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63 Berkeley, CA Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 45–65
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Yesterday – 4:52am
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Buddhism, and laughing about it
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Working on masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I recently re-read the Odyssey for the umpteenth time, and I've lost all sympathy for the guy. The misconception is that he struggled mightily to get back to Ithaca and his wife, a journey that took forever and involved numerous sacrifices. Wrong. His crew did all the suffering, while he 'struggled' for years to get out of the arms of this or that goddess peeling him grapes.
What a hero.
I suppose if there's a lesson there, it's that eventually, eventually, we need to leave the security, comfort and pleasure of indulgences, and get back into the uncertainty of the open seas.
Nah, that doesn't work for me, either. The few visits I've had to 'islands of delight' have been brief and not ended by my choice. More like the tropical paradise gets flattened by a hurricane. I've become pretty good at embracing uncertainty. I've had plenty of practice.

I recently read that we need intimate relationships to cultivate our souls. We bang into each other's rough, sharp edges until they gradually wear away. We appreciate and cultivate each other's strength, kindness, vulnerability and playfulness.
If you aren't invested in holding onto whatever gets in the way of that, let's talk. And I wouldn't mind feeding each other a grape or two while we're at it.
What I’m doing with my life
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Following the white rabbit
I’m really good at
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Pretty much anything I put my mind to. Which is 'enjoy life and have fun as much as I can'. When duty calls I'm not too bad at it, either. I've invented a fictitious wise father, and one of the things he supposedly told me is "never get really good at something you don't enjoy." Unfortunately, in real life I had to learn that lesson the hard way. Kind of a slow learner, but I'm finally starting to get it.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Let's see. A new dance class partner told me I 'provide a good frame'. I've been told I missed a career opportunity doing movie trailers. You know, "In a future world..." Yeah, I have a deep voice.
I can be shy and awkward at first, especially with women I'm highly attracted to, but I usually cover it by telling 'fascinating tales'. If we meet and I start droning on about a bunch of stuff that happened 20 years ago, don't encourage me unless you want me camping out on your doorstep. And please, tell me to just relax.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Went through the whole 'art school' Kundara/Bukowski/Burroughs thing quite a while ago. Then a classic Cervantes/Graham Greene/Conrad/Joyce period. Currently- Mary Oliver's poems, Zen koans, textbooks. Lots of textbooks.
When I watch movies, they're usually indies, although I'll slum it with a blockbuster now and then.
I saw Herbie Hancock performing Gershwin, and it brought tears to my eyes. Bridge School was quite nice last year. Ditto Hardly Strictly. I like to listen to Vivaldi when I cook.
I recently came up with this thing with grilled peaches, ginger and chile oil over salmon. Shut up.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
-I'd like to say a loving partner who appreciates being loved. But if it were truly essential, I'd be dead by now.
-A healthy, functioning body. Not quite true, either. I'm thankful, but I know people whose lives define the saying "it's not a handicap, it's a challenge". Health and functionality are relative terms.
-An active, creative mind. If I ever get rigid in my thinking, just hold the pillow over my mouth.
-The ability to regenerate. I've seen forest fires create desolate moonscapes. Then life reasserts itself. Seeing that process helped me recognize that we, too have the ability to recover from the firestorms that sometimes sweep through our lives.
-My family, most of whom forgive my occasional thoughtless or lazy behavior and love me anyway.
-A good cup of coffee in the morning. I think I once went 6 days before caving.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What makes relationships work. It's been wonderful, often painful, but I wouldn't have changed anything. They've taught me well before crashing and burning, one of the more important lessons being that I should be more careful who I open my heart to. If we get involved, there's a good chance we will be much better suited for each other, and you should thank your predecessors.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
What I do as often as I can: great food, tasty wine, brilliant live jazz. Or a barbecue on the beach, with firedancers performing around a bonfire. Or heading off on some hairball adventure for the weekend. What I actually do more often: breathe a sigh of relief that the week went fairly well, cook a quick dinner, catch up on reading, talk to a friend on the phone. Dull, dull, dull. Help me out here.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I cried in the theater watching Toy Story 3. Yeah, the cartoon. It was all about saying goodbye. I'm completely open to sharing anything I've done with those close to me, but that's all you get here.
You should message me if
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you usually don't do that, you get a gazillion messages without lifting a finger, but fine. You're bored.
Or, if you get a message from me, you can decide if my particular variety of whack job suits you. Go ahead, ignore me. Break my heart.