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46 San Ramon, CA Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 28–48
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Yesterday – 9:05pm
White, Other
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body type
Mostly vegan
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Chinese (Okay), Spanish (Okay), Dutch (Poorly), German (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
About me:

Honest, kind, sensitive, socially conscious...
Energetic, creative, loving, and fun-loving...
Collaborative, humble yet confident, willing to cultivate deep communication & connection
Purpose-driven intellectual, works & plays hard...
Incorrigibly goofy... part child-like teddy bear, maybe part Elon Musk back crossed with rasta.... privately accomplished but not famous... friends call me Superdave and Kung Fu Panda...

- Vegetarian (ovo going vegan), craves leafy greens, Asian vegetables, whole organic produce
- Learning to grow my own food and medicine, tending a 500sf veggie patch when I can
- Freethinker with contrasting Jewish, Buddhist, humanitarian/civil rights, environmentalist, and international influences
- I believe ideologies & dogmas are static, while life is dynamic
- In all but a few matters I see variable rather than binary choices
- Although I have some idiosyncratic and inconsistent concept of order, am no friend of rules
- Travelled 77 countries and 44 US states so far, love road trips
- Multilingual primarily in Chinese--fluent Cantonese, intermediate Mandarin; semi-fluent Spanish, and a smattering of many languages
- Eclectic curiosity to assimilate the best from all foreign cultures
- Questions authority and takes a principled stand for people & planet before profit

Long term... it seems the ideal life partner relationship might encompass a good balance of companionship, romance, travel / play, mutual learning / growth, creating prosperity, helping the collective good, and still abundant space & support to excel in and enjoy our individual life callings. Hopefully there's crossover of several interests and we connect on multiple planes of existence, social, emotional, and otherwise...

My life calling, which I feel passionately in my heart & soul, is helping others, whether on a small scale facilitating folks in my circle to bridge cultural gaps and actualize career, immigration, educational and relationship goals; or prospectively at some point, working on a larger scale with NGOs / mass mobilization in human rights, government accountability, international cooperation, and/or environmentalism. This is the legacy, longevity willing, I want to leave.

For those that find such topics too heavy ---
short-term dating, alternatively, might just involve exploring one or few attractors or points of connection of each other, even at an out of balance extreme for awhile, and shamelessly reveling in it!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Exercising, watching diet/nutrition/hydration/sleep, with goal to drop some lbs and achieve an optimal physical condition (though I have never before been athletic and have a long way still to go). The idea is to put my odds in favor of longevity, and to maximize the energy & effectiveness with which I can live my life!

Enjoying a long-established career as a successful software developer / technology project manager, and simultaneously an entrepreneur in various fields. After hours, making some sociopolitical / charitable impacts through blogs and non-profit organizing, with future plans to ramp this up as my main activity and gradually reduce the tech portion.

Lived a high economic standard for some decades, but am adaptable, non-materialistic, and am aiming to streamline the current complex architecture of life affairs, in favor of simplicity. I fancy myself as able to live without modern comforts by choice or necessity, flipping between 4-star and backpacker mode but this capability hasn't been recently retested... like a fire drill may have to do so soon :-)

Continually questioning and learning, replacing illusions/conditioning/autopilot thinking with clarity and deliberate choices; optimizing my happiness, reducing my carbon footprint, becoming more portable, getting organized, and making more room & emotional availability for you -- my fellow traveler, to share this great journey of life.

Single dad nearly done raising 2 good hearted global citizens. I'm grateful that despite their mother passing away after a battle with cancer, we were able to hold our tripartite family together. They made their late teen years much easier on me than I did to my parents. By this and other life blessings it appears I must have some serious karmic credit, I hope it doesn't run out!!! Anyhow they have summer vacations out of area and move off to live near their universities starting in September, so then I will either rent out my 5 bedroom house or take on roommates (yet to be decided) but will basically be freed up.

So yes September 2015 I will be open for the possibility of worldwide relocation... can hypothetically do anything at that point, such as accept an expatriate job in China, go back for a 2nd master degree somewhere, or undertake whatever crazy venture I and a new life partner mutually decide we want...

I am open to dating folks who already have children, but I really do not wish to bring any more new offspring of my own into the world... Aside from overpopulation concerns (there are enough kids to which we can play aunty & uncle), I've already been there / done that... next!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
- International travel, navigation, communicating even when I don't know the language
- Listening / solving conflicts / building bridges between people
- Finding creative solutions to almost any challenge, global or local; figuring out technology; gaming the loopholes in a system
- Affectionately taking care of friends & loved ones (human or furry)
- Preparing healthy vegan and raw "foreign-inspired" meals
- Software design, networking, server builds, managing IT projects
- Remote collaboration, socially responsible offshoring & outsourcing
- Real estate acquisition and certain other business specialties
- International relations and political analysis
- Swimming, snorkeling
- Networked role-playing & real-time strategy games
- Multitasking and context-switching
- High-speed long-distance driving, especially in Germany
- Keeping the inner child alive, having fun
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
If superficial: That I'm curvy and soft skinned, with blue eyes and very full lips made for kissing.

