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darkRUFFLE

32 Oakland, CA Woman

Woman

I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 27–42
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 9:46pm
Orientation
Gay
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Curvy
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Sign
Cancer
Education
Job
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), Dutch (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
QUEER.

Fancy but actively unrefined.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Singing karaoke, playing piano/guitar, trying to understand people, finding time to go into nature.

I just finished grad school in somatic psychology and am working towards using my skills to facilitate healing on both individual and macro levels, such as interrupting cycles of intergenerational trauma and systemic abuse without systems funneling into neo-liberal, mass incarceration.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
intuition. empathy. emotional depth. making inventive salads. karaoke. spontaneous dance parties.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
A ruffle-collared shirt and a contagious laugh. Not concerned with social graces or keeping up appearances.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
music: Godspeed You! Black Emperor, Submission Hold, !TchKung!,
Discharge Information Systems, Diamanda Galas, Philip Glass,
Santogold, Russian Circles, Explosions in the Sky, Cat Power,
Neutral Milk Hotel, KRS-ONE, Dark Dark Dark, Evangelista

TV: Hex, and it's the only thing I'll watch

fiction: Toni Morrison, Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Michelle Tea, Dorothy
Allison

non-fiction: mind-body psychotherapy, somatic trauma treatment, the transforming power of affect, the cultural politics of sand play therapy, mindfulness and social justice, transformative justice and prison abolition, anarcha-feminism

food: sweet potatoes cooked with kumquats, coconut oil, and lime salt; southern fried tofu burgers; & pisco sours
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
fancy dark chocolate.
my piano.
non-fiction.
passion flower and lemon balm tinctures.
lots of blankets.
headphones for my busted cellphone.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the complexity of relationships, the impact of trauma and ways to heal from it, the class politics of food, how mellow and full my piano sounds, and how beautiful the orange roses are from my bedroom window.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
talking with one of my besties, star gazing in a hot tub, or looking for a dance party.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I carry my toothbrush everywhere and I never miss a night of flossing.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are a tough femme or a shy, sweet, androgynous-genderqueer. I am attracted to all sorts of genders and bodies.

You want to find a new swimming spot, you want to make experimental music in a super low key playful way, you like to cook, you want to make a dance routine, or you want to go to a punk/metal/underground hip hop show with me.

You have radical politics and are pro sex work. Trans-feminism, anti-racism, and anti-imperialism are integral to your queer politics. You are homoemotional and non-normative.