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48 • Lake Oswego, OR • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 30–50
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating
- Last online
- Apr 17
- 5′ 10″ (1.78m)
- Body type
- Mostly anything
- Other, and laughing about it
- Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
- Graduated from university
- Has a kid
(And for you long-time Portlanders, despite my username, no I was not in the Dharma Bums, although they were a great band back in the day. I was, however, in a number of other bands in the late 80s-early-90s).
I love spending time with my son (he's 20, smarter than me, and currently lives with his mom), listening to music, reading, writing, exercising, and wandering (usually aimlessly) through the great outdoors, rain or shine. I work a lot but also try to make time for play and for being a lazy bum.
I see a sense of humor as a necessary survival skill, and someone who can converse about the deepest, heaviest topics but still retain a Taoist-like sense of humor about it all is someone I automatically like. Besides humor, I guess I’m attracted to an odd mix of wicked sass, edgy intelligence, and a sense of romance about love and about life in general.
I tend to be easy-going but occasionally intense (especially when I'm working). I try to keep in shape but I’m no Adonis (workin' on it!). I feel confident in myself but I’m also aware that I have my moments of neurotic self-loathing (they pass pretty quickly most of the time). I'm also kind of a geek, and know far too much about sci-fi books and movies than I like to admit, And while some say I am dark and mysterious, the truth is I'm usually pretty easy to read. Most of my moods can be determined by looking at my eyes, but I will never hesitate to tell you what I'm thinking if you ask me.
Friends say I'm generous, maybe a little too trusting, I smell nice (usually), and am good in a crisis (but please, let's keep the crises to minimum, mmmkay?) Like a good snow shovel or a fire extinguisher, I've been told I'm "great to have around."
I spend my off hours writing (currently trying to negotiate a publishing deal), and delving into the vintage "why's" of life. I always carry something with me to read. I like sports (mostly baseball), and I meditate on a regular basis. I workout at least 3 - 4 times a week. I love the outdoors (especially the ocean) but don't get as much time to play outside as I'd like. I also greatly enjoy a fine single malt scotch and a nice nap (sometimes in succession!)
Music? EVERYTHING (almost). Brian Eno, Foo Fighters, Ingrid Michaelson, Beastie Boys, Debussy, U2, Radiohead, Sinatra, Peter Gabriel, Chris Isaak, Black Keys, Florence and the Machine, Thievery Corp, Beatles, Portishead, Elbow, Harold Budd, Deftones, Beck, The Police, Muse, 80s rock, Shpongle, Patrick O'Hearn, John Mayer, Miles Davis, Louis Armstrong, Moby, Audioslave, RATM, NIN, GnR, FToL and other acronymically-named bands.
Books. Anything about quantum physics, history, neuroscience, some sci-fi like Neil Gaiman, Larry Niven, Arthur C. Clarke. Siddhartha (Hesse), The Brothers K (David James Duncan), Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius, God's Debris, Four Agreements, Ender's Game, The Alchemist, The Artist's Way, and Never Tease a Weasel. Also, any philosophy, social sciences, and of course, anything by Christopher Moore (try Fluke or A Dirty Job if you're new to his stuff). Currently reading a biography of Joe DiMaggio and "Modernism" by Peter Gay. I'm usually reading three to five books at a time (well, you know, not at the EXACT same time).
Food!!! I love Indian, Italian, Thai, and some Mexican. I love a night of fine dining, but am also happy tracking down a good cheeseburger at some dive bar in the middle of the night (is there anything better than a Killer Burger with peanut butter, pickles, and bacon? No, there is not.). I also love salsa, teriyaki, avocados, wine, coffee, and cheese. I would marry cheese, but I think that's still illegal in most states.
2) Spontaneous road trips
3) A sense of humor
4) Something inspiring to read
5) A pen and notebook
6) Access to the ocean
...Or if you notice any article of clothing I'm wearing is on fire. Please do alert me in that event. Thx.
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