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dhknj

66 M Trenton, NJ

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 35–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends

My Details

Last Online
Sep 9
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Christianity, and very serious about it
Sign
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Rather not say
Income
$150,000–$250,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t want kids
Pets
Has dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm tall, smart, Ivy League educated, successful, kind, considerate, and supportive. I care about the environment and animal welfare, have many cultural interests, and have lived all over the United States.

I live a few hundred yards over the state line in New Jersey. I'm a native of Pennsylvania and have no interest in, or attachment to, New Jersey. I do virtually nothing in New Jersey (apart from paying astronomical taxes to support an army of corrupt politicians and their drone employees) and am entirely focused on Pennsylvania and on New York City.

I'm presentable, dress well, and have a conventional and conservative appearance. I'm far too private a person to post a photo which shows my face, so my okcupid photographs show me holding a basketball in one hand with that arm extended. (I'm palming the basketball in these photos; I have big hands.)

This is the single most important point in my profile: my appearance is, by far, the least significant and least interesting thing about me. If the absence of a photograph of my face matters in the slightest to you (and why ever would something so totally unimportant about a man matter to anybody??), rather than complain about it, please exit my profile and look at postings by some other people.

In lieu of a photograph of my face, I have posted a fairly detailed profile here, and I have answered over 400 okcupid questions.

I don't enjoy interacting with technology, but I read about this site and thought that it might be a nice way to meet someone from Pennsylvania or from New York who shares a common interest for a non-romantic and completely non-intimate friendship.

I want to be clear about this: My posting has nothing whatever to do with dating, but I'd like to connect with someone for friendship only--I am absolutely uninterested in romance or in any sort of intimacy. I have lots of smart, interesting male friends, but it's been a while since I had a female friend. It's probably not very likely to happen, but it is my thought that I might be able to make a female friend through okcupid.

I was married for about five years, and I divorced my ex-wife in 2001. I no longer have any financial or other obligations to my ex-wife, and I have no involvement with her, whatever. I don't have any children. I'm quite solvent.

I'm an intelligent, unique, and interesting companion with a wide range of capabilities and uncommon perspectives on many fronts.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm quiet and unassuming. I like to read, listen to music, grow vegetables, exercise, play with my dog, and go to museums. I'm not at at all a follower nor a consensus thinker, and everyone who knows me recognizes that I'm very unique. My Mom is 94, and I like to visit her and to be helpful to her. I'm exceptionally self-motivated and expect to be totally successful in anything that I do. From very early childhood, I have always expected a great deal from myself.

Here's something that I'm not doing with my life: I'm not living vicariously through others. I'm totally uninterested in the lives of entertainers, and I don't even watch professional football, let alone identify with some team or wear clothing associated with a professional sports figure or a sports business. I can't imagine the mentality of a man who wears a shirt bearing the name of some football player.

Apart from problems related to occasional health issues that arise with my Mom, I am very, very in control of my life, and that is of tremendous importance to me.

I've never imposed myself upon women. I've only met women when introduced by mutual friends. Because all women are fanatically and totally uncompromisingly particular about which men are of interest to them, I've always considered it extremely important not to bother, in any fashion, women who do not know me. The wonderful thing about my never having once approached a woman, for any purpose and in any respect, is that I have been totally able to avoid potentially awkward situations in which a woman might have misinterpreted a genial hello or casual friendliness as an unwelcome advance.

For whatever reason, as time has passed, my opportunities to meet women for just friendship, via introduction by friends, have diminished. Hence, this posting.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm thoughtful, analytical, and very articulate. I'm always able to express myself with clarity and precision. I understand ideas very quickly. I'm really good at getting very, very outstanding results in the stock market, a major focus of my life at the moment.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm an exceptionally private person who is extraordinarily careful to avoid attracting any sort of attention from anyone, so I presume that people who do not know me never notice anything about me. Basically, I conduct my life in ways that preserve my privacy.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Food--I like to cook, and I like healthy dishes. My favorite things to eat are oysters, cheese, and vegetables from my organic garden. I participate with a group of successful and intelligent guys (and an occasional wife or two) who have weekly wine-centered dinners in extraordinary BYOB restaurants in Philadelphia and in its Pennsylvania suburbs.

