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detectivehazama

27 / M / straight / Single

Escondido, California

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Ethnicity
Asian
Height
5' 11" (1.80m).
Body Type
Average
Looking For
New friends, Long-term dating, Activity partners, Long-distance penpals
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Christianity but not too serious about it
Sign
Libra and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on college/university
Job
Student
Income
Kids
Likes children
Pets
Likes dogs and Likes cats
Languages
English (Fluently), Japanese (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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I am a student, looking for friends, and a fellow.

My Self-Summary

I'll start right out and say that I don't lie. Now, you might think that's a good thing, but I don't really think it always is. I guess when it comes to you asking me something, then yes, you'll always get an honest answer... but it also means that I have no filter in between my brain and my fingers apparently. So, I'll end up just saying whatever pops into my head, which can be rather tactless. I don't mean it maliciously, but I guess I don't know a nice way of saying some things that I wonder about. Just a fore warning.

Else wise, I don't get out much, and so I'm pretty chatty online, but in person I'm fairly shy and reserved for a while until you get to know me. I do like women, although I hardly understand them... Sometimes I think I do, but then... mostly not. Which I hear is a common problem most guys have, so I guess I shouldn't feel too badly about it.
Now in Japanese
はじめまして。わたしのなまえははざまです。わたしはにじゅうろくさいです。がくせいです。せんもんはcomputer かがく。わたしのしゆみはあにめ。どぞよろしくおねがいします。

What I’m doing with my life

School's started again and I'm going to Palomar Community College to work on my general education for the computer science major. I hope to transfer to UCSD in a couple of years, maybe I can even get an associates before then. To be honest though, I might change my major (again) to something like Information Systems Management because I don't know if I could really sit there and write code all day. Originally my goal was to be something that dealt with networks... being able to connect two computers from across the room, or across the world. It seemed vital for businesses, and the military, which I was in for a short period of 3 years. We relied a lot on our LAN to get our job done, but half the time it didn't even work... (we couldn't access the same files from each computer, we couldn't print, it crashed, etc...) So then I said, gosh! There must be a need for such things... and I like computers, since I spend most of the time I'm not in school sitting at one.

School is pretty fun, but I don't know anyone... and community college does seem to be somewhat of an extension of high school, so there's a fair number of cliques. Plus with me being shy I don't know. I just go to class, do my work and then go home. But who knows... there's a lot of people that go there, maybe one of them will see this and chat me up. -lol- Then we could be friends. :p

I’m really good at

Well, since I like video games and anime, I guess I'm good at that. I haven't gotten any new games lately... but I have like almost 100 between the Wii and the PS/2/3/PSP... and DS.... It's something I've been doing since I was 6... My parents worked, and it was the easiest way to make sure I occupied myself without destroying things or whatever... They could leave and come back and I'd still be there... so did what they wanted, I suppose.

As far as anime goes, I'm watching Shugo Chara now... but I have an external hard drive with over 5000 episodes on it, and always looking for more. After this one fills up I have another one (the old one) that's 1 TB and I can wipe that and add in another few thousand more episodes... so, it's a fairly decent collection. I do have a my anime list thing or whatever on the internet, but it's hard to keep it up to date because I watch a lot. It's really handy now though that I'm taking Japanese in school... I'm actually starting to be able to read some of the characters, and understand more. So that's neat.

In other things, I'm probably good at being domestic. When I was in the Navy the guys in my division always said I'd make a good house husband. I get amused by all the little things, and so I can do stuff that other people don't and like it. For the Navy, I dealt with all their paperwork. Keeping track of their logs, confidential documents, drafting up the work authorization forms, providing technical schematics and perusing the manuals for operating procedures/instructions.

At home I like to clean I guess. Only if I have someone to clean for though. I enjoyed the few (ie 2) times that I got a girl to play video games whilst I cleaned the bathroom. I like sweeping, vacuuming, using window cleaner, doing laundry, shining shoes (kinda)... all that kind of stuff... I truly even love going grocery shopping with someone. I think it's fantastic to pick out what you would like to eat, then go home and make it and eat it. So, I don't really know what to think about all that, but... that's me.

