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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 28-38
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 9:48am
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
6' 1" (1.85m)
Body Type
Average build
Special Diet
Doesn’t have kids but wants them
Has cats
English (Fluently), German (Somewhat), Spanish (Somewhat), Japanese (Somewhat), French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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(I live in Brooklyn, but due to my job, I'm often in SF)

Quirky and shy intellectual with scholastic and philosophical roots. I spend a lot of time crafting my mental world, and if you do the same I'd like to hear about it. I spend my serious time thinking about programming and science and philosophy and law. I balance that out with gallows humour, bad puns, and absurdism, and sometimes I like to people-watch or sit in the woods (which was much easier before I moved to NYC).

I range from gloomy to energetic, and I try to be supportive and kind even though I don't think society should always prioritise that (particularly with words) - I hope people hold on to their beliefs and their comfort even when those disturb other people, and it needs to be okay in every sense to do that.
What I’m doing with my life
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I program as a profession and a hobby. I sometimes teach small classes on this. In the evenings, I often go to events at museums or scientific societies, occasionally to philosophy meetups. On the weekends I usually spend considerable time in a coffeeshop, perhaps visit a museum, make a day trip to Philly, or visit family in Boston.

In the past I did neuroscience research (still interested, decided not to make it the focus of my career). I'm also interested in Bioinformatics. If I were starting it all over again, I'd probably be a researcher in mechanisms of cellular differentiation and/or aging.

I sometimes jog or go to a climbing gym, and I'd love to have someone to go hiking/camping with occasionally.

I'm not in it for the money (but don't do bad on that front), nor the power or position. I just want a comfortable life, continual exposure to neat ideas and opportunities to learn, and suitable companionship. Respect would be nice too.
I’m really good at
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Teaching (I hope). Or in general explaining things.

I see myself as a philosopher - I define words differently and use different ways of thinking than most people do on a lot of issues. I try to open people up to different ways of thinking about just about everything.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books (Fiction) - Authors:
Murakami, Kundera, Ken Macleod, Rushdie

Books (Nonfiction)
Theory of Justice, (Neuroscience textbooks), Preconditions of Socialism, Plato's Republic, the Muqadimmah. They're not books, but I also spend a lot of time reading academic journals on select sciences and current events.

Vertigo, Le Dîner de Cons, Brazil, Naked Lunch, City of Lost Children

QI, House of Cards (the original British one), MST3k, Yes Minister, Once Upon a Time, ST:DS9, Last Week Tonight

Katzenjammer, Fiona Apple, Firewater, Die Prinzen, VNV Nation, Amsterdam Klezmer Band, Danny Elfman, Bad Religion, Vienna Teng

Paneer Makhani, Saag Paneer, Samosa, Fondue, Hummus, Red Curry Tofu, Avocado Rolls. I also like Veggie Burritos, and ..

Jim Gaffigan, Sarah Silverman, Frankie Boyle, Iliza Schlesinger
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Writing material, a very smart phone to organise my life, a good laptop, comfortable shoes, showers, modern medicine.

Travel I try to do yearly
*DragonCon - Every September
*Camping or Hiking - I hope to fit a trip in every year, even if it's a weekend trip
*Visit my sisters and my nephews (usually in Cleveland or Boston)

I'd like to travel a bit more often
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Cell differentiation and pluripotency. Nature of cognition. Political systems. Philosophy. Also plenty of absolutely absurd things, to keep my mind off of depressing things.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Possibly sitting in a park somewhere, possibly at a meetup, maybe just sitting at home looking out the window, or reading somewhere.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm not a private person so I'll use this for potential drawbacks(!).

I'm pretty introverted. I don't make friends easily and I don't have any skill at flirting; there are generally gaps of years between my dating people.

I write a lot about everything, in various places on the internet.

My politics (what policies I want in place) are a mix of (mostly) socialist and (some) libertarian ideas, with a preference for a strong and effective state and a belief that words and jokes are not potentially genuinely oppressive. I usually vote Democrat, but I'm culturally pretty moderate (my family is all over the map politically, racially, and so on). I usually dislike activists of every flavour (but I occasionally go to marches for causes I believe in). I identify more with the socialist parts of the "Old Left" than any part of the "New Left", and my notions of justice (including thoughts on feminism) are much more aligned with the Second Wave than the Third Wave.

I'm not shy about making fun of people behind their back (for pretty much anything), even people I like, but I'll generally be polite to their face. I will make fun of or joke about absolutely anything, and I'm a bit contrarian.
You should message me if
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My preferred relationship style is fairly close; I don't have many friends and am pretty introverted, but the few friends I have I want to have amazing conversations with. For a life partner I want someone I wouldn't get bored spending most of my social energy on - best friend, lover, learning partner, and someone to poke fun when I'm being unreasonable. I want my partner to be an equal in the relationship.

Atheist-or-agnostic (secular jewish would be cool)
In reasonable shape
Open minded about politics (we don't need to agree, we just need to handle disagreement well)
Intelligent (the more the better)
Reasonably assertive
Ok with cats
Read books. Into learning
Not Conservative/Libertarian/LessWrong
Not into Critical Theory/Foucault/intersectionality

I don't like the constraints of traditional gender-roles (in the bedroom or elsewhere) but am into monogamy. GGG if you're into that, but if you're completely vanilla that's fine (I care much more about companionship).

I have this fantasy of growing old with someone and sitting on a porch on a rainy day watching the storm, heading out into the wet wind to dance with them as it pours down. Maybe that could be you.