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45 San Ramon, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 28–48
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
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White, Other
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body type
Mostly vegan
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Chinese (Okay), Spanish (Okay), Dutch (Poorly), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
About me:

Honest, kind, sensitive, socially conscious...
Energetic, creative, and fun-loving...
Purpose-driven intellectual, works & plays hard...
Incorrigibly goofy...

- Vegan-tending foodie, favoring organic raw produce
- Learning to garden and self-studying Icelandic language
- Freethinker with contrasting Jewish, Buddhist, humanitarian/civil rights, environmentalist, and international influences
- I believe ideologies & dogmas are static, while life is dynamic
- In all but a few matters I see variable rather than binary choices
- Travelled 77 countries and 44 US states so far, love road trips
- Multilingual primarily in Cantonese, Mandarin, and Spanish, but exposed to many languages
- Eclectic curiosity to assimilate the best from all foreign cultures
- Question authority, stand up for people & planet before profit

The ideal life partner relationship would encompass a good balance of companionship, romance, travel / play, learning / growth, creating prosperity, and room for our individual life callings.

Short-term dating, alternatively, might be just experiencing one or few of those aspects out of balance for awhile and reveling in it!

My life calling, which I feel passionately in my heart & soul, is helping others, whether on a small scale facilitating folks in my circle to overcome differences and actualize career, immigration, and relationship goals; or on a large scale working with NGOs / mass mobilization in human rights, government accountability, international cooperation, and environmentalism.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Exercising, dieting, and supplementing to drop some lbs., with goal to achieve an optimal physical condition (though never before athletic) and certainly put my odds in favor of longevity.

Enjoying a long-established career as a successful software developer / technology project manager, and simultaneously an entrepreneur in various fields. After hours, making some sociopolitical / charitable impacts through blogs and non-profit organizing, with future plans to make that my main activity.

Lived a high economic standard for some decades, but am adaptable, non-materialistic, and prefer simplicity. I fancy myself as able to live without modern comforts by choice or necessity, flipping between 4-star and backpacker mode but it hasn't been recently retested... like a fire drill may have to do so soon :-)

Continually questioning and learning, replacing illusions/conditioning/autopilot thinking with clarity and deliberate choices; optimizing my happiness, reducing my carbon footprint, becoming more portable, getting organized, and making room for you -- my fellow traveler to share this great journey of life.

Single dad enjoying raising two good-hearted teens to be passionate global citizens when they fly from the nest in 2014 & 2015. Despite their mother having passed away, fortunately they're making the late teen years much easier on me than I did to my parents. I must have some serious karmic credit, I hope it doesn't run out!!!

In mid-2015 I will be open for the possibility of worldwide relocation... can take an expatriate job in China, or undertake whatever crazy venture I and a new life partner mutually decide we want...

I am open to dating folks who already have children, but do not wish to bring any more new offspring into the world... Aside from overpopulation concerns (there are enough kids to which we can play aunty & uncle), I've been there / done that... next!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
- International travel, navigation, communicating even when I don't know the language
- Listening / solving conflicts / building bridges between people
- Finding creative solutions to almost any challenge, global or local; figuring out technology; gaming the loopholes in a system
- Affectionately taking care of friends & loved ones (human or furry)
- Preparing healthy vegan and raw "foreign-inspired" meals
- Software design, networking, server builds, managing IT projects
- Remote collaboration, socially responsible offshoring & outsourcing
- Real estate acquisition and certain other business specialties
- International relations and political analysis
- Swimming, snorkeling
- Networked role-playing & real-time strategy games
- Multitasking and context-switching
- High-speed long-distance driving, especially in Germany
- Keeping the inner child alive, having fun
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
If superficial: That I'm curvy and soft skinned, with blue eyes and very full lips made for kissing.

If deep: That I am like no one they have known before.
- My natural intenseness of sharing and intimacy building
- My soulful compassion, empathy, and emotional generosity
- My tendency to think (and live) outside the box
- My benevolent ethics and values
- The vast tapestry of academic disciplines, robust life experiences, and cultures from which I've absorbed
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
- Above all else vegetarian, preferably vegan, ideally raw
- Indian (currently comprises about 50% of my meals - North or South, love them both)
- Japanese, Chinese, Korean, Vietnamese, Lao/Thai/Cambodian
- Ethiopian, Fresh Mexican, Italian, Gourmet Thin Crust Pizza
- Creative salads, sprout dishes, blended drinks
- Nice restaurant ambience or cooking in (yes I cook)...
- Fresh & minimally processed organic veggies, fruit, beans/lentils, nuts, whole grains

Movies - I seldom sit to watch anything, but genres for when I do:
- Comedy (animated, stoner, teen, hipster, political satire, kung fu, Steve Martin, James Carrey, Steve Carrell, Woody Allen)
- Documentaries (sociopolitical, history, food, environment, health)
- Foreign films w/subtitles (Bollywood, Spanish, Chinese, French)
- Science fiction (utopian, dystopian, space travel, mindfuck)
- Biographies
- Learning tutorials

Bonus if you watched Idiocracy multiple times and get it... if you see political metaphors in The Matrix... if South Park speaks to you!

