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  • Ages 21–35
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Read as much or as little as you want to, just trying to put myself out there. It's okay to scroll to the bottom. You might come back up for more, you never know.

I'm an artist and writer. Currently working in a theater scene shop for a well-known higher education institution. Before that I worked as a producer/shooter/editor and got nominated for an Emmy (somehow.) I have art in a couple stores in Austin and Brooklyn and some in a gallery in Cambridge. I've lived in New York (mostly Bushwick in Brooklyn) for about 6 years within the last 10, but happy to be in Somerville (great area near Davis and Tufts) at the moment. I've done a lot of US and international traveling and always willing to do more on a whim. I'm from Mass. originally but I've also spent some time in Austin, New Orleans, and Ireland.

I'm (too) honest, passionate, hard-working, and open. I can be moody and difficult when I'm tired of the struggle, restless when I get bored, and bored if I'm not working on something bigger. I'm a constant thinker/analyzer. Hyper-aware. I usually like to keep busy and do something productive but I also like just talking somewhere, sitting around a campfire, road trips, bike rides, walks, and watching movies. I don't wear a watch. I'm not on FB. I wish I had extra money for more tattoos. I like thunder and the ocean and any natural experiential beauty. (I've been taking lots of beach trips lately.) I have a great memory for faces and locations and a collapsed memory for time. Months or years can go by and it still feels so recent to me. I'm neurotic, critical, spontaneous, usually very understanding, accepting, and supportive.

I'm up for hanging out and seeing what happens. I'll go do almost anything if it sounds interesting, awkward, fun, stimulating, or relaxing. I like learning and seeing new things. I like talking about love, sex, relationships, personal and family history, creative ideas, art, the evolution of things, psychology, the universe, movies, politics, conspiracies, and anything non-materialistic, non-financially-driven, unless we're talking about world problems/ideas about how they could be better. I don't think anything is really off the table or inappropriate if it's coming from an honest place. If you can't handle some raw/real talk, then I'm probably not the guy for you.

I want to exchange ideas and experiences with new people all the time. I'm always up for a spontaneous adventure. And I love music, couldn't imagine life without it.
What I’m doing with my life
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writing, making art, exploring, taking in as much information about the things I'm interested in, processing as many different viewpoints on things as I can think of/hear and then putting it back out into the world as words, art, and actions.

I went to school for architecture in New Orleans and then transferred to NYU for film/TV, worked on some TV shows, spent the last few years building sets for off-Broadway shows and expensive events.

I used to drink hard, now I don't. I don't mind being around it, etc. I'll still go out and everything. Don't feel weird doing whatever you normally would.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm good at building things and fixing things. I can build or create pretty much anything if I can visualize the end product.

I change environments drastically, generally for the better. I help good people as much as I can and while that has probably been part of why I'm not rich, I'm also proud to not be taking advantage of people.

I'm really good at eating peaches.
The first things people usually notice about me
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the same thing you notice about David Bowie in Labyrinth.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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The Godfather, Donnie Darko, Good Will Hunting, The Departed, Closer, Labyrinth, Star Wars, The Beach, Newsies, The Fighter, Apocalypse Now, Love Actually, 25th Hour, Jerry Maguire, Where The Wild Things Are, The Vicious Kind, Slums of Beverly Hills

NPR, a lot of rap, rock, jazz, pop, funk, punk, folk, surf rock, really everything, even classic country sometimes. Love me some reggae, too. We Are Scientists, Arcade Fire, Band of Horses, Ratatat, White Rabbits, Vampire Weekend, Sufjan Stevens, Alabama Shakes, Jay-Z, Pink Floyd, The Doors, Journey, Johnny Cash, Bob Seger, Supertramp, Wu-Tang, Fleetwood Mac, Honeyhoney, Radiohead, Explosions in the Sky, Lil Wayne

I hope there's a Broad City/Girls crossover episode. House of Cards, Bored to Death, GIRLS, Friday Night Lights made me cry multiple times ha

Thai, Japanese, sushi, Vietnamese, Chinese, Mexican. I tend to stay away from chains. I mostly eat healthy but probably don't eat enough. Someone should tell me if I start looking like Dallas Buyer's skinny.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
music, affection, the ocean, a few good pillows, open minds, friends, family, rules to break

Patience and empathy are qualities that truly wonderful people possess.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Carlin would love Sanders:

I find women to be amazingly beautiful. I'm constantly inspired by their beauty and find myself wanting to know and see more, just from a look or a picture. And I like the fire of a turned on woman, in any sense of the word. I find it inspiring. I wouldn't call it superficial though. Beauty with no intelligence/a bad personality doesn't interest me.

A few years ago, I quit FB and it was one of the best things I ever did. Also, Google products are worse! They save, scan, and share literally everything... so do all those apps on your phone. All your contacts, texts, photos, even calls... the applications have access to all of that. Think about it, ask questions, pay for privacy, demand better!

