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43 Victoria, British Columbia, CA Man


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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 25–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Online now!
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body type
Atheism, and laughing about it
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Seeing Someone
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Spanish (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly)
My self-summary
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I'm a big, furry, pansexual cuddle slut. I have geek tendencies (I used to work at the evil empire, Microsoft, doing speech recognition.) A few years ago I decided that I was incapable of doing that full-time any longer, though. Since then I have delivered sailboats from Hawaii, attended the Northwest School of Wooden Boatbuilding, built a mast and other repairs on a 55 year old wooden schooner, sailed the schooner up in Canada for the summers, and spent a lot of time in the woods. I did a primitive living skills apprenticeship with Earthwalk Northwest in Issaquah. In 2008 I moved back to Canada and am now in Victoria, BC doing a PhD at UVic. I'm also back living on my boat in the inner harbour. I'd love to meet fun people for dating, sailing, kayaking, camping, cooking, foraging, or any combination of the above.

I'm in a long-term relationship, but we are polyamorous. I'm back and forth between Victoria and Vancouver a lot, with occasional side trips to San Francisco. Lots going on in my life and my dance card is kind of full, but if we should meet then I'll make time!

[edit: changing the city to South San Francisco because I'll be at the marina there soon! Please say hi!]

BTW. I keep getting asked about pansexual. I selected bisexual on OKC because it was the closest to my identity, but I don't really like the term. You can think of pansexual as bisexual without the implied support of a gender binary. I date all flavours of people. And particularly enjoy people who don't entirely colour inside the lines.
What I’m doing with my life
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Sailing and woodworking and writing, playing in the woods with elves and punks and anarchists, learning what kind of seaweeds I can eat, listening to good music. I'm also busy these days with a local hackerspace I helped found. Check out and come out and play!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Solving problems, stirring up trouble, listening.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I'm really something of a geek. You can hear me geek out about biology at
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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books: Zen and the art of motorcycle maintenance, Numerical recipes in C, Lord of the Rings (of course)

movies: Lord of the rings, Y tu mama tambien, Amelie

music: Ani DiFranco, Piper McKenzie, not too fond of most rap or country, but aside from that I listen to most everything

foods: curry. yum. I have a host of recently discovered food allergies, so I'm eating lots of seafood and veggies these days. Since that's what I can collect from the sea and forest it works out best that way anyways!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
aside from the smartass "air and water" kind of answers I don't honestly believe that there's anything I couldn't do without.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Biology and computers.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Sitting around reading, coding, going out with friends, watching a movie, surfing the internet, cuddling with you!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'll admit most anything... what do you want to know? pansexuality? kinky? BDSM? genderfucking? Just ask...
You should message me if
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you're adventurous and caring and interesting.