32 Groningen, Netherlands
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My self-summary
Hi there. If I'm not focusing intently on learning or figuring something out, I am probably bored. I am an unrepentant nerd, but the relatively rare kind of nerd that likes numbers, words, and people. I like to accomplish things, but I promise that outside of this brief intro, I won't rub it in your face...well, not my accomplishments.

All that said, as you get to know me and I build trust with you, you will figure out that I am a very silly, stupid man. I am increasingly sure I am a Muppet switched at birth to a human family.

The most direct path into my heart is to call me and say, "Double D, I am taking you to the movies NOW. There's a double-feature discount." You will have me eating out of the palm of your hand. Or maybe I will have you eating out of the palm of my hand? Whatever, I like hands and food.

At the end of the day, the best things about me are:
1. I give more than I try to get in relationships.
2. I give people the benefit of the doubt.
3. I look for the good in people.
4. I am always willing to go out of my way to help my friends and make sure they know I appreciate and value them.
5. I refuse to give up.

These are qualities I like about myself and admire in others.

I am quick, upbeat, and open.
What I’m doing with my life
Got my bachelor's in the US. Worked for two years in China. Moved back to the USA, got an MBA in strategic management, a masters degree in human resources, and a PhD in business administration. Now I work as an assistant professor for an international business school in the Netherlands.

Does anyone else find it funny that I'm working for a b-school but my according to my personality profile here, I'm a little less capitalistic than other men my age? I have to admit it made me chuckle.

I used to work as a self-defense instructor for hapkido, and train myself for judo tournaments. I also have trained in tae kwon do, jiujitsu, and escrima.

I was one of the leaders of a Pride committee for several years.

Highly useful set of skills? Check.
Combat training? Check.
Member of an activist group hated and feared by others because of the way they were born? Check.
Based on my checklist, I want to join Xaiver's School for Gifted Youngsters.
I’m really good at
...adapting to my environment. my life to make every minute matter.
...getting people (myself included) to tap into more of their potential.
...not caring much about making lists of things I'm really good at.
...purposefully ending a sentence with a preposition to vex the grammar Nazi who will inevitably read that last sentence and squirm.
The first things people usually notice about me
I am genuinely interested in people. I have a lot of energy. I like to listen.

I forget that people will not immediately recognize I am in fact unflinchingly, Cher-lovingly, light-in-my-loafers gay. I think my orientation gets overlooked because neither martial arts nor academic business research rarely involves frank discussions of the contestants on RuPaul's Drag Race (sadly). It SHOULD. So I've had my fair share of awkward conversations. A mentor of mine once suggested I look for a wife in accounting. A Mormon fellow grad student ribbed me for being late to "the marriage game." An evangelical guy in my MBA program heard a rumor I was sleeping around and offered to talk to me about my "lady-killer" troubles. I usually respond to these kinds of comments with an earnest invite to rank Cher's movie roles. That comment clears things up.

I flip back and forth between being very focused and determined and being lighthearted and whimsical. This habit can bamboozle a new friend. One minute I will be furrowing my brow at the nearest wall, doggedly researching how to properly calculate a meta-analytic confidence interval based on the non-linear transformation from a range restriction coefficient. A few minutes later, I will start singing a song from The Muppets Take Manhattan and insist you play picture description with me.

When I relax, I get a a little goofy. I sometimes cackle with glee. People are unnerved when I am not smiling and become calm when I do.
The six things I could never do without
good books
good writers
good friends
good advice
good stories
good touching
I spend a lot of time thinking about
On a typical Friday night I am
Insisting my friends watch subtitled foreign films with me (captions mean you can comment along while you watch). I occasionally become fixated on French comedies and documentaries about animals.

Going to a concert/speaker/bar/event/play I heard about so that we have something unusual to talk about. Recently, I went to:
1) a read-through of 12th Night that involved a lot of red wine;
2) a building of a giant bonfire in the middle of a field in rural Minnesota;
3) a Catherine DeNeuve film. Because she's wonderful.

That said, I spend a fair number of Fridays hiding from the world and trying to get work done. I deeply enjoy socializing but my work means I require a fair amount of alone time.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I really, really want a dog.

I am currently emotionally over-invested in being part of a transracial family.
You should message me if are in need of an unconventional, engaging conversation. I enjoy penpals and coffee dates. have strong opinions about Wonder Woman.