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45 M Philadelphia, PA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 8:43am
White, Other
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Full figured
Judaism, and laughing about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from Ph.D program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Has dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
I don't fit neatly into boxes (who does?). I define myself as queer. I'm also deeply kind, loyal, and compassionate. I'm a parent. I believe in the Oxford comma. I'm also a feminist, a Marxist, anti-racist, and cute.
What I’m doing with my life
I am currently living in a state of change. My life is a ready to be painted anew. I have two amazing kids that I parent, I have amazing students that I teach at a wonderful university, and I have amazing friends and family who sustain me in both wonderful and difficult times. I try to give back what they have given me recently. I'd like to find someone to share that life with, a partner. I'm ready.
I’m really good at
Filling out OKC profiles.
The first things people usually notice about me
My femminess, my softness, the depth of my eyes, my fuzzy head and face, my belly, my kindness (I hope).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I eat good food, drink good coffee, beer, and wine, listen to good music, read good books, and watch good TV and good movies. Doesn't everyone?
Here's some music I love:
The six things I could never do without
My children (that's one and two), my sisters (that's three and four), my parents (that's five and six), and pillows, lots of pillows (that's seven through twenty-one, at least).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How I got here, where I want to go next, and how to get there. How to be a better parent. How to live life true to my politics (Marxist, feminist, anti-racist, queer), my passions (music, philosophy, gender, sexuality, books), my communities (families, friends), and my beliefs (compassion, kindness, justice, power and respect, and compassion (again)).
On a typical Friday night I am
These days, putting the kids to bed then either watching TV in bed, going to sleep early, or, if there's a baby-sitter, going out with a friend for an early beer.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My life is not what I thought it would be a mere two and a half years ago, but I'll make it even more amazing than I imagined possible.

I have Tourette's Syndrome. No, I don't go around cursing at people. It's actually rather cute, if you pick up on it.

I've recently come to realize that voice is incredibly important to me in attraction. What someone sounds like can really make me hot. Or not.

I'm attracted to people of all genders and all sexualities. I happen to have a huge thing for people who don't fit neatly into gender boxes. I'm a queer attracted to queerness. Just sayin'. I'm equally attracted to "traditionally" gendered people. Don't go away just cause you're not queer.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi guys
  • Ages 32–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You think I'm cute and interesting. You're interested in a date and seeing where it goes.