Music--I like almost any style except for loud rock music. I mostly listen to big band music and jazz, but, lately, I've been enjoying something that I never much liked: doo wop. I love to sing in the shower, and my voice is a baritone and similar to the late Billy Eckstine's. One of my objectives for 2014 is to attend more performances of classical music in Philadelphia and in New York City.

Movies--I mostly watch films made prior to 1970, and I particularly like the classics from the 1930s and 1940s. "The Maltese Falcon" is my favorite movie. When I lived in New York City and in Washington, D. C., in the 1970s and in the early 1980s, I saw hundreds of classic and foreign films.

Books--I attended Ivy League universities, so I've read a lot. These days, I'm mostly reading history and biographies. Lately, I've been reading about the United States in the 1950s, as I'm planning to write a book (it'll be my first) about some aspects of that decade particular to Philadelphia and to New York City.

Shows--I rarely watch television, so I don't have a favorite current TV show. When it was on, I loved "The Wire". I like live theater and attend fairly often in New York City and in Philadelphia.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
air, water, shelter, sleep, food, and a market economy
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
what I'm reading, experiences that I've had, current events, work related matters and various factors significant in the stock market, ways to enhance my privacy, how horrible New Jersey is, and the amazingly rapid decline of our country
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Lately, I've been attending the Friday evening concerts at the Philadelphia Museum of Art. I also like Philadelphia's First Friday art gallery open houses.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I really value my privacy and will not compromise it.
You should message me if
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I'm primarily interested in meeting someone who would be an "activity partner" or a "new friend", rather than someone for dating. At this point in my life, I'm absolutely not seeking intimacy nor romance, and I have no illusion that anyone would ever, under any circumstances, seek such things from me. Additionally, I intensely dislike being subjected to the rigorous and comprehensive scrutiny and evaluation that women apply to men in dating situations. What would be nice, though, is to connect with someone from Pennsylvania or from New York City who would occasionally like to meet in some very public place then go to a classical music concert, or to a museum exhibit, or to an art gallery or two. From my perspective, it would be nice if a totally non-romantic and completely non-intimate friendship would ensue. Here's what I promise: intelligent conversation with no touching, no leering, no groping, no sexually suggestive conversation, no flirting, no erotic innuendo, and no crude or sexist anything that would offend a woman's feminist sensibilities, ever.

I'm quite aware that my disinterest in romance, uncompromising focus on my privacy, and absolute refusal to provide a photograph of my face sharply diminishes--for virtually all women, probably to zero--possible interest in my profile. Oh, well.

However, if--for whatever reason--you're curious about anything that I've written, please contact me. I would like to hear from you if you live in Philadelphia, in or near New York City, or in Philadelphia's Pennsylvania suburbs, because there are lots of interesting things to do in those places. I'll respond promptly to anyone who writes, but I certainly will never initiate contact of any sort with anyone.

I can just imagine that all women on this site are constantly inundated with messages from men seeking casual sex, and I don't want to contribute to an unwelcome barrage of unsolicited communications. Beyond that, I surmise that women are completely uninterested in receiving unsolicited mail from a man whose profile does not include a facial photograph. My supposition is that virtually all women on this site rigorously evaluate a man's photos--very comprehensively and exceptionally carefully, on the basis of tremendously precise criteria--before even considering to read so much as a word of his profile, which, of course, is then subjected to extraordinarily intense and detailed scrutiny of every imaginable sort. As such, I recognize that my posting is very, very unlikely to result in anyone ever writing to me. On the other hand, there's no harm in trying, particularly since I'm simply seeking friendship with a nice woman and have absolutely no interest, whatsoever, in any sort of romance or intimacy.