Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
The lightness of being. Isn't that what it's about, balancing what
is light in your life with what is heavy, or what is bright with
what is shadow?
After you pass through the rainforest of my mind's own events, you
will find me teaching college (English literature
) and doing a great deal of
! Life has become a non-stop
eye-opening experience, because of the flood of learning from all
my smart, radiant friends.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Besides being a professor, I am also a fiction
writer and poet
, fancy myself a psychologist, am
relatively witty, can sing a ditty, am prone to sudden rhyming and
will make you guffaw. I am a mix of Hungarian and Colombian (!) and
look pretty young for my age. I like to study the world, especially
through its people (characters). I like the occasional documentary,
interesting comics, operas, ballets, black coffee, dark beer,
excellent food (did I mention that I cook?) and visiting other
cultural cites and countries (last summer I went to Spain). In
particular, the works of Henry James
and Milan Kundera
Mahler and Holst; U2
and Bjork. I am quite rational-minded and detest prejudice in all
its forms. I seem to have, at first unconsciously, picked up a
somewhat anti-consumerist attitude. That is, it has become
increasingly easy to see not only how a capitalist culture gets in
the way of ethical progress but also how much happier you can be
once you build up an immunity to buying "the new thing" and let
yourself be satisfied from the wonder of the human. I try to
immerse myself in the minds of those I know and love.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
It would be nice to find people to explore the intense culture that
nyc offers, from independent film to museums to musical events to
excellent village eats, bar hopping, dancing, a more
jeans-and-artsy kind of night--my personality has many sides, and
is eager to learn. If you are coming into NYC from somewhere else
and want to meet for a little while, that's fine too. More
specifically: I am looking for intelligent women, and the
possibility of romantic attachments. I dislike labels, but I'll
toss some out so that we can actually communicate here: I have been
attracted to hippies, academics, people who want art but are living
repressed lives, writers, actors, and serene people. Over the years
I've realized that the best women for me have what I call a "poetic
sensibility." Also, I believe that a fully realized love is
non-jealous and non-possessive, and can only exist where you give
up the idea of 'owning' your partner(s) in any way. Therefore, you
should be fine with just dating freely or having an open
, though that can still become quite serious and
include being committed to each other. If you know about the
philosophy of polyamory
, that's even better (perhaps
you too realize how many of our social problems are due to
metaphors of possession
Oh, I like taking trips, and have a lot of free time in the summer.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Superstitiously fair skin. My eternal youth (which 'shall not
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
BOOKS The Unbearable
Lightness of Being
MUSIC U2; Bjork; Pixies; Radiohead; grunge; some trance; celtic;
classical; newish opera
; and more.
I also like Science Fiction (Battlestar Galactica) and playing
strategy board games. In fact, I'm a bit obsessed with games (not
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Atmosphere, Writing, Love, Language, Memory, You
A great cocktail doesn't hurt either :)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
A crowded calvacade of work-to-dos, a certain twist of a pretty
line, an impossible social problem.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
, trying to find a date to go to a show or dance event
with, wining or beering it up with friends and lovers who are the
joys of life.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Hmm, humph, well: I have extraordinarly little chest hair.
You should message me if
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I'm mostly interested in local connections. If you are far away,
only write me if you are considering visiting NYC sometime very
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