At fifty-five, I find myself both looking back over where I've been and looking forward to where I'm going. I've done a lot, and I have a lot yet to do, but I find that in many ways I've lived much of my adult life backwards. I went straight from high school into the military and spent thirteen years serving (got out just before the first Gulf War); I married three times and divorced twice during that part of my life, and divorced for the third and final time about a year after I left the military. I spent ten years after that in a relationship I ultimately had to walk away from, but other than having stayed about three years too long, I don't regret it.
I now find, because of where I'm at vis-a-vis education and career, that there's a temporal disconnect between me and (many) people my age, who are my cultural contemporaries, and a cultural disconnect between me and my classmates, who are my intellectual contemporaries. In other words, I'm too old to be a trophy wife or to start a family (even if I wanted to, which I don't); I didn't raise kids of my own / have grandchildren to talk about; I grew up during the Cold War, not the War on Terror; but by the same token I will always and forever prefer Janis Joplin to Katy Perry, and Madonna to Lady Gaga. I'm old enough to have back problems that preclude me from walking very far without a walker (but I'm hell on wheels with one), and young enough to still want to stay up all night drinking beer, talking philosophy, and solving the problems of the world, as long as I don't have to get up and go anywhere the next day!
I'm potentially polyamorous if the situation is right, and definitely bisexual - I judge potential for relationships based on things other than whether one has an 'innie' or an 'outie', and I'm not a woman who prefers men and resorts to women when men are unavailable. Actually, I probably incline more toward women, even though I have had some really wonderful relationships with some really wonderful men that I wouldn't have traded or given up for anything.
I'd prefer to live in a strawbale house on some property, or a Hobbit-hole built into a hill, but I'm not sure how easy one of those would be to find (or build) with access to good public transportation; and, for the most part, I'm a function-over-form kind of gal although I certainly have no objection to spaces and other stuff that answer 'yes' to both of those questions. I'm a bibliophile, a tech addict, and can build and fix my own computers, and really, REALLY have a hard time telling myself to 'wait' when the next big techy thing comes along. I've (so far) managed to deprive myself of an iPad, but that's mostly because I have a smartphone and a Nook Color (with the N2A card 'hack'), which actually works better for me.
Who would I like to meet? Someone who is intellectually curious, has a healthy appreciation for logic, and cares enough about the world that hyacinths for the soul mean making the world a better place; someone whose kink is my kink (see below), but that's not all, or even a majority, of what they are. Someone who believes that function is more important than form and yet appreciates beauty when they find it. Someone who doesn't expect a partner to set aside their own life to accommodate them, and who has a life of their own and doesn't expect to define him/herself through or by a relationship. My life - given the fact that I go to school full time and work as close to full time as I can handle depending on my school workload - can be chaotic at best, but I really AM willing to make time for someone who's willing to make time for me. That's actually one of the things I miss about living in Jersey - dunno if it's an East Coast / West Coast cultural difference or what, but people here in AZ (at least a lot of the people I have met) don't seem to be willing to make the effort / go the extra mile to work around a not-so-normal schedule. Even before I went back to school, I worked nights and weekends and it would take more than both hands to count the number of people I met that weren't interested in dating because I didn't have evenings and weekends off.
Kids are ok - when I say I 'don't want kids', I mean that I don't want to MAKE any, which is probably pretty unlikely by now anyway. Lastly, anyone with an allergy to cats is probably going to have a hard time - I have three of them.
As my tagline says, from my original profile:
I am intellectual, a veteran, and owned by cats. :)