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28 M Brooklyn, NY

My Details

Last Online
Today – 5:09am
Black, Native American, White
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Other, but not too serious about it
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
I'm beginning to think there must have been some mass exodus of gay black men from OH to NYC, because so many of us seem to have grown up there and then migrated here…. it makes you wonder if there's something in the water.

I didn't think it was SO bad… that said:

I've been living in Brooklyn for a year and a half and every day I fall more in love with this city. I love the coffee-slinging street vendors, and the Moms in my neighborhood always wearing yoga pants. I love the open air farmers markets and the independent bookstores. I love the lights of Lincoln Center and the sounds of Harlem. I love everything about Sundays. I guess I have a lot of love for just about everything and everyone in my life right now, and maybe I'm a late bloomer (I'm definitely a late bloomer!), but I'm finally approaching a place where I'm ready to build something meaningful with one man.

That's not to say I have it all 100% together, but I'm getting there.
What I’m doing with my life
I can't stress enough how much I adore my job. It's a cliche—the liberal arts educated twenty-something working at a non-profit striving to educate and empower an entire community of underprivileged children—but I guess it's a cliche for a reason. I'm a curriculum coordinator in the creative writing program at the Harlem Children's Zone. I spend about 15 hours a week teaching writing to middle schoolers and the other 25-30 hours a week developing curriculum and lesson plans, and supporting several locations in their curriculum implementation. It's a busy gig, and middle school is a tough age (for many, many reasons) but every day is completely new and the simple truth is that teaching children opens your heart. And yes, I'm rolling my eyes for typing that, but its the truth... or at least, my truth.

I'm also writing a novel, along with any number of short stories in various stages of development—the same thing as every other twenty-something with an MFA living in Brooklyn. So there's that. Another thing I love.
I’m really good at
I'd rather be honest about the things I'm not good at. Humor me…

Technology. My iPhone 4 and I have been in a relationship for a year and a half and I still don't know how to use it. I struggle to use TV remotes and don't understand why people need so many of them. Google Docs stresses me out.

I come from a long line of people who have a horrendous sense of direction, and I'm the worst of the bunch. It was life-changing for me when someone eventually pointed out that I'm the moving dot in google maps.

I'm good at walking fast and weaving through crowds on the sidewalk, and I'm good at driving fast and weaving through traffic on the PA turnpike. As long as the GPS is on.

Seriously, it's atrocious. I've been known to get lost returning to my table from the restroom in restaurants.
The first things people usually notice about me
"Excuse me, but are you lost?"

"You smile a lot. You must not be from New York."

"Is that your third coffee? It's not even noon..."
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
"Anne of Green Gables" (L.M. Montgomery) was probably the first book that ever meant anything to me. But "Caucasia" (Danzy Senna) was the first time I realized that there was so much more than entertainment to be gleaned from reading. It was the first time I was conscious of seeing myself in what I read. So those are favorites. Others are "Olive Kitteridge" and "Amy and Isabelle" by Elizabeth Strout, "Unaccustomed Earth" by Jhumpa Lahiri, "To the Lighthouse" by Virginia Woolf, "The Twelve Tribes of Hattie" by Ayana Mathis, "The Scarlet Letter" by Nathaniel Hawthorne, "The God of Small Things" by Arundhati Roy, "Atonement" by Ian McEwan, "Paradise" by Toni Morrison, "Drinking Coffee Elsewhere" by ZZ Packer, and "Revolutionary Road" by Richard Yates. I recently read "We the Animals" by Justin Torres. It was everything.

I love TV. Modern Family, Parenthood, Scandal, Grey's, True Blood, Downton Abbey, New Girl, and The Mindy Project are regulars for me.

I love Fargo, Moonrise Kingdom, Bridesmaids, and anything Christopher Guest.

Recently, I've been enchanted by jazz. Laura Mvula and Kimbra are favorites, but I'm getting into the vintage stuff: Nina Simone, Sarah Vaughn, and Lady B (as in Billie, not Beyonce). I do love love love Adele. One Republic. Sia. Chrisette Michele.

As for food. I love sushi, thai, Indian, anything cheesy, and froyo.
The six things I could never do without
Honey Bunches of Oats
Jasmine Tea
a desk and chair
Lush products
Space heater
(I could list so many more. I'm kind of high maintenance… but I'm worth it, I swear!)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My goals. I'm extremely goal oriented. Always pushing myself to be a little bit better, kinder, smarter, more diligent, more organized, more patient.
On a typical Friday night I am
Some Friday nights I stay in and write, or read, or watch TV and cuddle with my roomie. Sometimes I'm out on the town, seeing a show or concert or reading, and sometimes I'm drinking and dancing. Join me, why dontcha?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've used seamless to order a grilled cheese.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like guys
  • Ages 24–37
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You're looking to maybe, possibly, some day… delete this thing?
Yeah, we'll go with that :-)