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dgchessman1984

30 M Seattle, WA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 4:52am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, and laughing about it
Sign
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from space camp
Job
Other
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Wants kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
***Going to try a bit of a different format for a bit. After many moons and many profiles, it's time for a different direction.

The only purpose of this profile, from Sparkmach, to Stalkers, to it's current rendition, it just to find like-minded, interesting folks. What am I 'Looking For'...? A Primary Life Partner, and friends.... not really seeking things in between, no offense!

I believe in creativity, the Oxford comma, communication, and an outlook on life that.. is different. Be different, enjoy different, and spend every day finding new ways to make life more interesting.

Everything beyond that is just a bonus! Dating? Overrated. It'll happen when it happens. Not going to break hearts and lose limbs trying to chase down the opposite sex and club them over the head.

If we're both awesome people with a thirst for life... there's no clubbing required.

That was a pun, by the way.***

Who am I?

- Friendly, Talkative, Creative, Intellectual, Excitable, Literal, Genderfluid, Switch, Crafty, Disinterested in Money (..for the sake of money).... I'm an artist and a generally co-dependant person who is looking for a Partner in Crime, but after a pretty horrid last year or so, taking dating and romance slow. Friends, please? Physical or not, I prefer my relationships to be self-evident. If it clicks, it clicks.

- Clearly an INTJ

Who are you?

Enjoy the company of Mad Scientists, Self-Driven, Flexible, Compassionate...

We are both...

Creatively-minded, Capable and Seeking of Synergy, Artists (..in our own way), Sexual Beings, Self-Aware, Poly (..or Poly-Capable), Lacking in Jealousy, Exceeding in Communication... We are both looking for something more, we both enjoy/need a dependant relationships, but aren't looking to jump into anything. We are both comfortable with the thought of more than just our Primary Partner, but don't seek out new Partners unless necessary, or there is room in the relationships for diversity.

(Will add more as they become glaringly apparent)

~ ~ ~

There is a LOT more about me, but I don't want to spoil the fun! ^_^ I'm going to add something that is extremely important to me, however. I have Rules that I live by. These are all non-negotiable!

(In all seriousness, they are nothing sinister. Just rules that I live by. Want to be a part of my Life, even as a friend? You need to know the Rules, please)

Rule #1 - You don't say "I do" until you know who "I" is

I believe that marriage as we do it now is a silly, silly institution. Backwards, even. You shouldn't be allowed to get into a legally-binding commitment with another party (much less one of the opposite sex >_< ) without even the gentle sunlight splash of understanding about who you are and what you need as a human being.

If you don't even have at LEAST an Intermediate understanding about who you are, as a human being and individual, stay off the damn alter! And consider yourself weighed and judged if you can't resist the urge.


Rule #2 - If you have an expectation and you choose not to express it to the other party, when your expectation is not met you're not allowed to get mad about it!!

This is the Rule that I, personally, struggle with the most. Over the years I've gotten much, MUCH better about it! But it feels almost like it's the Human Condition to put expectations on people, and not feel the need to clearly communicate them.

It takes a lot of courage to hold yourself to a higher standard. To insist, to yourself, that if you didn't ACTUALLY actively let the other party know what you wanted and expected, that you need to keep your pissy mood in-check.

As a business owner and Event coordinator, I find myself wanting to string people up by their heels and flay the skin from their ragged bones on a regular basis.

Rule #2 keeps me in-check.


Rule #3 - If you find yourself saying/thinking "Everything would be fine/okay/fixed/better if (person) would just (blank)..." just..... stop. You either need to get rid of your expectation of the other person, or get that person out of your life.

There are SOME exceptions to this rule, of course. We all have problems and little things that we need to work on. As long as the expectations are on the table, clear, public, and openly communicated.... awesome! ^_^ No conflict here. Just see Rule #2!

But similar to the expectations in Rule #2, the social and emotional expectations we put on people by assuming that if they would just fix this silent (or not silent!) problem we have, everything would be 'all better'...

It's nonsense. The sort of nonsense that makes BOTH people unhappy, builds up emotional disrespect, and slowly poisons Partnerships.


~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~

I am provocative, irradiated, and zombie-prepared
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am a passionate small business owner and craftsman!

I've let this aspect of my life take a back seat before, and it has left me disgusted with the results. >_br />
I AM A CREATIVELY-MINDED INVENTOR! I build, create, craft, form, stain, finish, and generally do the sorts of things that people only dream or imagine doing.

