and advocate one's stances enough, one easily ends up looking like a bad person, and while I try to do good things (by my complex notions of good), I more hope to be reasonable and respected than necessarily liked.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books (Fiction) - Authors:
Murakami, Kundera, Ken Macleod, Lukyaneko

Books (Nonfiction)
Theory of Justice, (Neuroscience textbooks), Preconditions of Socialism, Plato's Republic, the Muqadimmah. They're not books, but I also spend a lot of time reading academic journals on select sciences and current events.

Vertigo, Le Dîner de Cons, Brazil, Naked Lunch, City of Lost Children

QI, House of Cards (the original British one), MST3k, Yes Minister, Once Upon a Time, ST:DS9, Last Week Tonight

Katzenjammer, Fiona Apple, Firewater, Die Prinzen, VNV Nation, DeVotchKa, Amsterdam Klezmer Band, Danny Elfman, Bad Religion

Paneer Makhani, Saag Paneer, Samosa, Fondue, Hummus, Red Curry Tofu, Avocado Rolls. I also like Veggie Burritos, and ..

Jim Gaffigan, Sarah Silverman, Frankie Boyle, Iliza Schlesinger
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Writing material, a very smart phone to organise my life, a good laptop, comfortable shoes, showers, modern medicine
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Cell differentiation and pluripotency. Nature of cognition. Political systems. Philosophy. Also a lot of silly stuff, and occasionally dark and disturbing stuff too.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Possibly sitting in a park somewhere, possibly at a meetup, maybe just sitting at home looking out the window, or reading somewhere.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Not private, but...

I'm pretty introverted. I don't make friends easily.

Also, while I'm liberal and bisexual and I care about justice and the public good, I don't get along with "social justice" interpretations of liberalism. This may seem overbroad if you don't know exactly what I'm talking about (consider the words "tolerate" versus "validate"). It's just the tip of the iceberg in terms of my views; I can criticise Analytic philosophy until the cows come home (and my criticisms would probably help the cows get to sleep; they're not exactly mooooving).

Maybe to put it another way:
I'm vegetarian, but not "culturally vegetarian", socialist but not "culturally socialist" (or even really "culturally liberal"), bisexual but not into BIGALA culture, and so on. Culturally I'm pretty darned centrist, and my family has both conservative and liberal parts and I don't think the parts that I disagree with are monstrous. Whatever your stance, if you make stupid criticisms of "the other side", I'll probably chide you for it every single time. This often annoys people all over the political spectrum.
You should message me if
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This profile is mostly about a children-aiming long-term relationship with a woman; I may be open to other things until I find that, but that's what I want the most; if you want something else and you want it with me, be upfront about it and we'll see if there's mutual interest in making it happen.

I'm also not ashamed to be here - I see it as being like LinkedIn, but for romance, and this is kind of like a resume+statement of what I'm looking for. It'd be great to meet someone "accidentally" in my everyday life, but that hasn't happened yet.

Atheist-or-agnostic (secular jewish is ok)
In reasonable shape
Generally liberal (moderate socialists ok)
Intelligent (the more the better)
Reasonably assertive
Ok with cats
Read books. Into learning
Not Conservative/Libertarian/LessWrong
Not into Critical Theory/Foucault/intersectionality

I don't like the constraints of traditional gender-roles (in the bedroom or elsewhere) but am into monogamy. GGG if you're into that, but if you're completely vanilla that's fine (I care much more about companionship).