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38 Pittsburgh, PA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 32–42
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 8:10pm
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, C++ (Okay), LISP (Poorly), Other (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm not an easy person to put "in a nutshell", so rather than try, I think I'll just list some facts about me, in no particular order.
- I enjoy meaningful conversation. Chit-chat disinterests me.
- I'm not into "internet dating"; this profile is here for the purpose of introducing myself so that we might meet & get to know each other IN PERSON. (I know, crazy idea, right?)
- I purposefully try to refrain from making the first move with men that I'm interested in. I'm often not as successful at this as I'd like to be.
- I travel out of the country (for pleasure, not work) at least once per year.
- My greatest accomplishments to date are launching my career before finishing my first degree and completing my second degree while working full time.
- I'm a sport motorcycle (rice burner) rider.
- For over a decade now, I have chosen to not have cable/satellite.
- I vastly prefer drive-ins to traditional movie theaters
- I own a revolver and enjoy shooting many different kinds of firearms.
- I'm new to Pittsburgh, but have lived in the region for many years.
- I value having life experiences over having material possessions.
- I am almost never deterred from doing something I want to do just because no one is available to do it with me.
- I have always been able to count on my ability to land on my feet.
- I consider myself to be a bit of a country girl, and I embrace my southern heritage.
- My appearance is usually WYSIWYG: no makeup, no untouchable hair-do, no haute couture -- I like to look the way I do without even trying.
- I belong to an international club of half-minds and a national club of eggheads.
- I speak Pig Latin well enough to get by, but I speak sarcasm fluently.
- I dive, both underwater and out of airplanes.
- I'd like to become more of a gym-rat and/or find more opportunity to go play (run/bike/swim/whatever) outside.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
- Enjoying the hell out of the wonderfully loving and open relationship I have with Southern_Robert
- Working hard at an exciting and very challenging job
- Continuing to focus on career development
- Getting out of town to most weekends for big group camping trips & other social events held all over the East coast, and sometimes OH, LA and TX
- Making small, intermittent strides toward preparing my house (in WV) for sale
- Settling into my new townhome.
- Writing about my OkC experience (but not the in-person meetings) on a non-publicized blog.
- Meeting new people and making some good friends. (People who are open and honest with me -- even when they have something that's not "nice" to say -- tend to be my closest friends.)
- Enjoying and seeking change. A friend once said that the only constant in my life is change. Even though that statement was made in frustration, there's a lot of truth in it. For me, change is exciting; routine is boring.
If you're wondering why I'm making all of this mention of friends and why I'm not talking about what kind of guy I'm looking to date, then you probably should move on. I'm interested in people who want a real friendship, first and foremost.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
- Listening
- Accepting
- Adapting
- Challenging myself
- Trying new things
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I've been told by some that my eyes are one of the first things they notice about me. Others remark on my smile. They mention words like "glowing", "warm", "energetic", "alive".
On the less flattering end of the spectrum, I've also heard that I can be seen as intimidating. I've never quite understood this. Perhaps from their perspective this sense of intimidation results from a combination of fierce independence, self-expression and strength of will that shows through more strongly in me than in most other women.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Wow, hard to answer this tastes are incredibly varied, so the lists would tend to roll on too long. How about a few favorite categories of each?
(Fiction) King, Moore, Palahniuk
(Nonfiction) relationships, sexuality, personal growth
Movies: independent, critically-acclaimed, mind-bending, visually stunning, thought-provoking, quick-wit dialogues, quirky humor
Music: anything but classical (it's ok, I just can't seem to properly appreciate it)
Food: spicy, exotic, savory, novel, all varieties of noodles and mushrooms (never met a kind of either of those two things that I didn't like)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Friends, sleep, food, water, shelter, laughs
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
...what I want and need out of life, and how in the world I'm going to get everything I want to do accomplished.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
...out of town (often out-of-state) enjoying my weekend!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
- My Kinsey scale rating is not zero, but my heart is straight.
- My sense of attraction to others is quirky and disappointingly narrow; those I am attracted to rarely realize the true size of the crowd from which they stand out. My selectivity is driven much more involuntarily (by nature) than voluntarily (by choice).
- I am quick to feel love for others, and I still get crushes.
- "The One" is no more real than Santa Claus or the Easter Bunny. It is quite arguably the most harmful fictional entity in which one can believe.
- The conventional approach to LTRs (i.e. exclusivity, cohabitation, shared property, commingled finances, marriage, kids and such) is a recipe for destruction. As a result, I strive to have only unconventional relationships in which the commitments made to one another are honesty, communication and quality time. Anything else that happens to work in the relationship is gravy. Because I'm open to having these kinds of relationships, I'm not limited to a life that can be seen as a series of discoveries that the current one-and-only is not "the one". Instead, I get to share my life with as many wonderful and special people as I can find, right now. My life is decidedly not on hold pending discovery of a mythical Mr. Right or soul mate. My life is in progress, regardless of who is or isn't part of it.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over. will use correct spelling, grammar and punctuation to the best of your ability to say something meaningful would like to get to know me and you are any or all of the following:
- honest & forthright
- open-minded
- trustworthy
- thrill-seeking
- adventurous
- courageous
- somewhat spontaneous/unpredictable
- relatively uninhibited
- more optimistic than pessimistic
- flirtatious/affectionate
- more tolerant than intolerant
- respectful
- non-judgmental

Also, go ahead and message me if our match rating is over 80%. OkCupid seems to know what they're doing with that.