WHOA, THERE!

This profile is shown only for reference of pre-existing correspondents. Too many people have written to me lately. I am not available right now to handle more. ALL NEW CONTACT LETTERS WILL BE IGNORED.

This profile may be active at a later date. For now I am giving my full attention to those with whom I'm already corresponding. I AM UNAVAILABLE AT THIS TIME FOR ANY NEW CONTACTS. (I'm not actually 99 years old, living in portugal or "seeing someone," but these help to temporarily keep me out of the matching system.)

I'm a thoughtful, intelligent and playful sort, securely confident, intensely passionate and present, loving, motivated, self-determined and expressive.

I like to create, I like to inspire, support and explore. I am unconventional and driven, seeing each day as an adventure to discover, an opportunity to create dreams, realize goals and celebrate being alive. I am optimistic about the power of love and listening to one's hopes. I am a passionate thinker, dreamer and do-er, a "renaissance spirit," and gentle revolutionary. Some of my strengths are creative problem-solving, mingling and conversation, having good judgment and an even temperament under pressure, being supportive and accepting of other people's interests, and knowing what I need. I am both powerful and sweet.

I enjoy being around people and connecting with them. I thrive in community and intimacy as much as I also need times of solitude. There is a balance in all of these, it helps to have times of simply being and not doing anything. I tend toward being overcommitted and busy, but I make time to meditate and care for my body, to evaluate that I spend my time where it works (and plays) best for me. I live life with courage and creative pragmatism. I manage adequately, I am happy, and stable.

I seek leisure companionship, preferably of a romantic flavor. Romantically, I have weaknesses for long (or soft) hair, considerate gestures, attentive souls, geekiness, weirdness, improvisational wit, good manners, inspirational conversation, and getting a good foot rub. I have a strong sex drive but I don't do casual encounters (or sexually open networks/relationships). I am able to love, able to communicate, able to commit, and I am potentially available for a meaningful and adventurous long-term relationship with someone brilliant, impassioned, sensual, and courageously authentic.

I tend to wear one color at a time and choose soft, sensual textures. I enjoy food, I don't drink coffee, and rarely alcohol. I have eclectic passions and interests. I'm physically active, average height, average build, notable curves to rival my notable wit, and have a naturally beautiful face (I usually don't wear cosmetics). I show up as everything from tomboy to ultra-femme, depending on my mood and the activity or occasion. I enjoy dancing, cultural events, words, film, music, land-based wilderness activities, and creating and witnessing art of many kinds.

I'm well-practiced in various kinky arts, but kink is only ~part~ of my life. It's not my entire life, and I like having a balance. (I've had lovely romances without it, it's simply one way that I can express and share intimacy deeply. There are more ways and possibilities than one lifetime can discover, I think.)

There is more information, some of it unconventional, in my journal posts. Please accept my invitation to check that out before you contact me.

I'm working on personal projects. I've been selling off or giving away most of my property, writing material for various possible books, working on the land around my home, redesigning my life, letting go and making new discoveries. It's a time of inspiration, energy and exciting focus for me.

Right now, I'm making my projects a bigger priority than questing for romance. I'd love to have someone sweet in my life for a low-key/part-time romance, or an activity partner for dancing or cycling or festival-wandering, but I'm not carving out a lot of time for dating. If something twinkly happens, that's great. I am open to meeting someone for a serious relationship. I could make more free time in my schedule if it seemed appropriate.

I'd like to have a steady partner, but only if it's a wonderful connection. I don't push to pretend something's possible that isn't. Though I know those hungers for intimacy and love can be strong, I am surprised when people want to make chemistry and attraction into compatibility. Having fun together and liking each other are important, but not enough.

While I'm comfortable with being single, and choosy about partnering up, I'm fiercely loyal when I do commit. This isn't to say that I'm vague or fickle when dating someone who is not (yet?) my lover/partner. I'm communicative and reliable. Even if I'm only able to get together once or twice a week these days, I'm present and available to enjoy the moment at hand.