The first things people usually notice about me

Probably that I'm very quiet, and smile infrequently. I suppose that's how it is at school. I just go to class, sit down, say nothing, take notes, get the assignments, pack and leave. I suppose my body language comes across as defensive too since I sit there and listen to the pre-lecture with my arms crossed, and tend to keep them that way any time I'm not writing. I think before it tended to lend itself to some kind of "spicy and cool" image... but really it's probably because I'm nervous and stuff being around people so I am all like, well probably the opposite of whatever they think I am.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

Well besides reading textbooks now, and technical manuals before that I read fantasy novels pretty much. Stuff like Dragon Lance, the Earthsea Trilogy, The Sword of Truth series...

Movies, well I like romance, comedies, romantic comedies, action, drama, suspense, etc... all the way down to horror, which I don't much care for at all. I guess if the mood is right then it could be nice to watch, but I don't know... I think life is scary enough without adding in crazy people and monsters.

Music is all over too... Sometimes I listen to 80's music, sometimes pre-war music from the 30's and 40's... like swing music and big band stuff... sometimes I listen to R&B and Hip-hop... It's whatever sounds good I guess, each of the genres has songs that I'm like, ehhh so I just change the channel.... and also I only listen to music whilst driving... so I hardly listen very much at all.

Food, well I do like to eat. Asian foods foremost I guess since that's what I grew up with... so I do like rice. After that, pretty much anything... although for religious reasons I technically don't eat anything but fish, beef, chicken and turkey... and vegetables, dairy, whatever... but if all you've got is a pepperoni pizza then it's not going to kill me... I figure that a fine animal died, and is here in front of me now, I might as well honor its sacrifice and eat it... I hate wasting food. I could tell you why... if you wanted to know.

The six things I could never do without

I suppose in no particular order:

Electricity

The Internet/computers

People (I fear them but also would like to know them. I'm not a
loner by choice I guess.)

The past... I guess... so I can figure out where I'm going and not end up walking in circles.

Hmmm, what else... kittens I guess, since they're fuzzy and cute and make you smile...

Uh, I don't know anymore.... Time? Since I have many ways of keeping track of it (watch, phone, computer, alarm clock). I don't like being late...

You? -rofl- Oh, that's 7 huh? Oh well, I can get a gold star for effort maybe.

I spend a lot of time thinking about

Women, I guess... how to understand them, how to talk to them, how to make them happy...

I have only 2 dreams really... all the others I think broke... to put it in my poetic fashion... since, I write poetry...

Each tear is a dream I encase within a liquid crystal, and is flung from my eyes away from me, to be shattered upon the rocks of reality, and forever lost. One day I shall stop crying, for I shall have no more dreams to lose.

Of course, being a hopeless romantic I am always coming up with more dreams and thus I can still be hurt and still cry, even all these years later after I said it.

So my first dream is to get married... because I think the idea of someone who could say I love you forever... well that's like, insane.

Other than that, I want to work in a cubicle, with a desk, and a computer, and a file cabinet... and maybe have a potted plant and a picture of something, and an ergonomic chair... and possibly an in/out box... I want to have a water cooler, and office parties once a year or something... and spend my days typing away...

If you remember the Navy commercials they gave about the Seals and paratroopers for SAR and stuff, and then they went, and somewhere some guy is buying a mini van... I wanted to be that guy. Which is ironic because I joined the Navy, and then worked on an aircraft carrier in the reactor department... but whatever.

On a typical Friday night I am

Relaxing after a week of learning about computers, and their various levels of infrastructure, the past lives of the people in western civilization... mathematical properties, and Japanese...

Probably playing WoW... just doing dailies, cooking... fishing...

Watching anime, and translating text that might pop up... It's slow going... based on my limited knowledge of Japanese.

Eating, napping, whatever... usually I don't go outside... no where to go, no one to go with... but I can watch stuff and imagine what it's like.

A man can dream, can't he?

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

Eh, just ask... maybe it'll give us something to talk about... I'm an open book really... I mean if you made it this far you can kinda see it right?

I'm both a guy, meaning I have... horrible... base... sexual thoughts... like, once every 3 seconds... all pervy and eww...

and yet, I don't like sports, cars, random hook ups, drinking...

So it's like... I'm not gay because I don't like other men, and yes I am sure... but... I'm a guy who's not a guy... like how I'm an Asian who can only speak English...

It's all a big mystery.... wrapped in a vest. (If you get that allusion.)

You should message me if

You go to Palomar... I'd like to make friends you know... that'd be nice...

You're bored... and want someone to talk to about anything, really... if I don't know I'll google it... Wikipedia makes experts out of all of us.

You read all this and still want to talk to me...

D) None of the above.

Still message me anyways. :p