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35 San Jose, CA Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 24–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 7:38pm
Native American, White
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Entertainment / Media
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
English (Fluently), Latin (Poorly), C++ (Okay)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Wow. I'm not convinced this process works. The things I've seen.. The horror

I believe in giving people respect. The benefit of the doubt. I dont believe in good and evil. I champion communication.

Looking for someone that can communicate, give more than one word answers, is compassionate, driven but not obsessed, can be goofy and debonair, can carry their weight in conversations about culture or science or childhood cartoon programs.

I'm so punk rock that tattoos are too institutional for me. I know the difference between your and you're.

I'm very straight forward and up front. I'm in no rush for anything. I'd like to find quality people to complement my life and however those relationships develop, that's how they develop. One may be romantic and the others simply dinner party buddies.

Sometimes you can find me bellyaching, cheeks sore from laughing funny. Sometimes I can leave you scratching your head, but most the time I just make "dad jokes" :)

Which brings me to... I can now liken myself to a celebrity, namely judd aptow... since dad bods are in. (Does it still work if you're not rich and famous?)

I give everyone the benefit of the doubt when they say something, because I have made a joke or comment that came out wrong. I look at how people treat me and behave to truly know them. I don't get offended by anything but blatant inconsiderate behavior.

For instance I like to buy subway subs and with a fistfull of sandwiches, hand them out to the homeless in san jose I can easily pass on the sidewalk. But sometimes they dont take the sub because they think the government poisoned the meatball marinara.

The other day while I was leaving the gym a guy hard on his luck started talking to me and I gave him a few minutes of my time because I could tell he hadn't connected with another person in a while. In the course of conversations he mentioned he had ran over his headphones with his bike. I realized I had some headphones on me that were only like $4 so I gave them to him.

These are the things I look for in others. You may put your foot in your mouth but with patience I'll learn what kind of person you are and what you mean. You dont always have to be cool, calm, collected.

few conversation starters if you decide to message me:

How long would you last, realistically, in Jurassic park?

Men are more emotional than women and humans are designed to be monogamous, what do you say to that?

Batman is actually an inmate in Arkham Asylum and his rogues gallery are hospital staff.. Discuss..

If you could touch and feel one last thing before you lost the sensation forever, what would it be?

I am originally from Michigan and I'm more relaxed than most northern californians. I dont mind if strangers say hello to me and I'll talk with anyone about anything just to chat. I laugh at myself and find the black humour in most situations.

I also don't care if you're physically active, physically fit, or "attractive", the sexiest thing to me is a personality that can connect with mine and shines through from inside. I don't have a type and find many different women attractive in various ways.

I love learning, and have a continuous drive to fill my short life with as much knowledge as humanly possible! People are more important to me than places or things. I am much happier spending money to make others happy than on myself. I am above all else considerate and that is the single most defining characteristic I look for in others. There are two types of people in this world, considerate or inconsiderate.
What I’m doing with my life
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Being sincere, compassionate, and devouring knowledge.

I'm currently working at a small design firm in SF's North Beach with a kick ass view and the sweetest humans I've ever met in the bay area!

I also work in the comic book industry and operate a non profit that teaches children to think critically and build problem solving skills through story writing. My goal is to tech little humans to be self aware big humans by employing an understanding of how and why we behave as we do before reading, writing and arithmetic. They don't do you any good if your quality of life is zilch.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
teaching and being dependable. When I make plans I show up on time or cancel with enough time to be fair ;)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Post office. Hocus pocus. East of Eden. Lullaby. Hot Water Music. Ballad of Halo Jones. The Sandman. Edgar Allen poe. Short stories of H.G. Wells. H.P. Lovecraft.

I really enjoy scientific texts and studies on neuroscience. Anthropology. Medicine. Culture. Currently reading The Beauty Myth and Brainwashed: Challenging the Myth of Black Inferiority.

music: 70s and 80s R&B. 60s british pop. Tom petty. Pulp. Alice Cooper. Moody Blues. Otis Redding. Matthew Good Band. The Tea Party. Garbage. I always wanted to be a soul singer in the 60s.

Movies: Gremlins. Scrooged. American Psycho. Legend. Chinatown. Paths of Glory. Parenthood.

TV: Elementary. Doctor Who. Studio 60. The good wife. Newsroom. Madam secretary.

Intriguing subjects: child development. History. Anthropology
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My brother.
beef jerky.
Reese's cups.
somewhere to swim.
you? (See what I did there?)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Drawing. Playing guitar. Building something, creating something, or exploring something. I find friday a good night for hobbies that feel fulfilling.
You should message me if
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If you ever read a book in elementary school so you could get a free personal pan pizza from Pizza Hut.

you are capable of being engaging, interesting and charming.

You have felt love, and the phrase "I want to feel in love" has not left your lips. When you're in a spot where you have to communicate and you haven't chose to "disappear."

I'd ideally like someone who is down to watch last week tonight while cuddling up. Who wants to go on a bike ride to the park and then enjoy a small picnic of watermelon and cashews before taking a stroll. That kind of thing, for instance.

You're a woman of the 21st century, you don't hold on to 1950s ideas of romance and the terms "alpha" never leaves your mouth