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45 M Alexandria, VA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 29–49
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Sep 10
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Not at all
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
English (Fluently), Korean (Okay), French (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm looking for someone who will stand up to me when I'm wrong, who will stick up for me when I'm right, and who will snuggle up with me when it's cold outside.

The single most important qualities in a partner to me are curiosity and intelligence. It has always been my fantasy to wind up with someone smarter than I am. And if not smarter, then just as curious.

I don't drink and think most drinking is an update on 6th-grade peer pressure. It's funny to return to my hometown after 17 years away and see how everyone is suddenly into wine as though it were a badge of sophistication. Please. Come running with me. Or hiking. Let's go to a museum and talk art. Or to a bookstore and browse books together. Or come to my place and let's play a game of no-holds-barred Settlers of Catan.

I am proudly traditional and do not understand why those of us with traditional values are somehow labeled as closed-minded. I have two graduate degrees, one from Berkeley, and speak four languages to varying degrees. I am tolerant and open-minded. But I do not think tolerance is the same as acceptance or support -- concepts that have become blurred lately.

I emphatically reject the culture of pre-marital sex. Sex is the icing on the cake, not the cake itself. And that cake is made of the ingredients of patience, commitment, love, kindness and forgiveness. Take the time to wait and we will reap the benefits of amazing trust. Besides, then we can look forward to passionate, awkward honeymoon sex.

After all, if you see that I have the willpower during dating to respect you (even when we both want it...and we will), then you will have complete confidence after marriage that I will be faithful to you. And I will be.

Here's the single best definition of what I am looking for. From Joann Woodward (about her marriage to Paul Newman)....

"Sexiness wears thin after a while and beauty fades, but to be married to a man who makes you laugh every day, ah, now that's a real treat."
What I’m doing with my life
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I am fighting malaria in Africa and Southeast Asia.

I am in the midst of fund-raising to do clinical studies on a new technology I have licensed to help people get over malaria in an average of five days. For that, I travel to Ghana, Mali, and the Philippines.

I am seeking all the good that life offers and reject the bad and silly, even if it is popular.

I have two graduate degrees: a JD from U.Va. and and MBA from Berkeley. I speak four languages to varying degrees. I negotiate deals in Korea, in Korean. I have lived and worked in Indonesia and South Korea.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Telling jokes, making people laugh and feel comfortable. After all, great minds think alike......and I hope we do, too!
The first things people usually notice about me
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My blue eyes. My smile.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Anything by Barbara Tuchman.
Movies: What About Bob, Signs, To Kill a Mockingbird, Anything by Pixar, The Iron Giant.......
Music: Ska to Pop to Classical.
Food: Anything.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Where did I leave my keys?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Talking to friends, playing cards or board games, hitting a movie or, if I am lucky, at an opera or camping out.
You should message me if
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You like to laugh.