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37 Brooklyn, NY Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 28–38
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Online now!
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Strictly vegetarian
Graduated from university
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), German (Okay), Spanish (Okay), Japanese (Poorly), French (Poorly)
My self-summary
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Quirky and shy intellectual with scholastic and philosophical roots terrified of but looking for love. I spend a lot of time crafting my mental world, and if you do the same I'd like to hear about yours too. I spend my serious time thinking about programming and science and philosophy and law. I balance that out with gallows humour, bad puns, and absurdism, and sometimes I like to people-watch or sit in the woods (which was much easier before I moved to NYC).
What I’m doing with my life
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I program as a profession and a hobby. I sometimes teach small classes on this. In the evenings, I often go to events at museums or scientific societies, occasionally to philosophy meetups. On the weekends I usually spend considerable time in a coffeeshop, perhaps visit a museum, make a day trip to Philly, or visit family in Boston.

In the past I did neuroscience research (still interested, decided not to make it the focus of my career). I'm also interested in Bioinformatics. If I were starting it all over again, I'd probably be a researcher in mechanisms of cellular differentiation and/or aging.

I sometimes jog or go to a climbing gym, and I'd love to have someone to go hiking/camping with occasionally.

I'm not in it for the money (but don't do bad on that front), nor the power or position. I just want a comfortable life, continual exposure to neat ideas and opportunities to learn, and suitable companionship.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Deciding what kinds of idealism to shed and what to keep. Meaning I'm at least decisive and can offer good reasons for my decisions; it doesn't mean that everyone would like them. I've learned that if one doesn't explain and advocate one's stances enough, one easily ends up looking like a bad person, and while I try to do good things (by my complex notions of good), I more hope to be reasonable and respected than necessarily liked.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books (Fiction) - Authors:
Murakami, Kundera, Ken Macleod, Lukyaneko

Books (Nonfiction)
Theory of Justice, (Neuroscience textbooks), Preconditions of Socialism, Plato's Republic, the Muqadimmah. They're not books, but I also spend a lot of time reading academic journals on select sciences and current events.

Vertigo, Le Dîner de Cons, Brazil, Naked Lunch, City of Lost Children

QI, House of Cards (the original British one), MST3k, Yes Minister, Once Upon a Time, ST:DS9, Last Week Tonight

Katzenjammer, Fiona Apple, Firewater, Die Prinzen, VNV Nation, DeVotchKa, Amsterdam Klezmer Band, Danny Elfman, Bad Religion

Paneer Makhani, Saag Paneer, Samosa, Fondue, Hummus, Red Curry Tofu, Avocado Rolls. I also like Veggie Burritos, and ..

Jim Gaffigan, Sarah Silverman, Frankie Boyle, Iliza Schlesinger
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Writing material, a very smart phone to organise my life, a good laptop, comfortable shoes, showers, modern medicine
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Cell differentiation and pluripotency. Nature of cognition. Political systems. Philosophy. Also plenty of absolutely absurd things, to keep my mind off of depressing things.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Possibly sitting in a park somewhere, possibly at a meetup, maybe just sitting at home looking out the window, or reading somewhere.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Not private, but...

I'm pretty introverted. I don't make friends easily and I don't have any skill at flirting; there are generally gaps of years between my dating people.

I write a lot about everything, in various places on the internet.

My politics (what policies I want in place) are a mix of (mostly) socialist and (some) libertarian ideas. I usually vote Democrat, but I'm culturally pretty moderate (my family is all over the map politically, racially, and so on). I usually dislike activists of every flavour (but I occasionally go to marches for causes I believe in). I'm not shy about making fun of people behind their back (for pretty much anything), even people I like, but I'll generally be polite to their face. I will make fun of or joke about absolutely anything. This is a cultural thing and I'm not from part of our broader culture that's ashamed of it.
You should message me if
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This profile is mostly about a children-aiming long-term relationship with a woman; I may be open to other things until I find that, but that's what I want the most; if you want something else and you want it with me, be upfront about it and we'll see if there's mutual interest in making it happen.

I'm also not ashamed to be here - I see it as being like LinkedIn, but for romance, and this is kind of like a resume+statement of what I'm looking for. It'd be great to meet someone "accidentally" in my everyday life, but that hasn't happened recently.

If you're into yoga, I'll judge you. Not a disqualifier, but it seems new-agey in some forms, depressingly spiritual in another, and disgusting in the case of Bikram. If you're wary of spirituality and are just in it for the exercise though, I'd be cool with that. Oh, and I expect you'll be judgeing me on all sorts of things too, that's just part of how people think and live.

Atheist-or-agnostic (secular jewish would be cool)
In reasonable shape
Open minded about politics
Intelligent (the more the better)
Reasonably assertive
Ok with cats
Read books. Into learning
Not Conservative/Libertarian/LessWrong
Not into Critical Theory/Foucault/intersectionality

I don't like the constraints of traditional gender-roles (in the bedroom or elsewhere) but am into monogamy. GGG if you're into that, but if you're completely vanilla that's fine (I care much more about companionship).

I have this fantasy of growing old with someone and sitting on a porch on a rainy day watching the storm, heading out into the wet wind to dance with them as it pours down. Maybe that could be you.