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31 F Arlington, VA

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 9:53pm
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body Type
Not at all
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from law school
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Hi! I'm a 31 year old lawyer here in DC. I work at a great non-profit and love my job. I am really passionate about my work and all my volunteer activities outside of work. I'm an INFJ, so apparently that passion is a natural part of my personality -- as is the frequent conflict between my outgoing nature and introvert tendencies.

I've been here in the DC area for just over nine years now and it is definitely home. I did my undergrad back home in Massachusetts, then law school brought me down here. I loved living in DC during law school, but Pentagon City is a good fit for and I'm quite close to the city.

I'm a very open and honest person so it's important for me to tell you that I'm bi-sexual. I like girls and guys, so whoever I date needs to be comfortable with that. But I want to caveat that by saying -- I am looking for a one-on-one committed relationship. I care most about finding the right person for me, regardless of their gender.

Okay, so let's see .... I really liked law school, especially getting to spend a summer studying at Oxford and then traveling around Europe. It was incredible, especially Florence, and I'm dying to get back and explore some other cities - need a partner in crime!

Now that I'm in the real world with a real job, I wake up (relatively) early, work hard, have volunteer stuff going on some evenings - usually some LGBT or community activism - and have really learned to appreciate my weekends.

I'm part of DC's wonderful Burner community and it has really opened my eyes to my creative side. And given me both an outlet from the stress of the DC bubble and a fabulous group of friends.

What am I looking for on here? Well, I'm ready for something serious but I'm not looking to "settle down" yet. I could be ready for a family in the next few years, but right now I just want to find someone I connect with and take it day by day. It can take me a while to let down my guard, but I will if I meet the right person.

I'm really open minded but I also know what I want and what I need. Conversation is really important to me and I want to find someone who is a good communicator, that is honest and open. I need someone who can listen, who cares and will put effort into knowing and being with me. I'm busy and committed to my career and volunteer work, but I always make time for the things I want. I need someone who will do the same and make time for me.

I tend to be type-A in my work and volunteer life, so I'm looking for someone to take charge in my romantic life. I like to be pursued and I hate having to question where things stand. I'm looking for someone who is aggressive but chivalrous -- because modern, non-traditional women can still want a gentleman/woman, right?

So there you have it. I'm an open book, so ask away!
What I’m doing with my life
I work at a great DC nonprofit doing criminal justice reform advocacy. The work is really interesting and I really believe in it. Part of the job is working across the aisle, with folks of very different ideological slants, and this has had a real positive impact on how I think and communicate. That said, it is really hard to avoid the cynicism that comes with working inside the beltway.
I’m really good at
Problem solving, organizing (people, places, for causes, pretty much anything), making fantastic tutus, and getting glitter everywhere.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Favorite Books: Killer Angels (Michael Shaara), Walking in the Wind, (John Lewis), Elizabeth & Mary, (Jane Dunn) -- and most works about Elizabethean England, John Grisham novels, Opening Up, (Tristan Taormino) and Chelsea Handler's hilarious works.

Favorite Movies: Cruel Intentions, The Secret Garden, Great Expectations, Dogma, Elizabeth, The Notebook, Shakespeare In Love, Lord of Rings I, II, and III, American Beauty, Kiss the Girls, and I'm sure a bunch of others I'm forgetting about.

TV Shows: So I pretty much only watch tv from my DVR ... and it totally supports my addiction, including The Daily Show, The Newsroom, Game of Thrones, Downton Abbey, The Good Wife, NCIS and NCIS Los Angeles, True Blood, CSI: Las Vegas, Grey's Anatomy, Private Practice, Law and Order: SVU, House, Psych, Elementary, Person of Interest, White Collar, Body of Truth, Castle, Revenge, Deception, Once Upon A Time, Scandal, Glee, Pretty Little Liars,The Lying Game, Modern Family, The New Normal, Two Broke Girls, Happy Endings, Grimm, The Mindy Project, The New Girl, Chicago Fire, Hart of Dixie, The Voice, Covert Affairs, Necessary Roughness, Suits, The Mob Doctor, Up All Night, Raising Hope .... ok, that list is a little long ... I blame it on my DVR!

Favorite Music: Pretty much everything, even some country!
The six things I could never do without
1 - My Best Friend
2 - Caffeine in the espresso or coffee form
3 - My iphone
4 - Music
5 - Massages
6 - My bed - it is insanely comfy!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The world, policy, law, rights, ... I know I should say politics but politics sure do annoy me ... that said, politics.
On a typical Friday night I am
Depends on the week - if it has been a really long week then maybe a nice dinner with a friend and an early night in to relax. If it hasn't been such a long week then maybe out with my friends socializing and having fun. Friday is definitely my relaxation night and Saturday is my party night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
For much of my life I have generally disliked cats and considered myself only a dog person. However, I'm just too busy to have a dog and I really miss having a pet. So I recently got a cat and I will admit that I'm pretty in love with her. Her name is Ella, she is a total sweetheart - playful and cuddly ... well, a bit of a princess and a tad bossy ... but I'm quite glad to prove myself wrong. That said, I'm still a dog person and refuse to ever be a crazy cat lady.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 25–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You aren't intimidated by the fact that I'm bi or that I don't drink (I could care less if you do -- my bar is one of my favorite pieces of furniture and I love entertaining). Or you understand how I can be a dog person and yet own a cat. Or you get the reference to Burners and appreciate the nuances in what I'm looking for in a relationship.

You should definitely message me if you know how to be aggressive and dominant, while still treating me like a princess and a lady. And if you made it to the end of this profile .... and you're not going to spend weeks emailing back and forth before asking me on a date.

That said, if you're JUST looking for threesomes or your first email to me will consist of one word, such as "sup" or "hey" or some other cryptic vague comment, or you're only confident when you're drunk ... you definitely should not message me as we won't be a good match.

Disclaimer -- I can take a while to write back to a message even if I find you interesting. Often I check this thing before I go to sleep or on the metro, and am either too tired or busy to send a real reply. So if you see that I've looked at your profile and haven't replied, it may just be that I haven't replied yet. And if I have replied, it's best to ask me out sooner rather than later because I can take a while to respond. That all being said, the quickest way to get me to decide NOT to respond is by sending multiple messages in a row before I've even sent one or sending a second message that criticizes my lack of response to the first. I know, you would think this is common sense, but man ... I've gotten nasty emails on more than one occasion from folks who apparently spend way too much time on here and can't fathom me reading their message and not replying right away.