..and you'd probably be amazed at how many people CAN'T handle that!! So I'm getting it out on-the-table!

This has me committed to several social engagements for the year, doesn't leave me with much money for hookers and blow, and generally forms both my social circles, as well as my dating circles.

~ I run my own business

~ I run my own Ren Fair / Pirate Fair Company called The Black Sheep Trading Company. (Note: NOT a pirate)

~ I design and manufacture my own popguns. They shoot Nerf darts.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being blunt/honest. It's a double-edged sword, of course.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have a really bloody long profile. Most people turn around at the sight of it, and that's exactly the type of folks I want to filter out of my life ^_^ Short attention spans, and not willing to do anything that's more difficult that scrolling a bit on their mouse.

That, or people notice that I'm always watching. Looking at people in the eyes. 5 years of security and I can't help but... watch. Anytime I'm out in public.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books : Stranger in a Strange Land (This book helped define who I am today.... READ IT), Dune (ALL of them, not just the originals), The Deathgate Cycle (as well as pretty much everything by Margret Weis and Tracy Hickman), The Zombie Survival Guide and World War Z, the Eric Rex series (written by a friend of mine) and Harry Potter (was worth reading..... once), The Dragonlance series (I have NOT read them all, but that's not for lack of trying), etc, etc, etc

Oh.... I've also picked up the amusing habit of listening to {Snow Crash} on audio book. I don't usually LIKE audio books.... but this is DEFINITELY the exception ^_^ GREAT book, even better narrator.

Movies : I'm just going to grab a stack of DVD's out of my nightstand, and list them (in no particular order) - SLC Punk, Children of Men, The Prestige, Casino Royale, 300, Enemy at the Gates, Sin City, The Shawshank Redemption, Gladiator, Apocalypse Now, Death Proof / Planet Terror / Machete, Fracture, V for Vendetta, Employee of the Month, etc, etc, etc

Music : I enjoy music. Music of all different types. I do NOT make a hobby out of it. Nor an obsession. I do NOT have an IPOD. I do not go out to concerts all the time. I do not listen to music 12 hours a day. But honestly, I really do enjoy it.... I just don't like the level that so many people take it to.

Food : I like cooking. I like eating, I like the social aspects of the two combined en mass. Also: Taco carts rule.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
~ Communication

~ Sensuality/Sexuality

~ Creative Endeavors

~ Passion

~ Tasty, tasty foodz
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Designs.

Yes yes, boring... I know. Most of the design-talk I could launch into is capable of making the uninitiated bleed from the ears.

But it's true! An uncomfortable amount of my free-time is spent working on designs for new or existing projects.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
You know, I'm just going to ignore this category. You heard me...

**IGNORED**

Instead, a few brief-but-important factoids (without explanation) about me!

~ I'm Poly, but not because I prefer that lifestyle long-term. The happier I am, the less partners I have.
~ I'm an INTJ. Please look it up...
~ I'm not a Cisgender Male. If anything, I'm just an oddity. If you're genuinely interested, we'll have the gender/kink conversation ^_^
~ I'm quite kinky... but more into roleplaying, less into props.
~ My work/business/adventures are.... stupidly important to me. If you're interested in being a part of my life long-term (optional!) you should certainly considering trying to be a part of that. Otherwise, you'd best be okay with being set aside when Eventing Season rolls around ^_^;;
~ When you invent things (...and I do...) money becomes a far more fluid object than most people are comfortable with. I hardly value money, beyond it's ability to grease wheels, obtain housing, and get me parts that I need for my next cool thing. I give it away freely when I have it.... and that freaks a lot of people out
~ I've had my license since I was 18 (...just went and got it, almost zero practice) and am a fantastic driver... but have never owned a vehicle besides a motorcycle that died soon after purchase.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
No, I didn't ACTUALLY graduate from Space Camp. *laughs* That's just left over from many moons ago when this site was a LOT more tongue-in-cheek.

And I never felt like changing it back.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 19–36
  • Located anywhere
  • For short-term dating
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Please understand that I judge things as fairly as possible. If you don't have an active part in my life, please understand that we're not dating, and may not even be friends (in any real sense). One would hope you wouldn't have to specify that sort of thing... but it comes up often!

Message if you're creative, adventurous, self-aware, sexually confident, not easily intimidated, and believe in DOING things rather than sitting around watching TV or just thinking about doing.

....of if you just feel like tossing out a random hello!