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54 M San Francisco, CA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 10:54am
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Not at all
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Howdy. I'm a together, fun guy looking to connect with men who are happy and open emotionally. I'm in good shape physically, mentally, and spiritually, am pretty outgoing, and enjoy life. If you're comfortable and content with yourself, your life, and your sexy body, let's talk and see where it goes. Happily single and open to all possibilities.
What I’m doing with my life
Lately, am excited about writing. I have a 3-day-a-week regular job and also do massage and copyediting as sidelines. Live with a great roommate and a cat in a nice Victorian flat; spend most of my free time doing yoga, writing, reading, swimming, listening to records, cleaning the house, singing, riding my bike, gardening, hanging with friends, meditating, or ironing shirts; tvless, love movies.
I’m really good at
Love, Scrabble, massage, math, grammar and spelling, '70s music and geography facts, kissing, kindness, and sex with intimate connection.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm smiling and I have big ears.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: anything well-written, especially contemporary fiction: McCarthy, Murakami, Millhauser, Munro, Ishiguro, Chabon. Movies: Independent and quirky, for the most part, too many to list. Last great ones: Rust and Bone, Futuro Beach, Melancholia. (Wanted to love Boyhood--we'll discuss.) TV: almost never. I hear there are a lot of good shown now, just don't spend my time that way. Music: you name it. '70s soul, '80s indie...have a lot of records and actually play them. Food: spaghetti & meatballs, grilled cheese & tomato soup, pizza, Junior Mints, pork chops, burritos, chocolate milk, lemonade.
The six things I could never do without
1. intimacy; 2. my comfy bed (try it!); 3. the coast; 4. toothbrush; 5. public library; 6. peace of mind. Honestly, I don't get very excited about material things (or people who do).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Loved ones. Why OKCupid says I am way less love-driven and less spiritual than most people (maybe it means less clingy and doesn't believe in god). Where to travel next. Living a meaningful life. Gay men's wounding and how to heal it. Impermanence.
On a typical Friday night I am
glad to be free, maybe having dinner with a friend or a date; or might just stay home and relax, listen to music and eat ice cream, alone or with you.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'll talk about pretty much anything -- no secrets here. What do you want to know?
I’m looking for
  • Gay guys only
  • Ages 37–58
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
You want to meet, you're happy, loving, and sexy, you like what you've read and like my looks or need to know more before you decide, and you think you'd make a good date, friend, fuck buddy, boyfriend, or something.