I usually know what will happen within a few minutes of meeting someone. Very rarely, though, I am completely surprised.

No two people have the exact same process of getting to know someone or views on what's okay to say or to do in that process.
best thing you can do is forgive

“Everybody knows what’s happening — who wants to know,” Bernie Sanders wrote in June 1972 in Movement, an irregular Liberty Union Party newsletter he edited. “A handful of people own almost everything … and almost everybody owns nothing. A handful of people make the decisions and the vast majority of people have virtually no control over their lives.”
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I change shapes just to hide in this place but I'm still an animal.

"It’s an intense life — there’s the pain of creation, padded by periods of downtime where one feels compelled to escape reality. And stereo-typically, sex and drugs have been sedatives for that intensity. But that oscillation can make for a charged romantic relationship. One minute the artist appears so amazing and confident that you can't help but open your legs, and the next minute they suddenly plummet and become vulnerable and insecure, and need you to open your arms to comfort them."

I'm a baby when I'm sick.
You should message me if
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I'm definitely willing to just go out knowing that it could end up a one hour or one night or two month experience. I want more, but you can't always know that right away. Still, all experiences have validity and importance. If we're talking committed relationships (if that's what you think you want/need at this moment in your life) someone who accepts or actually likes a lot of this stuff about me would be best, right? I try to be really understanding during all this, it's the only way you can get to know someone a little before you make a judgement call on some kind of long term potential.

I want to have relationships with people with high self-esteem and self-confidence. Even if you sometimes hate yourself and everything around you, there's that stuff you know you like about yourself and your life that carries you through. And I want to eventually be in the type of romantic relationship where we improve each other. I try to do that regularly. Be proud of whatever body you've got or change it! Stay/get in shape for your own health, it's worth it for the present and your future. How am I supposed to be comfortable with the idea of a long life with a woman and maybe having some babies if I'm not confident in how she treats her body (with what she consumes?) It matters! And I see equal loveliness in cute, pretty, hot, beautiful, gorgeous, and stunning. It's not a ladder of compliments, they are all very important and different and wonderful. I know I'm nothing special to look at, but I want to be with someone who has a kind of constant beauty that I can imagine even when she's old and wrinkly. It comes from the eyes I think. Maybe it's about all the features. Maybe everyone has that magic combination of features on someone else's face that just GETS them.

Sex is a huge part (at least half of it, right?) of a romantic relationship of any type so someone with experience and confidence is important. Gotta have some spunk, gotta be able to keep up and want to keep up. I'm pretty vulgar/open when I want to be, but I don't have shame about being so and you certainly don't need to be that way. I'm kinda dirty I guess. If you are meek and shy and are turned off by sexual stuff we might have a tough time. Or it might be really fun for you... I don't know. If you "don't give blowjobs" I am literally not at all interested in a long term thing. Short time, I'd survive. Long term, I'd die inside lol. I talk about these things because they matter. I mean, imagine the reverse! If I was like, yeah, I'll never go down on you. What kind of life would that be? Horrible. Good physical chemistry and tension is important to me. You may love someone, but if that's not there, it's probably not going to be very enjoyable.

I like genuine reciprocation, no matter what kind of relationship it is. That's not just about sex. I'm thoughtful and romantic, I'm always thinking about someone I'm into when I'm not with them. I pay attention when we're together and I do and find things and ways to make them happy based on those things. Reflective is great, thoughtful is more important. I'm romantic. I usually give my all and I'd like to be with someone who feels that way, too. I'm picky now for serious stuff. Might take me a while to commit if I'm not instantly in love. Or I could know right away. So weird, how that works.

If me being an artist, staying up late, loving all types of people, talking to everyone I'm standing next to, being pro-choice yet having a high reverence for all types of life, progressive politically and socially, and not believing in a god, constantly criticizing the gov and people in charge in general, and hating on giant corporations won't bother you. I talk about my exes here and there. I make comments about beautiful people and random things. These are my eyes, my brain, and my mouth. I'm going to continue to take in the beauty around me and think about it, love it and want it, and talk about it.

You know, I've tried to fight saying this, but I like curves. I'm a fan of the big booty girls, too. At least SOME booty! No, but seriously, I don't think I can get past this. Call me whatever, I know I'm supposed to love the person and accept the rest, etc. But there's a combination of things I think I want and need for this to work. I don't want to date someone out of shape, exercise and a good diet is important, at the same time, I like curves. What's a man to do? But I've been pretending like this kind of stuff isn't important for too long. Like it's base and bad of me to put looks as a really important thing, but it is. It IS important, the attraction and how our eyes and minds and bodies connect. I get so caught up trying to give people and a love a chance, I forget that without all the qualities I want and need in a partner and lover, it's not gonna last.