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dieArbeiter

23 / M / straight / Single

Baltimore, Maryland

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Ethnicity
Middle Eastern, Native American, White, Other, Undeclared
Height
5' 10" (1.77m).
Body Type
Looking For
New friends, Long-term dating, Short-term dating, Activity partners, Long-distance penpals
Smokes
Yes
Drinks
Sometimes
Drugs
Never
Religion
Catholicism but not too serious about it
Sign
Aquarius and it matters a lot
Education
Dropped out of college/university
Job
Clerical / Administrative
Income
$20,000–$30,000
Kids
Likes children
Pets
Likes dogs and Likes cats
Languages
English (Fluently), C++ (Okay)

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I am eccentric, warm, and optimistic.

My Self-Summary

I can have a loose tongue and speak too much, but I enjoy listening more. I ask a lot of questions. It is in the spirit of participation that I do this. I am a cuddler but difficult to touch. I will probably want to dance or sing or sprint or shake or move at any given moment. I like motion. I always have a plethora of projects. I keep myself busy, even when I'm not. I have not been bored since I was a little kid. I dream, I day dream. My night dreams are fairly dry... I'll step out with a friend and smoke a cigarette. I'll go to the grocery store. I dream my wildest during the day. At night, I do not need to dream so wild.

I adore people. I love them all, even the nasty ones.

Oh, I'm an aesthete. I never really considered that before, but the shoe fits.... and it's a cute shoe.

What I’m doing with my life

I work at a used book store, and I read. I would very much like to improve American transportation. I am thinking trains in lieu of cars. The problem right now is that passenger trains are unusually heavy for the low amount of cargo(people) that they hold. So, I'm looking for lighter trains.

For the most part, I let my life lead me. I trust my intuition, and it does not lead me astray. Sometimes I over-think situations and that does lead me astray, but it isn't usually an issue.

Saving money and figuring out how to get to Central America. Also reading lots of non-fiction and soon to be studying Spanish.

I’m really good at

a lot of random things including but not limited to: brass instrument playing, dancing, writing computer programs, problem solving, cooking, baking bread, budgeting, rolling cigarettes, reading, putting together unusual outfits, forming opinions on the fly, photography, film development, photo enlarging, sorting, answering questions(my answers are usually interesting but not always accurate) and not ever being bored.

Keeping secrets.

I am also adept at trusting people. I enjoy trusting people and do so unless I contrive reasons not to do so.

The first things people usually notice about me

That I didn't look like this the last time that they saw me, and they have in fact met me before... I change my hair a lot, facial hair too. I have not had a mohawk in a long time, but it's one of my favorites. People react very differently to me depending on how I have my hair. That intrigues me.

I frequently have a moustache. It is sometimes handlebar-y, and at other times it is wild and brushfire-esque.

That I look damn good in short shorts.

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My favorite books, movies, music, and food

Books and Stories: Screwjack by Hunter S. Thompson, Still Life with Woodpecker by Tom Robbins, Villa Incognito by Tom Robbins, Smile at the Foot of the Ladder by Henry Miller, A Devil in Paradise by Henry Miller, The Cossacks by Leo Tolstoy, Sputnik Sweetheart by Haruki Murakami, The Baron in the Trees by Italo Calvino, The Teachings of Don Juan by Carlos Castaneda, The Celebration by Ivan Angelo, I was a Teenage Fairy by Fransesca Lia Block, Heartsnatcher by Boris Vian, How Proust Can Change Your Life by Alain de Botton, The Book of Chameleons by Jose Eduardo Agualusa, Love in the Time of Cholera by Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Light in August by William Faulkner, Honey for the Bears by Anthony Burgess, Those Damned Rebels by Michael Pearfon, Cancer-Step Outside the Box by Ty M. Bollinger, Another Bullshit Night in Suck City by Nick Flynn, Tales of a Shaman's Apprentice by Mark J. Plotkin, Confessions of an Economic Hit Man by John Perkins, House of Sleeping Beauties by Yasunari Kawabata, Wolf Totem by Jiang Rong, Breakfast at Tiffany's by Truman Capote, Soil Science Simplified by Helmut Kohnke, The Last Days of Old Beijing by Michael Meyer, The Subterraneans by Jack Kerouac, The Open Veins of Latin America by Eduardo Galeano, Sleeping Fires by George Gissing, Masters of the Dew by Jacques Roumain, Conquest by David Day, The Immoralist by Andre Gide, Travels with Herodotus by Ryszard Kapuscinski, The Foxfire series, When You Are Engulfed in Flames by David Sedaris, The Optimists Daughter by Eudora Welty, Blues for Mister Charlie by James Baldwin, Giovanni's Room by James Baldwin, The Kreutzer Sonata by Leo Tolstoy