Giving and receiving communication, giving and receiving attention, giving and receiving touch. Handling crisis, disappointment or overwhelming joy. Sharing stories. Helping troubled friends remember what they love about themselves or their partner(s). Seeing the world as a playground of opportunity. Asking for what I want. Giving space generously for others to ask for what they want. Honoring those that I care about. Living from integrity. Trust: trusting another person, trusting myself, trusting the unknown.

People tend to comment on my long hair, but I don't think that's what makes the biggest impression. I am comfortable and familiar with both my body and my desires/moods, and this lends me a certain relaxed confidence. I think more people notice my personality, since I tend to talk to strangers, making light jokes. Strangers have more to go on than just how I look.

I love books. One of my favorite things about house-sitting (Aside from being an auntie to pets without the long-term commitment) is getting permission to enjoy someone else's library. My nonfiction interests are gluttonous, with slight leanings for science, mathematics, cultural analysis, ethics and poetry. For fiction I prefer short stories, classic literature, erotica and science fiction. I have no taste for romance novels: I find them to be uninspiring, tedious, humorless melodramas. (Though I sound like Jane Austen to say it that way!)

I might come back to this question. I enjoy all four topics, and enjoy sharing them.

Books. Intimacy. A bicycle. Creativity. A comfy bed. Music.

These days? Usually, at home. Occasionally out dancing or catching live music.

I think that good manners are sexy.

If you would like to see the answers to the match questions we've both answered, Request a WTF. OKCupid is not officially supporting WTF, but I approve all incoming WTF report requests. You will probably get a message that the report was rejected, but don't worry about that, the request was still sent. (Let's hope.) I hope OKCupid will officially bring back WTF reports. They're thought-provoking and useful. I won't assume a personal communication (e.g. introduction) if you request a WTF report. Some requests are just people curious to try it! So, WTF as you will (and if you want to communicate, write me a letter).

If nothing lights up your spirit like making a beautiful woman smile.

If you like to cuddle. If you know the differences between a caress, an embrace and a massage stroke.

If you would enjoy the noble sacrifice of letting me stumble over your poor feet as I learn Argentine tango. (I am an impassioned, enthusiastic and good-humored dancer with flexibility, balance and stamina, but I acknowledge the challenge of learning tango.)

If you take few things for granted, and one of those few things is the importance of an ethical, compassionate nature.

If you can laugh at my allergy to the cutesy-cute things and help me through the moments when I am traumatized by sheep in tutus. As long as you can understand that a T. Rex running with scissors is okay.

If you've dared to admit that you really want an amazing relationship, and you've made yourself ready to go after it if you find it or let it go if you haven't.

If you draw strength from sharing yourself and being truly seen and appreciated for who you are.

If you realize your life would be better with a loving, thoughtful and adventurous woman in it.

Your heart is emotionally peaceful and available: If you believe that every love that blesses your life is unique to itself, and you celebrate this with gratitude and wonder.

If you would like to know more about what kind of person I'm looking for, visit my journal posts.

If you are seeking a vivacious, competent, sometimes silly, profoundly pragmatic, well-adjusted, amazing sexy genius of a woman, you may have found one, and perhaps even one compatible with you, perhaps you might be compatible with me. For most of you reading, this will not be the case, but if you are curious, if you are inspired, drop me a line. Or perhaps it is safer to only wonder if it would be worth the time to dance with the curiosity and consider if we both want to enjoy and learn about each other. Life is about choice. Invest wisely.

I value clear communication. I am honored if you take time to contact me sincerely instead of sending a form letter or a throwaway message. Also, profile visits, WTF requests, MatchMe tests, Wink and Favorite notifications are easily misinterpreted and have been a waste of time for me to respond to. If you would like me to notice you, send me a letter. Be sure to ask directly if you want anything: some people send commentary and discussion for its own sake, and I won't know that you're thinking "how about meeting for tea next week" unless you say so. (I am ambivalent about this paragraph: anyone that would match me well doesn't much need these reminders)