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My self-summary
(I'm in SF Jan-Feb for job things. I ordinarily live in Brooklyn)

Quirky and shy intellectual with scholastic and philosophical roots. I spend a lot of time crafting my mental world, and if you do the same I'd like to hear about it. I spend my serious time thinking about programming and science and philosophy and law. I balance that out with gallows humour, bad puns, and absurdism, and sometimes I like to people-watch or sit in the woods (which was much easier before I moved to NYC).

I range from gloomy to energetic, and I try to be supportive and kind even though I don't think society should always prioritise that (particularly with words) - I hope people hold on to their beliefs and their comfort even when those disturb other people, and it needs to be okay in every sense to do that.
What I’m doing with my life
I program as a profession and a hobby. I sometimes teach small classes on this. In the evenings, I often go to events at museums or scientific societies, occasionally to philosophy meetups. On the weekends I usually spend considerable time in a coffeeshop, perhaps visit a museum, make a day trip to Philly, or visit family in Boston.

In the past I did neuroscience research (still interested, decided not to make it the focus of my career). I'm also interested in Bioinformatics. If I were starting it all over again, I'd probably be a researcher in mechanisms of cellular differentiation and/or aging.

I sometimes jog or go to a climbing gym, and I'd love to have someone to go hiking/camping with occasionally.

I take a lot of long walks. It's a big part of my way of life - how I think, how I keep my head together, and how I come to understand new places.

I'm not in it for the money (but don't do bad on that front), nor the power or position. I just want a comfortable life, continual exposure to neat ideas and opportunities to learn, and suitable companionship. Respect would be nice too.
I’m really good at
Teaching (I hope). Or in general explaining things.

I see myself as a philosopher - I define words differently and use different ways of thinking than most people do on a lot of issues. I try to open people up to different ways of thinking about just about everything.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books (Fiction) - Authors:
Murakami, Kundera, Ken Macleod, Rushdie

Books (Nonfiction)
Theory of Justice, (Neuroscience textbooks), Preconditions of Socialism, Plato's Republic, the Muqadimmah. They're not books, but I also spend a lot of time reading academic journals on select sciences and current events.

Vertigo, Le Dîner de Cons, Brazil, Naked Lunch, City of Lost Children

QI, House of Cards (the original British one), MST3k, Yes Minister, Once Upon a Time, ST:DS9, Last Week Tonight

Katzenjammer, Fiona Apple, Firewater, Die Prinzen, VNV Nation, Amsterdam Klezmer Band, Danny Elfman, Bad Religion, Vienna Teng

Paneer Makhani, Saag Paneer, Samosa, Fondue, Hummus, Red Curry Tofu, Avocado Rolls. I also like Veggie Burritos, and ..

Jim Gaffigan, Sarah Silverman, Frankie Boyle, Iliza Schlesinger
The six things I could never do without
Writing material, a very smart phone to organise my life, a good laptop, comfortable shoes, showers, modern medicine.

Travel I try to do yearly
*DragonCon - Every September
*Camping or Hiking - I hope to fit a trip in every year
*Visit my sisters and my nephews (usually in Cleveland or Boston)

I'd like to travel a bit more often
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Cell differentiation and pluripotency. Nature of cognition. Political systems. Philosophy. Also plenty of absolutely absurd things, to keep my mind off of depressing things.
On a typical Friday night I am
Possibly sitting in a park somewhere, possibly at a meetup, maybe just sitting at home looking out the window, or reading somewhere.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm not a private person.

I'm pretty introverted. I don't make friends easily and I don't have any skill at flirting; there are generally gaps of years between my dating people.

I write a lot about everything, in various places on the internet.

My politics (what policies I want in place) are a mix of (mostly) socialist and (some) libertarian ideas, with a preference for a strong and effective state and a belief that words and jokes are not potentially genuinely oppressive. I usually vote Democrat, but I'm culturally pretty moderate (my family is all over the map politically, racially, and so on). I usually dislike activists of every flavour (but I occasionally go to marches for causes I believe in). I identify more with the socialist parts of the "Old Left" than any part of the "New Left", and my notions of justice (including thoughts on feminism) are much more aligned with the Second Wave than the Third Wave.

All this means that I support labour rights, legal and labour equality for both genders and all races, and a strong set of social services, but I oppose identity movements. I want a strong socialist left with many of the social justice movements excluded.
You should message me if
I dread the situation of needing to tell someone that I don't find them physically attractive. If you're going to open the conversation (and you probably should as I'm kinda shy and rarely do) please have pics on your profile that show you sufficiently well that I can tell if I'm attracted.

What I want from a relationship:
An equal
Who is very intelligent and reasonably assertive
Whom I find attractive (in decent shape, not fat)
Fitting a few musts (atheist/agnostic, monogamous, you read things)
Who wants to spend a lot of time together
With lots of conversations
And sex
Who also wants to explore life together (science! philosophy! other ideas!)
And where we're not going to judge each other too harshly for our views (I don't get along well with SJWs or Libertarians, and my partner would need to be able to accept that I have some strong views that alternatively would bother liberals or conservatives)
And who appreciates absurd humour and silly puns
And someone who feels that gender is just about genetics and maybe body shape, not about hobbies (I knit) or roles in the workplace or who should lead in a relationship

I'm pretty chill on most things in life (to the point of being indecisive), but incredibly stubborn with those views. I also am dismissive of things that contrast with a science-based view of determining what is true. Where science is silent, I tend to apply (Continental-flavoured) philosophy.

I have this fantasy of growing old with someone and sitting on a porch on a rainy day watching the storm, heading out into the wet wind to dance with them as it pours down. Maybe that could be you.