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34 San Diego, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 30–45
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
5′ 8″ (1.72m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Working on masters program
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes cats
English (Fluently), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Hey there fellow San Diegans (or whatever we're supposed to call ourselves...). I'm not your typical gay guy. Now, don't get me wrong...I love theatre, the arts, gourmet cooking, and have even put my hand to Hawaiian Quilting once or twice or three times (okay, it's up there...I guess I might have some typical traits!). What I'm trying to say, is I'm multi-faceted. Yep, I'm definitely gay, but it doesn't define me or what I like. Gender roles and the like be damned; after all, "sex" is binary and "gender" is socialization. I cook, I clean (more cooking, less cleaning!), I have an exhaustive supply of flannel/plaid shirts, I study hard, I hike and camp, I travel, I sew, I get in heated and engaging International Relations discussions. I like my whiskey hard, traveling to Europe, and cuddling to net flicks (preferably all three at once?). Have I intrigued you? Alright already, let's go for a drink or coffee!
What I’m doing with my life
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graduate school and being the change I want to see in the world.
I’m really good at
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Self-motivation, pursuing my dreams, and empathizing with the downtrodden.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Probably the smile. People are forever telling me I smile all the time. That and my ass. Whoops...did I just go there? ;)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I'm a voracious reader, love the arts (theatre, museums, concerts, etc), cooking, long walks on the beach in the evening, and world peace :) BTW, Jonathan Livingston Seagull is probably the one book that encompasses my philosophy, my outlook, and my character. Combine Jonathan and Fletcher and put them in human form...and you might end up with someone like me.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- Theatre
- Books
- A car (which I am dealing without at the moment...grrr...#firstworldproblems...)
- A passport
- Irish Whiskey
- Coffee
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to build dialogue and understanding between people with way different perceptions and narratives.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Friday nights are my relaxation from the hell that is grad school. Whether fish tacos at Oscars, drinks at Gossip, a play on campus, catching up on my ever growing book pile, or making's always a good time.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm a paradox. Apparently I'm hard to read and figure out. Someone once said about me: "There are dogs, and there are horses, and there are even possums. But, then there are platypuses. You're a platypus!" I'll own that :)
You should message me if
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You've a kind heart, you're curious about the world about you, not too rigidly delineated, and don't see the world in terms of "boxes and categories;" If you like my smile; if what I have to say resonated something within you; If you've ever read with delight Shel Silverstein's "Where the sidewalk ends" and Tolstoy's "War and Peace"...Well, clearly we have a lot to talk about. Take a chance. Risk it. And send that message already...