Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a pretty together, fun guy in good shape physically, mentally,
and spiritually, and I enjoy life. Happily single, but also feel
there's nothing better than connecting deeply with someone, and I
would like more of that in my life. Open to all possibilities. I'd
like to meet men who are happy, honest, sexy, and open emotionally.
If you feel the same, let's talk and see where it goes.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Lately, am excited about writing (short fiction, poetry, and a
blog) and teaching/learning at the meditation center I go to. I
have a 3-day-a-week "regular" job at UCSF and do massage and
copyediting as sidelines. Live with a great roommate and a fat cat
in a nice Victorian flat; also spend free time doing yoga, eating
out, reading, singing along to records, cleaning the house, riding
my bike (no car), gardening, being with friends, going to movies
(tvless), and ironing shirts.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Loving, listening, massage, math, grammar and spelling and
Scrabble, kissing, kindness, telling the truth, not looking at my
phone while we're on a date. (You should be good at these last few
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm smiling and I have big ears. or I'm calm.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: anything well-written, especially contemporary fiction; now
reading Hopscotch. Loved Constellation of Vital Phenomena. Movies:
Independent and quirky, for the most part, too many to list. TV:
almost never (I hear there are lots of good shows now, and I
believe it...just don't spend my time that way). Music: you name
it. '70s soul, '80s indie, newer stuff too...have a lot of records
and actually play them. Food: spaghetti & meatballs, grilled
cheese & tomato soup, pizza, Junior Mints, burritos, chocolate
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. intimacy; 2. my comfy bed (try it!); 3. the coast; 4.
toothbrush; 5. books; 6. meditation/peace of mind. Honestly, I
don't get very excited about material things (or people who do).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Loved ones. How physical attraction works and why I'm so picky.
Where to travel next.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
home or out to dinner with a friend. typically.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'll talk about pretty much anything. What do you want to know?
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You actually want to meet (imagine!); you're happy, loving, and
sexy; you like what you've read and like my looks or need to know
more before you decide; you think you'd make a good date, friend,
fuck buddy, boyfriend, or something.
A high % match matters; so do looks and "spark," things okcupid
doesn't have an algorithm for.
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