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deardax

32 M San Francisco, CA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 12, 2013
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
Asian, White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Strictly other
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sign
Libra
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Dislikes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Sign Language (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I am obsessed with making things; currently, I am making puppets. I think I'm pretty good at it. I used to have an obsession with old objects because of the stories that they tell; now I'm just obsessed with stories, and have developed an unhealthy disregard for precious things. I am a folk musician (accordion), with my influences mostly coming from American Roots Musics and French and eastern-European folk music. I am therefore embarrassed by the enormous amount of tasteless Japanese pop music that I listen to, and am dealing with it by trying to make very serious oil paintings on the subject.

I have a deep longing for a) Authenticity and b) Duende, but I don't know what either of those words really mean. I wish I were a lot of things; I get pretty close sometimes. There are things I cannot have; I like to know people who have them.

I ride a bike. I try too hard. I am cute (I hope). I am a 2nd-generation transvestite. You could call me queer, but that would be an understatement. I can handle that polyamorous shit, if I gotta.
I’m really good at
Everything.
The first things people usually notice about me
... that I'm a girl, even though I'm not really.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I don't read books, I'm not ashamed to say so, and that's a goddamn shame. I don't mind when books are read to me, though, or when my smart friends describe good books. EDIT 6/12: I've started reading books again and... I may even like doing it.

My favorite movie is Whisper of the Heart (that one lame Miyazaki film that was never imported to the US), but the older I get the more I fall in love with Mononoke Hime. I love the visual storytelling of Kurosawa Akira, especially the magic of Sunshine Through the Rain

A short list of my favorite artworks (note that there are no puppeteers on this list - and don't ask me if I know the work of Royal De Luxe):
The Museum of Jurassic Technology by David Wilson
500 Clown (although no video will do their work justice)
Café Müller by Pena Bausch
Most anything by Sasha Waltz

Music: I am in love with silence, but John Cage has pretty much ruined that for me. I enjoy acoustically-amplified anything. My favorite songs are the ones performed by people that I know; I think that makes it more magical.

Food: gluten free pancakes and anything else I'm not allergic to (which is basically: sushi)
The six things I could never do without
the WHY CHEAP ART? manifesto:

PEOPLE have been THINKING too long that ART is a PRIVILEGE of the MUSEUMS & the RICH.
ART IS NOT BUSINESS!
It does not belong to banks & fancy investors.
ART IS FOOD.
You can’t EAT it BUT it FEEDS you.
ART has to be CHEAP & available to EVERYBODY.
It needs to be EVERYWHERE because it is the INSIDE of the WORLD.
ART SOOTHES PAIN! Art wakes up sleepers! ART FIGHTS AGAINST WAR & STUPIDITY!
ART SINGS HALLELUJA! ART IS FOR KITCHENS! ART IS LIKE GOOD BREAD! Art is like green trees! Art is like white clouds in blue sky! ART IS CHEAP!
HURRAH!


[Bread & Puppet - Glover, Vermont. 1984]
I spend a lot of time thinking about
... all the things that I haven't done today that I meant to do (and still mean to do, even though it's now too late to be feasible).
On a typical Friday night I am
... performing with my band. I've been doing it since 2002, it is my entire life, and I'm not kidding: my bandmates are also my housemates, and comprise my entire circle of friends. Other than playing shows, I don't go out. If I don't have a show to play, I'm working in my puppet workshop.

I don't drink. I don't dance. I don't recreate. I do climb bridges, host parties, and organize citywide games of tag; I just have trouble enjoying myself in non-productive situations. [Okay, I do dance, just not when anyone is looking.]
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm willing to admit to pretty much everything, except that I am obsessed with pop music in languages that I don't understand (does that make it more tasteful?).

I also wish I were smarter, but it's my own damn fault for not reading books.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 26–40
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
A) You make art like it's the only thing you have to live for, like it can somehow save the world if we try hard enough, like its food even when it isn't.

-OR-

B) You can replace the word "art" in the above paragraph with anything, really, and we're good; just be driven by something, okay?

C) You have incredible presence (see above: "Duende"). I'm a sucker for good presence.

D) You're assertive enough to ask me on a date even if you don't necessarily fulfill any of the above.

RULES:

Let's try to be friends first.

You shouldn't message me if you're a layabout.

I'm a happy person :)
If you're not a happy person, you can bite me :P but go ahead and ask me out anyway.

I am bisexual, but to be honest, I'm mostly interested in dating girls. Boys suck. I invite you to prove me wrong; best of luck.