I generally avoid horror, graphic violence, rom com, and drama...

- Trance, Techno, D&B, Breakbeat, Goth, Rave, Industrial
- 80s New Wave, Electronic/Synthpop, Eurobeat/Italo-Disco
- Alternative
- Rap/Hip-hop
- Freestyle (Bomfunk MCs, Stereo MCs, etc.)
- Vintage rock, occasionally (Zeppelin, Rush, Boston, AC/DC, etc. but also mellower stuff like Moody Blues, Bread, CCR, etc.)
- Soft rock (relaxing & romantic, turned onto it in The Philippines)
- Spanish-language music with a fast beat -- Salsa, Reggaeton, etc.

Books (mostly non-fiction):
- Self-help, psychology/relationships
- Computing
- Gardening & cuisine, nutrition, alternative healing
- History / politics / international relations, misc. social sciences
- Foreign language learning
- Biographies
- Sci-fi (Isaac Asimov stuff, Dune Trilogy, etc.)
- Dystopian (1984, Animal Farm, Brave New World, etc.)

Shows - I don't have TV, haven't watched it for over a decade -- am pretty against it, but have a dormant Roku and a Plex media server, my would-be favorite genres are:
- Alternative news (RT, Al Jazeera, Press TV, Democracy Now)
- Documentaries
- Comedy (South Park, American Dad, Family Guy, etc.)
- Sci-Fi (Stargate, Star Wars, Battlestar Galactica, etc.)
- Educational (DIY, Khan Academy, etc.)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
In truth can do without anything... but for the sake of answering:
- good healthy food, especially abundant fresh green veggies
- access to information (whether books, mentors, or the internet)
- a garden or nature (sunlight, plants, water, wildlife in motion)
- loving, being loved, affectionately touched, and warmly held
- hope (fortunately this is self-generated from deep inside...)
- sharing life, laughter, humor, and smiles with good people
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
- Saving our planet, its foliage, air, water, and critters (who deserve the same rights as us)
- How to evolve into the most loving, ethical, and capable person I can be, and help our species to do the same
- The revolution / shift of ages that is coming and how to navigate it for the most positive personal & collective outcome
- History, politics, international relations, diplomacy, human rights, philosophy, psychology, and anthropology
- How to connect with people and package information effectively
- Where and how to live, and with whom, since I could call almost any country home and have affinities for China, Latin America, Europe, India, and Canada...
- Creative projects, whether web/multimedia, garden, craft, etc.
- What to learn next - perhaps filmmaking and video editing; and which languages next (as there is always one in progress)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
There is no typical Friday night for me...
- Enjoying the tranquility and spiritual time of a candle-lit no technology family night at home
- Dining out or visiting a friend's home
- Philosophizing over espresso or green tea
- Dancing in a multistory warehouse club w/visiting international DJ
- Walking all over a city like Hong Kong, browsing night markets
- Relaxing in my garden or boiling in my hot tub
- Compelling multiplayer video games (not since 2012 unfortunately)
- A walk with the dogs on a nearby trail
- An overnight road trip (Prius or RV) or a flight
- Hopefully some writing or creative work
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm sapiosexual - aroused by female intelligence first, long before any physical attributes. Conversation is the best inroad to me.

I'm impressed by the woman who beyond ability to seduce & conquer me, has keen discernment, can take charge of a group or external situation, and navigate it to an outcome that benefits our future.

I admire accomplished women of all types (nerd and otherwise), independent/alpha females, liberated & libertine, feminists, female supremacists, dominatrix types, authority figures / ladycops, martial artists, goths, lesbian/bisexual (tough or soft).

On the related topic of external adornments, I happen to find thick-frame eyeglasses, braces, leather/PVC, black lipstick, witchy makeup, dyed hair, piercings (Indian or gothic), bhindis, boots, henna, and tattoos attractive or interesting, depending on the person.

When I really love someone, as in life partner kind of love, superficialities do not matter, we go deep, and I treat her as my Diosa (Goddess), my everything, no matter how she views herself or how others view her.
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