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24 Leeds, UK Man, Genderqueer

Man, Genderqueer

I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 24–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Today – 9:13pm
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body type
Strictly anything
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of university
Less than $20,000
Open relationship
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
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Queer fearful commie. Serial dropout. 24-year-old screwup. Depression & anxiety shape a lot of my experiences. I don't leave my bed very often.

I'm in love with a wonderful person. I'm not against seeing other people, but I like to check in about it.

I have gender feelings, but the reality is that some of my behaviour has been normatively male, and I am effectively a man in the world. I prefer to be called a boy though, since you asked.

Birthplace: Leeds, West Yorks
Class: Lvl 7 Self-Mythologiser; Lvl 4 Fretter, Lvl 2 Geomancer
Hi Roll: Sense of Justice; Good Nails
Lo Roll: Life Direction; Interpersonal Skills

INTP (borderline INFP). Enneagram 5 (borderline 1). Cancer (borderline Leo). Boy (borderline not-boy). Melancholic (borderline phlegmatic). Excited about having more gender options on here. In a Big Five Personality test, I scored high on Neuroticism and Openness, and very low on Agreeableness.

Very silly person with a headful of bloatflies. Living with depression and advanced sleep phase disorder. Mostly I cope by watching Steven Universe.

I have video game opinions

Heads up: I'm disinclined to date just now, but I'm eager to meet people.

To the filth who run this site: it is indefensible to run experiments on your users without their consent. Rationalise all you like.

I would like to meet people to play Pokémon or D&D, draw simple comics, and undermine capitalism with.

Places you might find me, roughly in order of frequency: in bed with a laptop, in the library, in front of a games console, on a picket line or march, in a grimy pub.

I'm pretty into reading, history and video games.

Despite appearances, I'm a very affectionate person. I like people to think I'm smart, but I'm not all that cerebral; I just kind of feel my way through everything.

My emotional intelligence is a bit hit and miss. I spend most of my time alone, and so my perspective can be a little dippy. In some contexts, I have total self-knowledge, but in others, I struggle to identify patterns in my own behaviour. I am very sensitive to the needs of others when I'm paying attention, but I'm not always paying attention. I am responsive and communicative when it suits me, and completely unreachable when it doesn't. As a result, I'm probably not a very good leader, and I can be a middling boyfriend. The sort of MP who can be electric in the Commons when they've prepared for a topic, but who shrinks from their constituency duties.

Foreign countries I talk about a lot, by frequency: Norway; Japan; Germany; the DRC; the US; the ROK; Eritrea; Finland.
What I’m doing with my life
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No longer trying to graduate.

Now: trying to be alive. Pushing the empathy agenda. Saying poorly informed things about gender
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
At my best, I can tell a good story. I'm okay at cooking. And I usually win in Smash Bros.

Apparently I am excellent at appearing to be gay.

Adding a line to this profile every time I feel lonely (if only I had a penny!, etc.).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I'm increasingly into disciplines with the word 'critical' appended before them: pedagogy, geography, etc.: I don't really know much about them, but they interest me. I'm 24, but I spent a long time committed to antitheist ramblings, right-libertarian politics, and a partisan conception of analytical philosophy. I was very self-confident, and self-serious. I didn't read much. Now I'm a left-anarchist who wants to be a witch. It's been a rebirth. I'm having to learn to walk again.

I like to read history. I enjoyed The Occult Roots of Nazism, The Enemy Within, The Age of Revolutions, and Austerity Britain 1945–51.

My prose fiction favourites include One Hundred Years of Solitude, In Search of Lost Time, The Waves, A Confederacy of Dunces, Middlemarch, and The Return of the Native.

Notoriously unclubbable types like me must find private ways of belonging. I feed my subscription addiction with New Left Review, the London Review of Books, Past & Present, and EDGE. I might subscribe to Wiley Blackwell's History when I can afford it. (The LRB is, for my money—and they have plenty of it—the best paper printed in English.)

I like Janelle Monáe, Kate Bush, My Bloody, Valentine, Nicki Minaj, Girlyman, Owen Pallett, Azealia Banks, Joanna Newsom, M.I.A., Momus, Neko Case, Joy Division, Inga Copeland, Grouper, The Long Blondes, Léo Ferré, and Laura Marling.

