Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm beginning to think there must have been some mass exodus of gay
black men from OH to NYC, because so many of us seem to have grown
up there and then migrated here…. it makes you wonder if there's
something in the water.
I didn't think it was SO bad… that said:
I've been living in Brooklyn for a year and a half and every day I
fall more in love with this city. I love the coffee-slinging street
vendors, and the Moms in my neighborhood always wearing yoga pants.
I love the open air farmers markets and the independent bookstores.
I love the lights of Lincoln Center and the sounds of Harlem. I
love everything about Sundays. I guess I have a lot of love for
just about everything and everyone in my life right now, and maybe
I'm a late bloomer (I'm definitely a late bloomer!), but I'm
finally approaching a place where I'm ready to build something
meaningful with one man.
That's not to say I have it all 100% together, but I'm getting
This just in: I'm an INFJ on Myers-Briggs.
What I’m doing with my life
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I can't stress enough how much I adore my job. It's a cliche—the
liberal arts educated twenty-something working at a non-profit
striving to educate and empower an entire community of underserved
children—but I guess it's a cliche for a reason. I'm a curriculum
coordinator in the creative writing program at the Harlem
Children's Zone. I spend about 15 hours a week teaching writing to
middle schoolers and the other 25-30 hours a week developing
curriculum and lesson plans, and supporting several locations in
their curriculum implementation. It's a busy gig, and middle school
is a tough age (for many, many reasons) but every day is completely
new and the simple truth is that teaching children opens your
heart. And yes, I'm rolling my eyes for typing that, but its the
truth... or at least, my truth.
I also teach figure skating at Figure Skating in Harlem, a
nonprofit organization dedicated to combining education with the
discipline of serious figure skating training to transform the
lives of young girls in an underserved community. Which means this
is the moment when I reveal that as a teenager, I was a competitive
figure skater (complete with the costumes and everything....)
Lastly, and most importantly, I'm writing a novel, along with any
number of short stories in various stages of development—the same
thing as every other twenty-something with an MFA living in
Brooklyn. So there's that. Another thing I love.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I have a talent for getting people to tell me their life stories
really quickly after meeting them. I'm not sure how it happens
because even though I'm really nosy, I have decent enough manners
not to just go asking people about every little detail of their
lives. Nevertheless, it happens all the time.
I'm a good thinker. I'm a smarty.
Very musically inclined. I was also a very serious violist for a
long time, so I used to be good at that. And I was in an a cappella
group in college. We performed in our bare feet wearing overalls.
It was adorable.
And I have an eye for picking a tasty bottle of wine.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm really bubbly for someone who, deep down, is more of an
I'm really sweet, and that comes across very quickly.
I smile and laugh easily and frequently.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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"Anne of Green Gables" (L.M. Montgomery) was probably the first
book that ever meant anything to me. But "Caucasia" (Danzy Senna)
was the first time I realized that there was so much more than
entertainment to be gleaned from reading. It was the first time I
was conscious of seeing myself in what I read. So those are
favorites. Others are "Olive Kitteridge" and "Amy and Isabelle" by
Elizabeth Strout, "Unaccustomed Earth" by Jhumpa Lahiri, "To the
Lighthouse" by Virginia Woolf, "The Twelve Tribes of Hattie" by
Ayana Mathis, "The Scarlet Letter" by Nathaniel Hawthorne, "The God
of Small Things" by Arundhati Roy, "Atonement" by Ian McEwan,
"Paradise" by Toni Morrison, "Drinking Coffee Elsewhere" by ZZ
Packer, and "Revolutionary Road" by Richard Yates. I recently read
"We the Animals" by Justin Torres. It was everything.
I love TV. Modern Family, Parenthood, Scandal, Grey's, True Blood,
Downton Abbey, New Girl, and The Mindy Project are regulars for
I love Fargo, Moonrise Kingdom, Bridesmaids, and anything
Recently, I've been enchanted by jazz. Laura Mvula and Kimbra are
favorites, but I'm getting into the vintage stuff: Nina Simone,
Sarah Vaughn, and Lady B (as in Billie, not Beyonce). I do love
love love Adele. One Republic. Sia. Chrisette Michele.
As for food. I love sushi, thai, Indian, anything cheesy, and
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Honey Bunches of Oats
a desk and chair
Cheese (I know, I know, seven.... arithmetic was never my
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My goals. I'm extremely goal oriented. Always pushing myself to be
a little bit better, kinder, smarter, more diligent, more
organized, more patient.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Some Friday nights I stay in and write, or read, or watch TV and
cuddle with my roomie. Sometimes I'm out on the town, seeing a show
or concert or reading, and sometimes I'm drinking and dancing. Join
me, why dontcha?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have this one really large wine glass that only I am allowed to
drink from. Her name is Fat Bev.
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