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deardax

32 M San Francisco, CA

My Details

Last Online
Aug 10
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
Asian, White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Strictly other
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sign
Libra
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Offspring
Pets
Dislikes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Sign Language (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I HAVE A GIRLFRIEND AND SHE OWNS GUNS. If that's okay with y'all, keep reading.

I am obsessed with making things, although I understand that fad is going out of style; currently, I am making puppets. I think I'm pretty good at it.I used to have an obsession with old objects because of the stories that they tell, but that got old; now I'm just obsessed with stories, and have developed an unhealthy disregard for precious things (and I'm making a comic book on the subject — unless you think that's dorky, in which case i have no relation to comics whatsoever). I am a folk musician (accordion), with my influences mostly coming from American Roots Musics and French and eastern-European folk music. I am therefore embarrassed by the enormous amount of tasteless Japanese pop music that I listen to, and am dealing with it by trying to make very serious oil paintings on the subjecthitting large metal objects using machines.

I have a deep longing for a) Authenticity and b) Duende, but I don't know what either of those words really mean. I suppose they're just the flowery version of the opposite of bullshit. I wish I were a lot of things; I get pretty close sometimes. There are things I cannot have; I like to know people who have them.

I ride a bike. I try too hard. I am cute (I hope). I guess I'm a 2nd-generation genderqueer, although I think transvestite rolls of the tongue so much nicer, especially when it's Eddie Izzard saying it; genderfluid sounds like something you get through an IV, but it's growing on me. I can handle that polyamorous shit, if I gotta.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Everything.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
... that I'm a girl, even though I'm not really.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I don't read books, I'm not ashamed to say so, and that's a goddamn shame. I don't mind when books are read to me, though, or when my smart friends describe good books. EDIT 6/2012: I've started reading books again, but only if they have 'splosions.

My favorite movie is Whisper of the Heart (that one lame Miyazaki film that was never imported to the US), but the older I get the more I fall in love with Mononoke Hime. I love the visual storytelling of Kurosawa Akira, especially the magic of Sunshine Through the Rain

A short list of my favorite artworks (note that there are no puppeteers on this list - and don't ask me if I know the work of Royal De Luxe):
The Museum of Jurassic Technology by David Wilson
500 Clown (although no video will do their work justice)
Café Müller by Pena Bausch
Most anything by Sasha Waltz

Music: I am in love with silence, but John Cage has pretty much ruined that for me. I enjoy acoustically-amplified anything. My favorite songs are the ones performed by people that I know; I think that makes it more magical.

Food: gluten free pancakes and anything else I'm not allergic to (which is basically: sushi)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
the WHY CHEAP ART? manifesto:

PEOPLE have been THINKING too long that ART is a PRIVILEGE of the MUSEUMS & the RICH.
ART IS NOT BUSINESS!
It does not belong to banks & fancy investors.
ART IS FOOD.
You can’t EAT it BUT it FEEDS you.
ART has to be CHEAP & available to EVERYBODY.
It needs to be EVERYWHERE because it is the INSIDE of the WORLD.
ART SOOTHES PAIN! Art wakes up sleepers! ART FIGHTS AGAINST WAR & STUPIDITY!
ART SINGS HALLELUJA! ART IS FOR KITCHENS! ART IS LIKE GOOD BREAD! Art is like green trees! Art is like white clouds in blue sky! ART IS CHEAP!
HURRAH!


[Bread & Puppet - Glover, Vermont. 1984]
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
... all the things that I haven't done today that I meant to do (and still mean to do, even though it's now too late to be feasible).
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
... performing with my band. I've been doing it since 2002, it is my entire life, and I'm not kidding: my bandmates are also my housemates, and comprise my entire circle of friends. Other than playing shows, I don't go out. If I don't have a show to play, I'm working in my puppet workshop.EDIT 7/2014: after 12 years I've replaced the band with robots, so replace all above instances of 'band' with 'robot'

I don't drink. I don't dance. I don't recreate. I do climb bridges, host parties, and organize citywide games of tag; I just have trouble enjoying myself in non-productive situations. [Okay, I do dance, just not when you, specifically, are looking.]
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm willing to admit to pretty much everything, except that I am obsessed with pop music in languages that I don't understand (does that make it more tasteful?).

I also wish I were smarter, but it's my own damn fault for not reading books.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 28–44
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
A) You make art like it's the only thing you have to live for, like it can somehow save the world if we try hard enough, like its food even when it isn't.

-OR-

B) You can replace the word "art" in the above paragraph with anything, really, and we're good; just be driven by something, okay?

C) You have incredible presence, regardless of any other character flaws. I'm a sucker for good presence. I'd date an ax-murderer if they had good presence.

D) You're assertive enough to ask me on a date even if you don't necessarily fulfill any of the above.

RULES:

Let's try to be friends first.

You shouldn't message me if you're a layabout.

I'm a happy person :)
If you're not a happy person, you can bite me :P but go ahead and ask me out anyway.

I will have sex with boys, but to be honest, I'm mostly interested in dating girls. Boys suck. I invite you to prove me wrong; best of luck.

Also, don't take this profile too seriously.