I love to travel, and have been to a number of interesting places. Europe, south america, all over the U.S.. I love history and literature so I always read up on the local history before I hit the touristy spots. Found re-reading the inferno in Ravenna most rewarding. Traveling really does expand the mind. I'd love to do more of it.
I enjoy a good road trip. I can carry my own kayak, bait my own hook, and clean up fairly well for cocktail parties. Maybe sometimes all in the same day. I'm a technophile, it's part of what I do for a living. I used to write and edit for magazines, but moved into technology. I'm also an adjunct professor at a university in NYC.
I have a slightly demented, sarcastic sense of humor and I get ten times worse when I encounter an up-tight person.
As for relationships, I think the ideal is two people with their own lives and careers spending time together when they can because they want to, not because they are supposed to. I have no interest in guilting someone or manipulating them into acting anyway other than they want to, and would hope for the same. Life is too short to be controlled or controlling.
When I hear lyrics or read lines in poems that refer to not being able to live without you, or not being complete without you, or you are the reason I wake up in the morning, I don't find that romantic. Maybe I did when I was younger. But now I get what that really means. It's not healthy to not have a reason to get up in the morning on your own. Or feel like you cant live unless You have another person next to you as if theres not more to life than that. I'm not interested in someone who doesn't have an identity or a life, or a reason for existing, without me. I want someone who is doing ok on his own and wants to be with me because he likes to be with me, not because "he can't live without me."
Now that I am older I am very comfortable in my own skin. Im also not afraid to tell you what works, what doesnt and I am not shy. I'm tactful but I'm honest.
I have learned to relax more in my life and dont let things get to me. It takes a lot to rattle me most of the time. Some of my friends like to call me the honey badger, in a good way.
Full disclosure, I'm at the tail-end of a somewhat lengthy divorce. We've both very much moved on, but just due to how rediculously slow the courts are in ny, it's not final yet. It's no longer a marriage. If that's a complication you are uncomfortable with, I understand, as I respect the idea of having all loose ends tied up first. I'd prefer that myself. But it's been almost two years so I'm ready. But I want to be upfront about it. Should be final in another month or so.