The only purpose of this profile, from Sparkmach, to Stalkers, to it's current rendition, it just to find like-minded, interesting folks. What am I 'Looking For'...? A Primary Life Partner, and friends.... not really seeking things in between, no offense!
I believe in creativity, the Oxford comma, communication, and an outlook on life that.. is different. Be different, enjoy different, and spend every day finding new ways to make life more interesting.
Everything beyond that is just a bonus! Dating? Overrated. It'll happen when it happens. Not going to break hearts and lose limbs trying to chase down the opposite sex and club them over the head.
If we're both awesome people with a thirst for life... there's no clubbing required.
That was a pun, by the way.***
Who am I?
- Friendly, Talkative, Creative, Intellectual, Excitable, Literal, Genderfluid, Switch, Crafty, Disinterested in Money (..for the sake of money).... I'm an artist and a generally co-dependant person who is looking for a Partner in Crime, but after a pretty horrid last year or so, taking dating and romance slow. Friends, please? Physical or not, I prefer my relationships to be self-evident. If it clicks, it clicks.
- Clearly an INTJ
Who are you?
Enjoy the company of Mad Scientists, Self-Driven, Flexible, Compassionate...
We are both...
Creatively-minded, Capable and Seeking of Synergy, Artists (..in our own way), Sexual Beings, Self-Aware, Poly (..or Poly-Capable), Lacking in Jealousy, Exceeding in Communication... We are both looking for something more, we both enjoy/need a dependant relationships, but aren't looking to jump into anything. We are both comfortable with the thought of more than just our Primary Partner, but don't seek out new Partners unless necessary, or there is room in the relationships for diversity.
(Will add more as they become glaringly apparent)
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There is a LOT more about me, but I don't want to spoil the fun! ^_^ I'm going to add something that is extremely important to me, however. I have Rules that I live by. These are all non-negotiable!
(In all seriousness, they are nothing sinister. Just rules that I live by. Want to be a part of my Life, even as a friend? You need to know the Rules, please)
Rule #1 - You don't say "I do" until you know who "I" is
I believe that marriage as we do it now is a silly, silly institution. Backwards, even. You shouldn't be allowed to get into a legally-binding commitment with another party (much less one of the opposite sex >_< ) without even the gentle sunlight splash of understanding about who you are and what you need as a human being.
If you don't even have at LEAST an Intermediate understanding about who you are, as a human being and individual, stay off the damn alter! And consider yourself weighed and judged if you can't resist the urge.
Rule #2 - If you have an expectation and you choose not to express it to the other party, when your expectation is not met you're not allowed to get mad about it!!
This is the Rule that I, personally, struggle with the most. Over the years I've gotten much, MUCH better about it! But it feels almost like it's the Human Condition to put expectations on people, and not feel the need to clearly communicate them.
It takes a lot of courage to hold yourself to a higher standard. To insist, to yourself, that if you didn't ACTUALLY actively let the other party know what you wanted and expected, that you need to keep your pissy mood in-check.
As a business owner and Event coordinator, I find myself wanting to string people up by their heels and flay the skin from their ragged bones on a regular basis.
Rule #2 keeps me in-check.
Rule #3 - If you find yourself saying/thinking "Everything would be fine/okay/fixed/better if (person) would just (blank)..." just..... stop. You either need to get rid of your expectation of the other person, or get that person out of your life.
There are SOME exceptions to this rule, of course. We all have problems and little things that we need to work on. As long as the expectations are on the table, clear, public, and openly communicated.... awesome! ^_^ No conflict here. Just see Rule #2!
But similar to the expectations in Rule #2, the social and emotional expectations we put on people by assuming that if they would just fix this silent (or not silent!) problem we have, everything would be 'all better'...
It's nonsense. The sort of nonsense that makes BOTH people unhappy, builds up emotional disrespect, and slowly poisons Partnerships.
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I am provocative, irradiated, and zombie-prepared