The single most important qualities in a partner to me are curiosity and intelligence. It has always been my fantasy to wind up with someone smarter than I am. And if not smarter, then just as curious.
I don't drink and think most drinking is an update on 6th-grade peer pressure. It's funny to return to my hometown after 17 years away and see how everyone is suddenly into wine as though it were a badge of sophistication. Please. Come running with me. Or hiking. Let's go to a museum and talk art. Or to a bookstore and browse books together. Or come to my place and let's play a game of no-holds-barred Settlers of Catan.
I am proudly traditional and do not understand why those of us with traditional values are somehow labeled as closed-minded. I have two graduate degrees, one from Berkeley, and speak four languages to varying degrees. I am tolerant and open-minded. But I do not think tolerance is the same as acceptance or support -- concepts that have become blurred lately.
I emphatically reject the culture of pre-marital sex. Sex is the icing on the cake, not the cake itself. And that cake is made of the ingredients of patience, commitment, love, kindness and forgiveness. Take the time to wait and we will reap the benefits of amazing trust. Besides, then we can look forward to passionate, awkward honeymoon sex.
After all, if you see that I have the willpower during dating to respect you (even when we both want it...and we will), then you will have complete confidence after marriage that I will be faithful to you. And I will be.
Here's the single best definition of what I am looking for. From Joann Woodward (about her marriage to Paul Newman)....
"Sexiness wears thin after a while and beauty fades, but to be married to a man who makes you laugh every day, ah, now that's a real treat."