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38 Portland, OR Man, Cis Man

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 27–49
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Online now!
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Working on Ph.D program
Rather not say
Strictly non-monogamous
English, French (Okay)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Life is fantastic! I hope that yours is too. Let's make some art!
I took the 'woman' off of our gender because it seemed so unfair for actual lesbians to see a big hairy sweaty man, unfair to me to see all these awesome adorable ladies and then find out I'm exactly the opposite of what they want! But seriously, if that's you, check out bikelovepdx cause you'll love her and she'll love you!

bikelovepdx and I got MARRIED! That took a lot of time and energy, and we hadn't really been on OKC for a pretty long period before that. So what are we doing here?

In part it's because we're so opposite - DL is an ENFP, recharged by meeting strangers, and if they don't like him, move on to the next exciting new conversation!

C is an ISTJ, _exactly_ the opposite. Why talk to someone if it's the last time we'll ever interact? How exhausting!

So that leaves us with very contradictory, very incommensurate requirements for new people in our lives. C is most at home with queer-identifying, androgynous bois, people who play soccer or want to do athletic activities - want to go for a bike ride? Hit her up!

DL wants people who think and make things. He runs an industrial arts sanctuary called Watershed ( where he can make enormous stencils one day, weld up a clockwork car another, or make giant burnable T-rex:

It seems impossible that any person or couple could match both of our personality requirements - good thing we have each other! We're more-or-less looking to meet men, women and couples to interact with together - preferably with people who already have extant relationships.

And a final thought - there's a depth to _friendship_ available when all intimacies can be explored, even if making out or having sex is then rejected - being able to flirt, without a hard line on 'where it goes', gets us to better friendships than if those choices are forever verboten and we're simply looking 'for new friends'.
What I’m doing with my life
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This fall:

Fixing up the house, planning some big events, travel in the spring.

Pirate Mail, from which we take my namesake:
People write letters to strangers, and the letters get given away to strangers, to see if they arrive. The addresses are not street addresses, but 'affiliative' addresses, such as:

via Zoo Bomb,
A Portland Bike Activity
Write about: Fun things to do in your city!


Dead Letter
They make things at
Watershed, PDX
A Portland Industrial Building
Write about: Projects people are making!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
He's great at tools, she's great at sports. He's great at ambiguity, she's great at plans. He's great at new people, she's great at ongoing relationships. He's great at eating, she's great at cooking...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Story of B (Daniel Quinn),
System of the World (Neal Stephenson),
God Emperor of Dune (Frank Herbert),
The Time Traveler's Wife
The Earthsea Trilogy (Ursula K Lequin)
Don't Think of an Elephant! (George Fuckoff)
The Handbook of Social Tampering

Monsoon Wedding
Today's Special
Morning Glory

The Long Winters
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A Good Fucking Pen. As in, a fucking uni-ball® Vision™ Rollerball Pens, Fine Point, Black, Dozen. A sharpie will do better than some shit-fucked bic. A bic will do.
Patches/Stickers/Swag -
Embrace-All-Information-Flow Attitude -
A project
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Metaphors for group problem solving. The emergence of frames from an exploratory discourse. Art to build next, and the counterplay between art for personal indulgence and art to advance shared projecting.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
1) Sometimes deadletter, as a project, is at someone's show, so I'm there soliciting letters or putting people on envelopes.
2) About 50% of the time I'm in the shop building things with a group of makers.
3) On a personal expedition to meet new people, find new projects, taking only the pile of envelopes in my back pocket and a few patches.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I think kombucha is GROSS.

Oh, and I eat my butter side down.
You should message me if
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If you'd like to write letters to other people. If you want to help me spraypaint envelopes. If you want to sit at a table and listen to people talk about their hopes and dreams and write letters to strangers. If you want to carry mail to far lands. If you want to get breakfast or lunch.

If you're interested in bringing yourself or you and your partner to meet up and see where it goes...