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35 • Victoria, British Columbia, CA • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 24–35
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
- Last online
- Jun 5
- 6′ 2″ (1.88m)
- Body Type
- A little extra
- Mostly anything
- Trying to quit
- Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
- Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
- Graduated from high school
- Entertainment / Media
- Strictly monogamous
- Has a kid, and might want more
- Likes dogs and likes cats
- English (Fluently), Sign Language (Okay), Japanese (Poorly)
During that time, I wanted to swear off dating. My needs come secondary to hers, and she needed a focused parent to help her through her troubles with school, and any formative hiccups that may have persisted throughout her teenage years.
Thankfully, I have a daughter who is not only a quick study, but one who has a good head on her shoulders. Sure, she gets into trouble every now and then, but it’s the kind of trouble teens should be getting into.
But now that summer’s arrived, she wants to visit her friends back home for a couple of months before she comes out to tackle her graduating year at High School, which means that I’m free for the summer as well, and I feel comfortable enough with her progress that I can afford to focus a little on my own life.
That just may be where you come in.
I am a published author of science fiction, fantasy and horror. A storyteller at heart, but I have broad experience in the realms of media, politics and scholarly academia (which is to say, I have more contacts that are tenured professors than students.) With that said, I have to give you a fair warning that I’m opinionated, but I keep an open mind, weigh the facts and evidence before coming to as objective a conclusion as possible. (Huge supporter of ye olde Socratic Method right here. I weigh both sides of a controversy before coming to a conclusion.)
But before you write me off as a brainiac, you should know that I’m down-to-earth, realistic and enjoy the little things life has to offer, whether that be sharing some wine with my hippie friends while they play that funky music, walking along the breakwater for the hell of it, or relaxing with some mindless entertainment, or gaming out. I’m a big gamer, and have even dabbled in the art of game design once or twice.
I’m fairly liberal, but it would be more accurate to call me a centrist, in that I see value both in liberalism and conservatism.
Good, because all that was to weed out the ladies who find that sort of stuff boring. So if you’ve managed to stay with me thus far, and you consider yourself open-minded, even when someone questions your most closely held beliefs, then I’ve got a challenge for you.
See that box just below? The one that says "Send a Message?" Click it. The message could say anything. It could be a joke, a story, or a question. It could be an essay on the evolution of the postmodern dialectic or even just a quick insult pointing out how pretentious I come across as.
Either way, there is more power in your hands than you know, so exercise it a little and drop me a message.
Flipping the pillow over so I can get to the cold side.
Amusing myself and those unlucky enough to be around me by my wacky antics.
I'm often asked for advice from friends and colleagues-- normally in issues of marketing, graphic design, presentation and sometimes in issues dealing with emotional health, relationships and getting over drinking without the need of a twelve-step program.
As for movies, I couldn't even begin. Lately I've been extolling the virtues of some more obscure indie films, like Ink and Wristcutters: A Love Story.
Right now my big shows are Doctor Who (Capaldi is gonna rock that role), Game of Thrones, Once Upon a Time, etc...
2. My daughter
3. Opposable thumbs
4. Maynard James Keenan
5. Doctor Who
6. My Kobo
7. Breaking arbitrary rules put forth by OKCupid.
...you're down with deep conversations about random things.
...you don't take politics too seriously.
...my being a single parent doesn't scare you off.
...you're honestly interested in hearing my collection of ridiculous and often wildly inappropriate pickup lines.
...you have a tattoo. I like tattoos.
...you're a supervillain.
...you've got some patience. I'm interested in a relationship, but I need to take it one day at a time.
...you realize that there are 86,400 seconds in a day... and it takes just one of them to click on the 'message' button.
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