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43 • Chico, CA • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 30–48
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
- Last online
- Mar 28
- 5′ 8″ (1.73m)
- Body type
- Christianity, but not too serious about it
- Space camp
- Has kids, and might want more
- Has dogs and has cats
But I assure you that if you get to know me you will see that my profile is honestly who I am. This is not me putting on my best face, but my true face. And I'm not going to jump through any hoops to date you. I can't be taller, childless or funnier; cause I'm hilarious. If it doesn't look like we match in important ways, then I wish you the best, but please move on.
I think I need to apologize. Based on one of the most common themes I read in many profiles, it seems that as a male I am supposed to have at least one shirtless bathroom photo. Sorry, that's more of a second date kind of thing, if you're lucky. But even though you get many e-mails from guys with pics of their junk, or 'invitations' for sex, please know that we are not all bad. Most of us are good decent people. Please give one of the good guys a chance, even if it's not me.
I'm trying to get back to a lot of the things that I enjoyed doing in the past: playing guitar and writing songs, and outdoor activities. I've also been trying to get back into drawing, but making the time has been an issue for me.
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I still enjoy playing with Legos. I love the building and creating. I have most of them organized by colors and/or specialty pieces. It's great fun, and a great outlet.
It seems weird to me to state what I am looking for, as if I am putting in an order. I have a few types of women that I tend to be drawn to, and different traits that I prefer as well. But that doesn't mean that I won't connect with someone who has different qualities. Many of my best friends would not be matched up with me if there was a site to find friends; you just never know who you will connect with, so why limit ourselves?
When I worked with young people I would joke around a lot, so sometimes they weren't sure if I was being serious or not. I finally came up with this guideline; The first answer I give you is usually a joke. Each subsequent answer is 'more true'. So maybe you should take my profile with a grain of salt, whatever that means. But don't eat too much salt, cause it's bad for you.
I have 2 boys that stay with me half the week. I certainly enjoy when they are with me, but it is also nice to have time for myself.
I recently got a recording program for my computer so I can record my songs. I am also trying to draw more. I like doing abstract designs, as well as drawing trees.
Right now I am concentrating on organizing my house, and getting rid of a lot of things that I don't need. (You really got interested with that organizing part, didn't you?)
I like hiking in upper park, and want to mountain bike more.
I am very skilled at making goofy faces at kids. I will challenge anyone at this, even Jim Carrey. I may lose, but I am confident that I can compete at that level.
Most of my jobs have involved working with kids on some level, and I have a natural talent for relating to kids.
If you put me in front of 100 or more kids, with no time to prepare, I will get them quiet and occupy them for about 10 minutes. For more time I will need a little warning.
I am not an egotistical person, but I am very confident in the things that I know I do well. But it is not false confidence or arrogance.
I also make a mean sandwich.
People also say that I look young for my age. Which of course is nice. It's just interesting to me that in my 20's people thought I looked older, then at some point that changed. But it's ok, cause when people tell me that I look younger I just yell at them to 'Get Off My Lawn!' And they usually go away.
But if I'm wearing one of my tight cut-off t-shirts people notice my belly button. It's amazing!
Dances with Wolves
original Star Wars Trilogy (You will waste the better part of a day if you get me started on why the prequels missed the mark...)
Back to the Future
Dumb and Dumber
Naked Gun/Police Squad
Dark Knight Trilogy
Heart And Souls
Elizabethtown, to name a few.
Movies that I like that get a little better every time I see them:
The Usual Suspects
Stranger Than Fiction
Field of Dreams
The Truman Show. (One of the songs I wrote that I am very proud of was inspired by The Truman Show.)
I like good romantic movies as well, like:
Sleepless in Seattle
When Harry Met Sally
Fools Rush In
Music and Lyrics
While You Were Sleeping.
One of my guilty favorites is Hudson Hawk. It's really dumb, but really funny. I have others like that as well. Do you have one of those movies that you really like, but is really dumb?
I reread the Harry Potter series every so often. They are really enjoyable, and I don't consider them kids books. I like some science fiction, like Arthur C Clarke. Also like Stephen King, although haven't read much of his recent stuff. In general I will like a book that sucks you in, and makes it difficult for you to put it down.
I've been watching:
How I met your mother
Person of Interest (current favorite)
Big Bang Theory
The Walking Dead
I recently gave up cable, so I'm watching shows on Netflix or DVD. Shows that are off the air but I still like:
Freaks and Geeks
Sifl and Olly. (I will have to explain that one, it's a little different.)
I finally watched Firefly/Serenity, and really liked it.
I'm now watching Dexter.
Even if I don't have my boys I have been known to watch Phineas and Ferb. If you haven't seen it give it a try; It's very funny.
My two favorite bands are either Barenaked Ladies, or Trashcan Sinatras, depending on who I have listened to most recently. If you are within driving distance see BNL live; they have an ongoing conversation with the audience, and do a few improv songs each show. But you can't throw Mac and Cheese anymore, which I understand, but it's still a little sad. And 'Cake' by Trashcan Sinatras is one of my favorite albums. Check out what Frank Sinatra's family thought about the name.
I'm not a fan of country music. I like that a lot of the songs are about love, family and friends, and that there are a lot of 'story' songs. I can tolerate it, and have tried to like it, but I just don't.
I also like:
Dave Matthews Band
Tears for Fears
Simon and Garfunkel
I enjoy a lot of '80's stuff as well, the good as well as the bad. Some newer bands that I'm starting to get into are:
Foster the People
Empire of the Sun
Two Door Cinema Club
Friends/family (they often go together)
My fond memories
How I can be a better person.
A book that I have been wanting to write for years. It's loosely based on my years working at a summer camp. But one problem is that there are only so many ways to say 'he/she said sarcastically.'
How to solve all the words ills. (I've almost figured it out.)
Related to that thought; I think about a line from one of the Star Trek movies a lot. (No, no, don't go...) "The acquisition of wealth is no longer the driving force in our lives. ...We work to better ourselves ...and the rest of humanity." How can we get to that point without using any of the dreaded 'isms'?
Imagining how some of the songs I've writen would sound once I get them recorded. They sound amazing in my head.
And honestly, I also think about sex as well.
Forrest Gump; When Bubba dies, and when Jenny and Forrest wade through the water to see each other;
Field of Dreams, when he says to his dad 'you wanna have a catch?';
Star Wars, when Han Solo comes back to help Luke blow up the death star;
Die Hard, when John McClane says Yippi-ki-a...
OK, that one was a joke, felt like I was getting a little too deep.
But the other ones get to me a bit because of the strong bond two people can have.
Sadly, I think that a very small reason for my marriage ending is that I could not live up to Edward, the Sparkly Vampire. I am perfectly ok with that.
I'm not ashamed to say that I like fruity foo-foo drinks. Don't get me wrong, I like many types of beers and often enjoy wine. But I also like drinks that just taste good, and I don't care if people have a problem with that, because damn they're good! And I won't surrender my dude card for that; I think it takes a real man to stand up and say 'I like fruity foo-foo drinks!'.
If you would like to know more and think we may have something in common. It's ok if at some point we realize it wouldn't work. That's what this is all for. (Aside from harmless stalking, of course.)
I know that I appear fairly squeaky-clean, but even though I am a good guy, there's a lot more to me than that. I might surprise you.
Are we using the same rules for on-line dating as we do in the real world? What I mean is: Is the guy supposed to make the first move? Let's dispense with those notions. If you would like to message me, please do. If I haven't messaged you yet it doesn't necessarily mean that I'm not interested.
You should also message me if you just can't stop thinking about my belly button. It's ok to admit it, you're only human.
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