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44 M Barcelona, Spain

My Details

Last Online
Jul 21
6′ 0″ (1.82m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), French (Okay)

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My self-summary
I still remember the first girl I fell in love with. I was 10 and the summer term was about to end; the next year I would start secondary school in a different part of the country. Her name was R and at the farewell concert she sang Leaving on a Jet Plane. I couldn't stop thinking about her all holidays and eventually I told my mother. She suggested I write a postcard, my first love letter.

I admit I kissed a lot of girls at that age and I was particularly susceptible to the charms of A who used to stroke my back during story time. R was in the same year but made no impression on me. I guess she didn't go in for kiss-chase. She didn't play chess either, but that's another story.

I don't remember what changed but from one moment to the next she went from being just another class mate to the most beautiful girl in the world. R had long, straight, brown hair and was very bright. She was friendly and easy-going and was not the least bit interested in me.

My new school was boys only and the routine was long hours of study and sport. I didn't kiss a girl for another six years.

The years went by, slowly ebbing into the present. Love came and went. Now I am alone, but as skittish and hopeful as that long ago summer.
What I’m doing with my life
Having just reread the profile above I should consider a rewrite, but what the heck, maybe R is reading. Right now I'm looking out at an almost full moon thinking it would be an excellent thing to spend many nights beneath it without a roof over head; since for some unknown reason I haven't yet visited the States perhaps it could be there. What I should be doing is another trawl of flats (I'm looking to buy somewhere) or spend some more time returning the unfinished novel to its pristine state.
The first things people usually notice about me
The feather sticking out of my head and the 2 foot red bow tie - useful for being recognised, and avoided if necessary, on a date.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I sometimes think I might have read all the books I'm ever going to truly love but I persevere. I like Shakespeare for complexity, Dickens for his stories, Homer for his scale, Salinger for the parsimony of Franny and Zooey, Fournier for mystery and the eternal search for things out of reach, Stendhal for grand ideas, Tolstoy for brilliant scenes and the long view, Zola for his (and my) morality, Sebald for being different, many modern American writers for believing in what they wrote (Angelou, Morrison, Franzen, Steinbeck, Fitzgerald), Jane Austen and Tom Robbins for being funny. For ideas Jared Diamond, Dawkins and many more. Lincoln for being worth writing about.

I enjoy Wes Anderson for still making films about little things, Fatih Akin for making films that feel like films, Renoir's humanism, the beauty of Les Enfants du Paradis, the energy of Mean Streets, the great comedy actresses of the 40s and 50s, Gene Kelly's dancing, the Italian Realists, Nouvelle Vague and especially Bertolucci for The Conformist.

Music - I'll come back to this but have discovered to my surprise great joy in opera, especially in the works of Mozart which seem to me some of the most optimistic and warming things ever made.

Here we go ten favourites: The Pixies, The Skatalites, Amadou and Miriam, Pulp, Bach, Bright Eyes, Francoise Hardy, Rodriguez, A Tribe Called Quest, Dylan
The six things I could never do without
Chateau d'Yquem (although I've never tried it)
The vastness of the Universe
My parents
Belief in others
A comfortable sofa
On a typical Friday night I am
Trying to perfect the slide across the dance floor from Saturday Night Fever
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Twice rescued by the fire brigade after getting my head stuck in railings. Age undisclosed but once was outside Harrods and they gave me a giant beach ball.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–44
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You don't mind sometimes talking politics after two glasses of wine; may be prepared to take off on an unplanned road trip a week later; can teach me to surf (or sing); can whistle using your fingers; are prepared to finance a life of champagne and writing; will not attempt to eat 100 calçots on a first date.