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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 27-45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Sep 7
Black, Native American, White
5' 9" (1.75m)
Body Type
Special Diet
Other but it’s not important
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids but might want them
My self-summary
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I'm beginning to think there must have been some mass exodus of gay black men from OH to NYC, because so many of us seem to have grown up there and then migrated here…. it makes you wonder if there's something in the water.

I didn't think it was SO bad… that said:

I've been living in Brooklyn for a year and a half and every day I fall more in love with this city. I love the coffee-slinging street vendors, and the Moms in my neighborhood always wearing yoga pants. I love the open air farmers markets and the independent bookstores. I love the lights of Lincoln Center and the sounds of Harlem. I love everything about Sundays. I guess I have a lot of love for just about everything and everyone in my life right now, and maybe I'm a late bloomer (I'm definitely a late bloomer!), but I'm finally approaching a place where I'm ready to build something meaningful with one man.

That's not to say I have it all 100% together, but I'm getting there. #twenties

This just in: I'm an INFJ on Myers-Briggs.
What I’m doing with my life
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I can't stress enough how much I adore my job. It's a cliche—the liberal arts educated twenty-something working at a non-profit striving to educate and empower an entire community of underserved children—but I guess it's a cliche for a reason. I'm a curriculum coordinator in the creative writing program at the Harlem Children's Zone. I spend about 15 hours a week teaching writing to middle schoolers and the other 25-30 hours a week developing curriculum and lesson plans, and supporting several locations in their curriculum implementation. It's a busy gig, and middle school is a tough age (for many, many reasons) but every day is completely new and the simple truth is that teaching children opens your heart. And yes, I'm rolling my eyes for typing that, but its the truth... or at least, my truth.

I also teach figure skating at Figure Skating in Harlem, a nonprofit organization dedicated to combining education with the discipline of serious figure skating training to transform the lives of young girls in an underserved community. Which means this is the moment when I reveal that as a teenager, I was a competitive figure skater (complete with the costumes and everything....)

Lastly, and most importantly, I'm writing a novel, along with any number of short stories in various stages of development—the same thing as every other twenty-something with an MFA living in Brooklyn. So there's that. Another thing I love.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I have a talent for getting people to tell me their life stories really quickly after meeting them. I'm not sure how it happens because even though I'm really nosy, I have decent enough manners not to just go asking people about every little detail of their lives. Nevertheless, it happens all the time.

I'm a good thinker. I'm a smarty.

Very musically inclined. I was also a very serious violist for a long time, so I used to be good at that. And I was in an a cappella group in college. We performed in our bare feet wearing overalls. It was adorable.

And I have an eye for picking a tasty bottle of wine.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm really bubbly for someone who, deep down, is more of an introvert.

I'm really sweet, and that comes across very quickly.

I smile and laugh easily and frequently.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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"Anne of Green Gables" (L.M. Montgomery) was probably the first book that ever meant anything to me. But "Caucasia" (Danzy Senna) was the first time I realized that there was so much more than entertainment to be gleaned from reading. It was the first time I was conscious of seeing myself in what I read. So those are favorites. Others are "Olive Kitteridge" and "Amy and Isabelle" by Elizabeth Strout, "Unaccustomed Earth" by Jhumpa Lahiri, "To the Lighthouse" by Virginia Woolf, "The Twelve Tribes of Hattie" by Ayana Mathis, "The Scarlet Letter" by Nathaniel Hawthorne, "The God of Small Things" by Arundhati Roy, "Atonement" by Ian McEwan, "Paradise" by Toni Morrison, "Drinking Coffee Elsewhere" by ZZ Packer, and "Revolutionary Road" by Richard Yates. I recently read "We the Animals" by Justin Torres. It was everything.

I love TV. Modern Family, Parenthood, Scandal, Grey's, True Blood, Downton Abbey, New Girl, and The Mindy Project are regulars for me.

I love Fargo, Moonrise Kingdom, Bridesmaids, and anything Christopher Guest.

Recently, I've been enchanted by jazz. Laura Mvula and Kimbra are favorites, but I'm getting into the vintage stuff: Nina Simone, Sarah Vaughn, and Lady B (as in Billie, not Beyonce). I do love love love Adele. One Republic. Sia. Chrisette Michele.

As for food. I love sushi, thai, Indian, anything cheesy, and froyo.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Honey Bunches of Oats
Jasmine Tea
a desk and chair
Lush products
Space heater
Cheese (I know, I know, seven.... arithmetic was never my strength).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My goals. I'm extremely goal oriented. Always pushing myself to be a little bit better, kinder, smarter, more diligent, more organized, more patient.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Some Friday nights I stay in and write, or read, or watch TV and cuddle with my roomie. Sometimes I'm out on the town, seeing a show or concert or reading, and sometimes I'm drinking and dancing. Join me, why dontcha?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have this one really large wine glass that only I am allowed to drink from. Her name is Fat Bev.
You should message me if
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You're looking to maybe, possibly, some day… delete this thing?
Yeah, we'll go with that :-)