If deep: That I am like no one they have known before.
- My natural intenseness of sharing and intimacy building
- My soulful compassion, empathy, and emotional generosity
- My tendency to think (and live) outside the box
- My benevolent ethics and values
- The vast tapestry of academic disciplines, robust life experiences, and cultures from which I've absorbed
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
- Above all else vegetarian, preferably vegan, ideally raw
- Indian, Chinese, Salads, and Gourmet Gluten Free Cheeseless Pizza are my main staples
- Ethiopian and Burmese I would love to have more of but it requires a drive to Oakland
- Japanese, Korean, Vietnamese, Thai, Fresh Mex, Italian fill the remainder
- Nice restaurant ambience or cooking in (yes I cook and grow & sprout much of my own food)
- Prefer fresh & minimally processed organic veggies, fruit, beans/lentils, nuts, whole grains

Movies - I seldom sit to watch anything, but genres for when I do:
- Comedy (animated, stoner, teen, hipster, political satire, kung fu, Steve Martin, James Carrey, Steve Carrell, Woody Allen)
- Documentaries (sociopolitical, history, food, environment, health)
- Foreign films w/subtitles (Bollywood, Spanish, Chinese, French)
- Science fiction (utopian, dystopian, space travel, mindfuck)
- Biographies
- Learning tutorials

If you watched Idiocracy multiple times and get it... and saw past special effects to the political metaphors in the Matrix, we will resonate

I generally avoid horror, graphic violence, rom com, and drama...

- Trance, Techno, D&B, Breakbeat, Goth, Rave, Industrial
- 80s New Wave, Electronic/Synthpop, Eurobeat/Italo-Disco, Alternative
- Rap/Hip-hop (Old School preferred)
- Freestyle (Bomfunk MCs, Stereo MCs, etc.)
- Vintage rock, occasionally (Zeppelin, Rush, Boston, AC/DC, etc. but also mellower stuff like Moody Blues, Bread, CCR, etc.)
- Reggae, Spanish language, or Bollywood tracks

Books (mostly non-fiction):
- Self-help, psychology/relationships
- Computing
- Gardening & cuisine, nutrition, alternative healing
- History / politics / international relations, misc. social sciences
- Foreign language learning
- Biographies
- Sci-fi (Isaac Asimov stuff, Dune Trilogy, etc.)
- Dystopian (1984, Animal Farm, Brave New World, etc.)
I find reading long books and print materials labor intensive, prefer online articles and tutorials, I'm random access not sequential

By design I don't have a cable account, haven't actively watched TV for about the last 2 decades. The one TV I own is sequestered in its own room as a monitor for gaming, and is off for months at a time LOL. I do have a dormant Roku and a Plex media server. If I watched, my would-be favorite genres are:
- Alternative news (RT, Al Jazeera, Press TV, Democracy Now)
- Documentaries
- Irreverent Comedy Cartoons (South Park, American Dad, Family Guy, etc.)
- Sci-Fi (especially space travel or futurist)
- Educational (DIY, Khan Academy, etc.)
If you are addicted to TV then we are probably not a good match... :)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
In truth can do without anything... but for the sake of answering:
- good healthy food, especially abundant fresh green veggies
- access to information (whether books, mentors, or the internet)
- a garden or nature (sunlight, plants, water, wildlife in motion)
- loving, being loved, affectionately touched, and warmly held
- hope (fortunately this is self-generated from deep inside...)
- sharing life, laughter, humor, smiles, and connection with good people
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
- Saving our planet, its foliage, air, water, and critters (who deserve the same rights as us)
- How to evolve into the most loving, ethical, and capable person I can be, and help our species to do the same
- The revolution / shift of ages that is coming and how to navigate it for the most positive personal & collective outcome
- History, politics, international relations, diplomacy, human rights, philosophy, psychology, and anthropology
- How to connect with people and package information effectively
- Where and how to live, and with whom, since I could call almost any country home and have affinities for China, Latin America, Europe, India, and Canada...
- Creative projects, whether web/multimedia, garden, craft, etc.
- What to learn next - perhaps filmmaking and video editing; and which languages next (as there is always one in progress)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
There is no typical Friday night for me...
- Enjoying the tranquility and spiritual time of a quiet candle-lit no-technology night at home
- Dining out with friends or visiting their pad
- Cooking ethnic foods together or alone
- Philosophizing over espresso, green tea, or occasionally 420
- Dancing in a multistory warehouse club w/visiting international trance DJ
- Walking all over a city like Hong Kong, browsing night markets, and conversing with locals
- Relaxing in my garden or boiling in my hot tub
- Playing multiplayer games of a strategic, simulation, RPG or other nature -- less these yrs
- Taking the dogs to the park or a nearby trail
- On a road trip (Prius or RV) or a flight
- Writing, creative expression, home projects
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
In the interest of full disclosure, I'm just going to be straightforward... those who can't take who I am, consider our time saved, but for the few who can dig it--well, awesome, so glad to meet you!

I'm sapiosexual - aroused by female intelligence first, long before any physical attributes. Conversation is the best inroad to me.

I'm impressed by the woman who beyond ability to seduce & conquer me, has keen discernment, can take charge of a group or external situation, and navigate it to an outcome that benefits our future.

I admire strong or accomplished women of all types (nerd and otherwise), independent/alpha females, liberated & libertine, feminists, female supremacists, dominatrix types, authority figures / ladycops, martial artists, goths, lesbian/bisexual (tough or soft).

On the slightly related topic of external adornments, I happen to find thick-frame eyeglasses, braces, leather/PVC, black lipstick, witchy makeup, dyed hair, piercings (Indian or gothic), bhindis, boots, henna, and tattoos attractive or interesting, depending on the person.

When I really love someone, as in life partner kind of love, any of the superficialities do not matter, we go deep, and I treat her as my Diosa (Goddess), my everything, no matter how she views herself or how others view her.
You should message me if
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If you want to get to know each other better... are open minded, femdom- and 420-friendly