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49 • Redmond, WA • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 30–51
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
- Last online
- Mar 2
- 5′ 10″ (1.78m)
- Body type
- Libra, but it doesn’t matter
- Graduated from Ph.D program
- Science / Engineering
- Open relationship
- Has a kid
- Has dogs and has cats
- English (Fluently), French (Okay)
Of course you didn't. That isn't how friendships nor relationships develop because you have no idea when you first meet someone; yet that is what so many people try to do on these social networks. Rather, there is a much more natural and slower process. Often it starts with eye contact. Some people will smile back; others will look the other way and ignore you; and occasionally you'll get the "what the hell are you looking at?" evil stare in return. Just the response to that initial contact could make a big difference on who you choose for friends, and who you dismiss. It starts there, you get to know the person; some will become acquaintances, others good friends, some best friends, and occasionally a lover in there. But do you know which is which?
If I email you, it is simply to make the cyber equivalent of eye contact. If you initiate contact, I'll treat it the same way, as a glance indicating a potential interest to know something more about me, but no preconceived implications beyond that. What happens after that? Only time can tell.
Most of my spare time gets consumed spending time with family time, doing stuff with my teenage daughter, playing pinball, and recently too much business travel. There are a lot of other things I enjoy doing, but just haven't done much of them due to time constraints, but I'd be game for re-acquainting myself to them as my schedule is finally starting to lighten up. These include hiking, cycling, geocaching, swimming, day trips, dance clubs, goth clubs, swing dancing, alternative 80's music, tropical islands, tiki culture, happy hour, poker, horse racing, comedy, burlesque shows, and some board games.
However, don't let my personal activity set limit your interest. I'm also looking to explore new activities, rather than doing the same things that I have been for the past many years. If you have a fun activity and looking for a companion or partner, I am interested in expanding my horizons.
However, if there was a winfall of cash that I didn't need to work anymore, I would gladly give up all that technical mumbo jumbo in favor of relaxing in spacious tranquil surroundings and traveling anywhere and everywhere.
In the meantime, I'll work in the daytime and enjoy evenings and weekends in our house on a wonderful rural property just 15 minutes outside of Redmond, where we can enjoy morning sunrise over the cascades from the porch; relax in the serenity anytime throughout the day, or wind down in the evening with a cocktail and watching the most incredible view of stars from the comfort of our hot tub. I think I finally found the cure to stress!
At least a couple of times a week we'll venture into the city or the country, as we start to enjoy everything the pacific northwest has to offer.
Everything else, I'm probably just average :).
Oh, and please don't misinterpret my skill at planning. While I can do it quite well, I'm also very capable of adjusting plans last-minute if circumstances dictate, as well as taking part in spontaneous outings. Just cause I'm good at something doesn't mean I always do it that way! :)
Movies: I'm always up for a good comedy or movies that kinder to the intellect. I'll pass on stupid comedies (like National Lampoon crap). I also like many musicals. Live/Broadway is preferred, but I also enjoy the movie versions.
Music: Usually whatever anyone else puts on the radio. I tend to give control of the dial to whoever is accompanying me, which results in a rather eclectic mix of music.
Food: Almost anything except seafood. I especially like most Asian foods, including Thai, Vietnamese, Indian, and Japanese Hibachi.
The numbers 0 and 1
I used to have snooze button on that list. But with reduced stress in new surroundings, snooze button is suddenly something I could do without! :) So I removed that and added pinball ... cause I'd go insane without it!
You are responding to my initial eye contact with a smile back or an evil stare
Something in my profile intrigued you, and you'd like to explore more through a simple meetup, perhaps for coffee or your favorite beverage.
I am open to a range of relationship options with you if we're highly compatible (whatever that means!). Whether it be as platonic friends, date buddies, friends-with-benefits, or a long term secondary relationship. My availability is typically at most a couple of times a week; but also don't mind friends that I only see once or twice a month. We're probably not the right match if you're solely seeking a primary partner or someone to be with on a daily basis.
Please note, if your profile has you listed looking for someone "single", I will respect that and not contact you. However, if you have some flexibility and are interested in connecting, please feel free to contact me first and I'll respond.
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