All that said, as you get to know me and I build trust with you, you will figure out that I am a very silly, stupid man. I am increasingly sure I am a Muppet switched at birth to a human family.
The most direct path into my heart is to call me and say, "Double D, I am taking you to the movies NOW. There's a double-feature discount." You will have me eating out of the palm of your hand. Or maybe I will have you eating out of the palm of my hand? Whatever, I like hands and food.
At the end of the day, the best things about me are:
1. I give more than I try to get in relationships.
2. I give people the benefit of the doubt.
3. I look for the good in people.
4. I am always willing to go out of my way to help my friends and make sure they know I appreciate and value them.
5. I refuse to give up.
These are qualities I like about myself and admire in others.
I am quick, upbeat, and open.
Does anyone else find it funny that I'm working for a b-school but my according to my personality profile here, I'm a little less capitalistic than other men my age? I have to admit it made me chuckle.
I used to work as a self-defense instructor for hapkido, and train myself for judo tournaments. I also have trained in tae kwon do, jiujitsu, and escrima.
I was one of the leaders of a Pride committee for several years.
Highly useful set of skills? Check.
Combat training? Check.
Member of an activist group hated and feared by others because of the way they were born? Check.
Based on my checklist, I want to join Xaiver's School for Gifted Youngsters.
...living my life to make every minute matter.
...getting people (myself included) to tap into more of their potential.
...not caring much about making lists of things I'm really good at.
...purposefully ending a sentence with a preposition to vex the grammar Nazi who will inevitably read that last sentence and squirm.
I forget that people will not immediately recognize I am in fact unflinchingly, Cher-lovingly, light-in-my-loafers gay. I think my orientation gets overlooked because neither martial arts nor academic business research rarely involves frank discussions of the contestants on RuPaul's Drag Race (sadly). It SHOULD. So I've had my fair share of awkward conversations. A mentor of mine once suggested I look for a wife in accounting. A Mormon fellow grad student ribbed me for being late to "the marriage game." An evangelical guy in my MBA program heard a rumor I was sleeping around and offered to talk to me about my "lady-killer" troubles. I usually respond to these kinds of comments with an earnest invite to rank Cher's movie roles. That comment clears things up.
I flip back and forth between being very focused and determined and being lighthearted and whimsical. This habit can bamboozle a new friend. One minute I will be furrowing my brow at the nearest wall, doggedly researching how to properly calculate a meta-analytic confidence interval based on the non-linear transformation from a range restriction coefficient. A few minutes later, I will start singing a song from The Muppets Take Manhattan and insist you play picture description with me.
When I relax, I get a a little goofy. I sometimes cackle with glee. People are unnerved when I am not smiling and become calm when I do.
Movies: The Philadelphia Story, Saving Face, The Opposite of Sex, A Home at the End of the World, Enter the Phoenix, The Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, To Wong Foo, The Muppets Take Manhattan, The Birdcage
Music: Mingus, Aretha, the blues, Guster, Interpol, Old 97s, The Yeah Yeah Yeahs, Athlete, Kiesza, Lily Allen, The Killers, Spoon, The Boxer Rebellion, Arcade Fire, The Pixies, The Scissor Sisters, Dangerous Muse, Frankmusic, [Drake , Hot Chip, Vampire Weekend,Indigo Girls
Food: Indian, Cantonese, Mediterranean
TV: 30 Rock, Futurama, Law and Order: SVU, Parks and Rec, Agent Carter, Jane the Virgin, Jessica Jones
Going to a concert/speaker/bar/event/play I heard about so that we have something unusual to talk about. Recently, I went to:
1) a read-through of 12th Night that involved a lot of red wine;
2) a building of a giant bonfire in the middle of a field in rural Minnesota;
3) a Catherine DeNeuve film. Because she's wonderful.
That said, I spend a fair number of Fridays hiding from the world and trying to get work done. I deeply enjoy socializing but my work means I require a fair amount of alone time.
I am currently emotionally over-invested in being part of a transracial family.
...you have strong opinions about Wonder Woman.