Most women I met tell me I'm a refreshing change from many guys.
What this means is: I'm very creative, an excellent problem solver, loyal, honest, persistent, driven. I don't get worked up if you say something true that isn't positive. I'm exceptionally good at seeing patterns in behavior but don't know what they mean. I don't have ulterior motives beyond what I tell you. I don't have expectations. And because of my situation I take my time to get to know people and understand the importance of working to build relationships and I don't expect everyone to be just like me to be their friend. Also most things that make others uncomfortable don't make me uncomfortable.
Unfortunately what this means is I don't pick up on most social cues. Most people cannot tell one on one with me in short durations. Occasionally they'll notice I have an atypical perspective or I say something considered blunt. I always feel bad if this upsets someone and I'm very aware of it. If you're around me long enough I do learn to adapt with people. I'm very eager to hang out with people a lot initially simply because there is a higher probability I'll know how to interact with them faster. However if you don't tell me when something bothers you and are polite, I do get bothered by that.
I'm a progressive kind of guy. I think two people should be partners in a relationship.
I see this as a way to get into contact with somebody with a different schedule or not necessarily in my area. From there we find similar interests. We hang out and as we get to know each other maybe there's chemistry or we just become friends. I don't know how everyone else sees this, but just putting that out there. People always say be yourself but they're highly uncomfortable unless you're just like them. It takes time and exposure to get to know each other and sync together.
If you're interested in getting the most out of life and being happy, I'm your guy.
If you've got a set plan and a specific idea of what you want, I'm not your guy.
Also just as women list chivalry, a must for us guys: you must find our dumb jokes funny. That's a must for every guy.
I use the correct there and you're.
I get excited when I see women answer the "wherefore art thou Romeo?" question on here correctly.
I pretty much always smile. Unless, apparently when I'm focused intently.
Funny, brash, empathetic, principled, debonair, silly, strong, observant, enthusiastic, eager, zest for life, hard to offend, curious, sincere, je ne sais quoi, one of a kind.
my view on relationships: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Xc-p0DlQEY&feature=youtube_gdata_player
I feel it takes at least 2 months to really know someone. I don't decide to date them until I get to know them. I don't hold on to first impressions. To that end, I won't send you a 3 page letter if you seem interesting, I will send you a brief e mail to start a conversation. Some of the best encounters off here were people I corresponded with for a while.
I don't think I've ever had a truly bad day.
I should also say, I prefer and love strong women and I'm not intimidated by their successes but encourage and support them!
A good conversation starts with a whisper and ends in a crescendo. I typically will email something to see if the lady can carry a conversation, if not, I don't put too much effort in. It's not just a guys job! I'm starting to see why so many women are single. They don't try very hard.
I Love to Converse and I also love to hear other people share their ideas, their stories. I have very strong opinions about things, but if you feel passionately, I'm open to hear what you have to say as long as it's a constructive conversation.
I tend to surprise people. I'm intrigued and genuinely interested in people. I've met A LOT of people over the years, and I've heard their stories. It's because of this I try to be very understanding towards strangers and people i just met. I don't let expectations, preconceptions and disappointments cloud how I treat them. All we want as individuals is to be loved and give love. I'm not talking wedding rings, or sex. A hug, a smile, a kind gesture.
It's very hard to put me out. If a woman says her feet hurt from her shoes, I'll give her mine to walk in and I'll escort her in socks.
Very little bothers me, but what does bother me is not being considerate. Most of us are so preoccupied with our wants, that we tend to ignore the fundamental needs of others. I truly believe this is where most conflicts arise. People aren't inherently bad, they're just inherently blind.
I'm a writer and a graphic designer. Because I love communication, I avoid using buzz words or traditional vocabulary because those words and phrases tend to have loaded emotional connotations I don't intend.
I tend to do very subtle things to see if anyone's paying attention. They're usually not. I'm not very literal but I'm very honest. I'm not blunt, but I won't sugar coat.