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34 M Seattle, WA

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 21–37
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Oct 22
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Has cats
English (Fluently), Japanese (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I suppose you could say I am post-modern industrial corporate-goth and old-fashion nerd, but I do not concern myself with any of that. I am an engineer. I refuse to eat salad with dressing on it, or with a fork. Seriously, chopsticks or fingers... salads were not designed for forks and forks were not designed for salads. I clearly love to rant about unimportant things. I play the occasional video game, make noises with synths and drum machines (hardware, not software), open-source contributor, like to build and break things for fun, do open mic comedy,love semantics, and dreaming of random ideas and projects I wish I had more time to work on.

I like trying to find the joy and beauty in an otherwise absurd world. My wife of 2 years and best friend of 11 and I have spent many years helping each other's goals come true. We get one shot at this nonsense, so we need to go out of our way to ensure that we have an opportunity explore every reasonable facet of life. We are securely in an "open relationship" that is not defined by poly or other labels.
What I’m doing with my life
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This last year I returned from living in Japan with my wife, the completion of a long-term goal, and am trying to make sense of being back in Seattle again.

Right now I sit far too often in a darkened room listening to whatever music fits the mood. This needs to end because there is nothing more interesting than wandering the streets of a city while being open to whatever experiences afford themselves. Interesting music, food, people, or whatever, I try to be open to whatever opportunities are available. I truly love the serene tension of a city after dark. That's not creepy, really. I just like how quiet it is, but how the city still boils over with energy. However, as mentioned, I do like sitting in a darkened room simply enjoying music as well, but not alone as much as I am.
I’m really good at
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enjoying the surrealism that exists between the lines.

making good code look like poetry.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I suspect people believe I am shy, but I am just listening. If I trust you I can be an unfiltered individual.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Authors: Burroughs, Kerouac, Vonnegut, Philip K. Dick, Hunter S. Thompson, Palahniuk, Oe Kenzaburo, Murakami, William Gibson, Neal Stephenson, Robert Jordan are authors that I can recall off the top of my head that have some how been meaningful in my life, or of which I can remember right this moment.

Music: noisy noisy sounds, but anything poppy is fine, or classical, or not noisy, but noisy is fine as well. Mel Torme, Ol' Dirty Bastard, and Skinny Puppy.

Movies: I enjoy basically any kind of comedy. Even the worst comedy I will attempt to find humor in. Anything that is likely to invoke emotion in me. However, I particularly like comedies. I would not recommend "Bad News Bears Go to Japan"

For me this is always the most difficult part of describing who I am. I am not the type that tries to define myself and then try to meet those criteria. In a sense, I try not to define myself through what the experience was, but what I gained from that experience.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
drinks at a bar talking about whatever comes to mind.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I learned how to do the Dougie with the devil in the pale moonlight.

From the outside my life is all buttoned up: work, take classes, and generally am a good boy. There is a tiny secret, I am not. I want to find the edge in life, keep things interesting. I love all the little dirty secrets I have, so when I have to go back to my normal life I have something to smile about. I don't hide these things, but people typically don't notice, or ask, but if they did... I am member of the CSPC and love to explore new ideas.
You should message me if
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you've read this far into my inane bullshit, or if you want to tell me what the fuck I am doing wrong. Clearly I am not the ladies man. That last statement is probably counter-productive ... right? I am supposed to prove my worth and be like super confident... fuck. I am not good at this! I kid kid, but seriously I am terrible at this..