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31 Groningen, Netherlands Man


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  • Ages 22–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, casual sex

My details

Last online
Today – 6:35am
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from Ph.D program
Rather not say
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Chinese (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Hi there. If I'm not focusing intently on learning or figuring something out, I am probably bored. I am an unrepentant nerd, but the relatively rare kind of nerd that likes numbers, words, and people. I like to accomplish things, but I promise that outside of this brief intro, I won't rub it in your face...well, not my accomplishments.

All that said, as you get to know me and I build trust with you, you will figure out that I am a very silly, stupid man. I am increasingly sure I am a Muppet switched at birth to a human family.

The most direct path into my heart is to call me and say, "Double D, I am taking you to the movies NOW. There's a double-feature discount." You will have me eating out of the palm of your hand. Or maybe I will have you eating out of the palm of my hand? Whatever, I like hands and food.

At the end of the day, the best things about me are:
1. I give more than I try to get in relationships.
2. I give people the benefit of the doubt.
3. I look for the good in people.
4. I am always willing to go out of my way to help my friends and make sure they know I appreciate and value them.
5. I refuse to give up.

These are qualities I like about myself and admire in others.

I am quick, upbeat, and open.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I worked for two years in China. Then I came to Iowa and got an MBA in strategic management, a masters degree in human resources, and a PhD in business administration. Working as an assistant professor for an international business school in the Netherlands.

Does anyone else find it funny that I'm working for a b-school but my according to my personality profile here, I'm a little less capitalistic than other men my age? I have to admit it made me chuckle.

I train folks in self-defense and train myself for judo tournaments. I also have trained in tae kwon do, jiujitsu, and escrima.

I was one of the leaders of a Pride committee for several years.

Highly useful set of skills? Check.
Combat training? Check.
Member of an activist group hated and feared by others because of the way they were born? Check.

Given the above, I kind of want to join Xaiver's School for Gifted Youngsters.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
...adapting to my environment. my life to make every minute matter.
...getting people (myself included) to tap into more of their potential.
...not caring much about making lists of things I'm really good at.
...purposefully ending a sentence with a preposition to vex the grammar Nazi who will inevitably read that last sentence and squirm.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I am genuinely interested in people. I have a lot of energy. I like to listen.

I forget that people will not immediately recognize I am in fact unflinchingly, Cher-lovingly, light-in-my-loafers gay. This is because martials arts and academic business research rarely rarely involve a discussion of my opinions of the contestants on RuPaul's Drag Race (sadly). It SHOULD. So I've had my fair share of awkward conversations. A mentor of mine once suggested I look for a wife in accounting. A Mormon fellow grad student ribbed me for being late to "the marriage game." An evangelical guy in my MBA program heard a rumor I was sleeping around and offered to talk to me about my "lady-killer" troubles. I usually respond to these kinds of comments with an invite to earnestly discuss the merits of Cher's various movies. It clears things up.

I flip back and forth between being very focused and determined and being lighthearted and whimsical. As you get to know me, this can be bamboozling. One minute I will be furrowing my brow at the nearest wall, doggedly researching how to properly calculate a meta-analytic confidence interval based on the non-linear transformation from a range restriction coefficient. A minute later, I will start singing a song from The Muppets Take Manhattan and insist you play picture description with me. See above comment about getting progressively gayer.

I am a little goofy. I often cackle with glee. I will skip down a hallway just because. People are unnerved when I am not smiling and become calm when I do.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
good books
good writers
good friends
good advice
good stories
good touching
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Insisting my friends watch subtitled foreign films with me (captions mean you can make snarky comments AND still follow the plot). I occasionally become fixated on French comedies and documentaries about animals.

Going to a concert/speaker/bar/event/play I heard about so that we have something unusual to talk about. Recently, I went to:
1) a read-through of 12th Night that involved a lot of red wine;
2) a building of a giant bonfire in the middle of a field in rural Minnesota;
3) a Catherine DeNeuve film. Because she's wonderful.

That said, I spend a fair number of Fridays hiding from the world and trying to get work done. I deeply enjoy going out, but I do require a fair amount of alone time.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I really, really want a dog.

I am currently emotionally over-invested in being part of a transracial family.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over. are in need of an unconventional, engaging conversation. I enjoy penpals and coffee dates. have strong opinions about Wonder Woman.