Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Haha! I just tried to rewrite this and the text I generated seemed
hilariously tailored to repel readers, so I'll try again. If you
really want to see the first try when we know each other better,
I'll show you.
The TL/DR is that I've been struggling with some life-changes, but
I'm winning the fight and I think I'm ready to start building
I live alone for the first time in my life in what I'm surprised to
learn is a clean and orderly apartment. I've got a good job, a warm
heart and a community of friends who seem eager to welcome me back,
even after I ran away from them, so I must be pretty likable. I'm
involved in two nonmonogamous relationships but neither
relationship claims much of my time so there's "room on my dance
Interested? Read on:
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Two words: Self Improvement.
And now a bunch of other words to explain those two:
I'm the kind of person who really needs something to work on,
something to drive me. Most recently, it's been moral psychology.
I'm a big Sam Harris fan (if you've read his Internet blog, don't
judge me too harshly, I know he's a total asshole) and I just
finished Jonathan Haidt's The Righteous Mind. I'm trying to build
my capacity for compassion as well as my moral center and my
community. Muscular bonding? Uh, ok. Lets try it.
My last goal was cycling, but I had to abandon it for the
short-term because of injury. In the not-too-distant past a
distance of three miles was "long," ten miles was "a nightmare" and
twenty miles was unthinkable. But I've got the Seattle to Portland
(200 miles) ride under my belt, and despite the fact that I'm
injured right now and off the bike for the near-future, knowing
I've done that gives me a lot of confidence and pride.
Maybe it won't always be reading, maybe it won't always be cycling,
but I've always got a goal.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
My superpower is that of detachment which allows me to look at an
issue from all sides. This makes me really good at maintaining
relationships because even if I'm angry and you're
"WRONG," I can still take part of my brain, detach it and
and see the disagreement from your side. It also makes me really
good at my programming job because I can completely take a problem
apart and see it in ways nobody else does.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Well, physically speaking, people notice that I make a better wall
than a window (I'm huge). In terms of personality, I'd like to
think people first see me as jovial, open and friendly. Maybe if
you sent me a message you could find out what's the first thing you
notice about me?
-- Too game-y? Probably, but I think I'll keep it. :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
My favorite book is without a doubt, Anansi Boys by Neil Gaiman. In
it, he sets up the idea that stories belong to Anansi, a west
African trickster-god. The reason for this is that stories are all
about problem-solving, finding clever solutions to problems, even
if they sometimes don't work. I think I disagree with Gaiman
slightly that ALL stories are Anansi stories, however. I think some
stories also belong to Mami Wata, goddess of beauty in Anansi's
pantheon. Wata stories are all about painting a picture with words,
evoking a feeling, setting a scene. Sometimes there is
problem-solving as well, but it's secondary to the purpose of
beauty. A good example of a Wata story is Spook Country by William
Gibson and a good example of an Anansi story is Redemption Ark by
My favorite movie is The Life Aquatic with Steve Zissou because
it's a powerful, touching story about chosen-family (chosen family
is really important to me).
Food for me is more about cooking it in a big kitchen with lots of
great people and eating it with even more great people, it's not
the specific type of food.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
This is a pretty melodramatic question, so I'm not going to answer
it. Instead, I'm going to list six things I really enjoy.
* Dinner Parties
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
* NP-Complete problems (don't tell me something is impossible, it
just drives me crazy)
* My next training-ride
* Early textile mills -- How did they work?
* This tongue-camera:
* This compass-belt: http://www.monkeysandrobots.com/hapticcompass
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At my house or someone else's, eating and laughing with good
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm terrified of spiders... Actually, pretty much all arthropods.
My first year of school I had long hair) so I had hair ties lying
around all over my desk. One night, I was goofing off at the
computer (homework? Nah! not me!) and I knocked a hair tie off the
back of the desk and onto my unsuspecting, bare toes.
Terror strikes. SPIDER!!! (notice the change from past to
present tense, it makes the story more immediate, no?)
I get a rush of endorphins to fight (the hair-tie-spider) or flee
(the hair-tie-spider) and I do the sensible thing, I cry out in
fear and spasmodically kick my foot out to fling the spider off --
to no avail!
So then the panic really sets in, and I try it again, harder -- the
hair-tie-spider has my toe in a death-grip.
Before long, I've flung myself away from my desk and I'm sitting in
my chair flailing my foot everywhere, flapping my hands up and down
like I'm going to take flight and screeching in a surprisingly high
pitch given my regular basso-profundo (not really *that* deep, but
a guy can dream). Eventually I run out of juice and notice that
it's a friggen hair tie.
My roommate didn't stop laughing for three days, every time he saw
me. Once, walking up to me in the dorm cafeteria he had to put his
tray on the floor because he'd started laughing so hard he thought
he'd spill something.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
- You want me to join your choir and sing all the stuff we each
remember from high school (I've never been more serious in my
- You want to go out to dinner and chat about cool stuff
- You want to go hiking somewhere fun
- You want to teach me to hang-glide
- You want to go scuba diving
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