At my funeral, probably play I Was a Maoist Intellectual, Running Up that Hill, and then this:

My favourite radio comes from the National Archives podcast, 99% Invisible, Little Atoms, Inkstuds, Love + Radio, Novara, One Life Left, and Idle Thumbs. I listen to The World Tonight and Today in Parliament, because I'm a masochist.

Favourite and recently enjoyed games include Majora's Mask, Etrian Odyssey, Fire Emblem 7, Gone Home, Portal 2, FF IX, Fallout 2, SuperHexagon, Dark Cloud, Braid, Shadow of the Colossus, Mario Kart 64, Super Smash Bros., and Super Metroid. I'm very excited about Crypt of the Necrodancer.

Anita Sarkeesian and Zoe Quinn are two of the best things ever to happen to video games. Entitled gamers are the worst. I have nothing but contempt for GamerGate. Please don't contact me if you're an apologist for that movement.

Currently, I'm watching Twin Peaks. I will bore you all night about Mad Men or Buffy. I love Jonathan Meades.

Movies I like include The Piano, Aladdin, The World's End, Alien, Brassed Off, Ratatouille, Toy Story 2, The Thief and the Cobbler, The Land Before Time, The Adventures of Baron Munchausen and Whisper of the Heart.

I like cartoons. I watch a lot of Bee & Puppycat, Steven Universe and Adventure Time.

My favourite webcomics are Unsounded, xkcd, Dresden Codak, Kate Beaton's little holiday diaries, Stop Paying Attention, Ava's Demon, Family Man, Dicebox, and A Lesson is Learned but the Damage is Irreversible.

Recently, I've enjoyed reading Yotsuba&! (so cute~), King City, Ranma1/2, and Maggie the Mechanic.

My absolute favourite speaking voices are those of Holly Hunter, Bill Moyers, Tariq Ali, Jarvis Cocker, Virginia Woolf, Ian McMillan, Jim Carter, and J R R Tolkein.

I am a Tolkein geek. I acknowledge the racist, masculist, conservative, and even fascist thinking which inform any sensitive reading of Tolkein's work. I think it's important to enjoy media critically, but there are always flaws in things I enjoy.

I can't imagine luxury communism without the framework of Bilbo's larder. Middle-Earth provides the fundament of my dreamscape. It is the front garden of my imagination, and I'll not be parted from it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I use radio to supplement my anaemic social interaction.

How chubby and happy everyone was in 80s manga. Why have they become so streamlined and cool?

I value my space, and require the ability to flee back to my cave. I don't think I'd eventually want to move in with a partner.

Local council records, meticulously kept at least as far back as 1840, or parish records, back to 1812.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How mainstream video games valorise normatively male behaviour and values, while devaluing feminised labour, and the feminine in general.

How the feminine is routinely sexualised, infantilised, and degraded in our culture.

Whether I'm subscribed to too many RSS feeds, magazines and podcasts (I am). I end up spending hours every week worrying about which inputs to cut. What is the signal-to-noise ratio of x?

That Hannah Black essay in The New Inquiry which placed ASMR in the context of alienation of communities, and the outsourcing of affective labour under capitalism.

How I've fucked up a lot in my personal relationships, and need to learn to be a better partner and friend.

Whether I'm going to be able to have warm shelter my whole life.

Whether I'll find a community I can feel part of.

Why people above the global median believe they are entitled to their wealth, when all capital is accumulated by exploiting labour.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Trying to catch up on my backlog of Steam games. Currently: Super Hexagon and Long Live the Queen.

You should message me if
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You are an accepting person who can spend time with someone wary of crowds and prone to sensory overstimulation.

No SWP, no GamerGate, no cops, and no SWERF 'n' TERF, please. Definitely no libertarians. Except libertarian communists.

If you're not receptive to the left, and to feminism, we're probably going to struggle to get on.

I'm happy to date, but my priority on here is to look for friends just now.

Please contact me if you're into minicomix, theory, anarchism, turn-based JRPGs, social history, cartoons, sandwiches, and constitutional design, because we were meant to be.