Movies: Run, Lola, Run; Jules et Jim; Masculin Feminin; The Big Lebowski; Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas; The Umbrellas of Cherbourg; After the Rain; Burnt by the Sun; Je vous salue, Marie; Eternal Sunshine on a Spotless Mind; The Royal Tenenbaums; Life is Beautiful; Volver; The Blue Angel; Lola; Withnail and I; Meet the Feebles; The Bubble; The Best Way to Walk (I really like good movies. They don't have to be fancy, just good. I see no conflict in appreciating the version of the Pink Panther with Steve Martin followed by Cowboy Bebop, and then watching House MD.... They are all wonderful and fit into my tiny head.)

Music: The Arcade Fire, The Decemberists, Tchaikovsky, Dawn Landes, Neko Case, The Stranglers, Neutral Milk Hotel, Bonnie 'Prince' Billy, Roscoe Holcomb, Palestrina, Sage Francis, Tom Petty, Busdriver, Jay-Z, Feist, Odetta, DJ Aphrodite, Guns N Roses, Queen, David Bowie, Johnny Cash, Harry Nilsson, The Pretty Things, The Dresden Dolls, Kitka, Miles Davis, She & Him, The Weepies, Outkast, The Who, The Fleet Foxes, Kate Nash, Beirut, The Shins, Sufjan Stevens, Badly Drawn Boy, Ani Difranco, Belle & Sebastian, The Fiery Furnaces, Loudon Wainwright III, Rufus Wainwright, Devendra Banhart, Tilly and the Wall, Of Montreal, Pedro the Lion, Herb Alpert and the Tijuana Brass, Fanfare Ciocarlia, Thom Yorke, Duke Ellington, The Squirrel Nut Zippers, TV on the Radio, Zap Mama, Mary Lou Williams, Martha Argerich, Vladmir Ashkenazy, Nina Simone, Dolly Parton, Billie Holiday, Kid Cudi, April March

Food: Rice, Beans, Rice and Beans, Green edible plants(read: collard greens, string beans, lima beans, broccoli, brussel sprouts, spinach), home-made crab pizza, cranberry muffins, bread pudding, reubens, camembert, bread, all manner of fruits that are edible when raw

Cigarette Brands: Lucky Strike Lights, Gauloises, du Maurier, Nat Sherman, Shepherd Hotel, Midnight Dreams, Sobraine, Turkish Special, Bali Shag, Camel Turkish Royals

The six things I could never do without

friends, lovers, Fiji water, tea(which I unfortunately have to do without now because of a caffeine intolerance... this makes me unhappy), my hands, my self

books, film, music, dance, visual art(in that order)

I spend a lot of time thinking about

I think often about people I care about. I remember my past interactions with people vividly. I remember feelings. I don't remember little words.

I think about ways to improve things. I think about things I have done wrong. I imagine many different lives that I might lead. I plan and make lists.

On a typical Friday night I am

On a typical Friday night, I am usually at home reading a book or out at a bar(i.e. Chuckies(aka Club Charles)) drinking and reading a newspaper. This is of course subject to my whims.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

I'm in love with you.

... scary, huh?

I do not hide much. I am an open person. So if you ask, I will tell.

I sometimes dream about being a domestic partner replete with cooking, cleaning and otherwise keeping house.

You should message me if

If you are mischievous and sweet but not nice.

If you know where I can find persimmon tea.

If you want to bake bread.

I was recently struck with the observation that I love to try new foods, new alcohols, new tobaccos, new candies, etc. I also love to consume those things which are for me not new but never the less give my palate and olfactories great joy. So, you should message me if you also enjoy tasting and smelling food, drink, tobaccos, and sweets. These are topics which I could spend hours discussing and dissecting. That hint of caramel in a Camel Turkish Royal, citrus explosions in a Domaine Wardy Sauvignon Blanc, and robust but subtle umami lent to collard greens by bacon all excite me terribly.