I think I'm pretty fun to be around. I am fairly witty and enjoy a good intellectual conversation and have a definite geeky side. I am a sucker for someone who can really make me laugh and get stupid silly with me sometimes.

I love to travel, and have been to a number of interesting places. Europe, south america, all over the U.S.. I love history and literature so I always read up on the local history before I hit the touristy spots. Found re-reading the inferno in Ravenna most rewarding. Traveling really does expand the mind. I'd love to do more of it.

I enjoy a good road trip. I can carry my own kayak, bait my own hook, and clean up fairly well for cocktail parties. Maybe sometimes all in the same day. I'm a technophile, it's part of what I do for a living. I used to write and edit for magazines, but moved into technology. I'm also an adjunct professor at a university in NYC.

I have a slightly demented, sarcastic sense of humor and I get ten times worse when I encounter an up-tight person.

As for relationships, I think the ideal is two people with their own lives and careers spending time together when they can because they want to, not because they are supposed to. I have no interest in guilting someone or manipulating them into acting anyway other than they want to, and would hope for the same. Life is too short to be controlled or controlling.

When I hear lyrics or read lines in poems that refer to not being able to live without you, or not being complete without you, or you are the reason I wake up in the morning, I don't find that romantic. Maybe I did when I was younger. But now I get what that really means. It's not healthy to not have a reason to get up in the morning on your own. Or feel like you cant live unless You have another person next to you as if theres not more to life than that. I'm not interested in someone who doesn't have an identity or a life, or a reason for existing, without me. I want someone who is doing ok on his own and wants to be with me because he likes to be with me, not because "he can't live without me."

Now that I am older I am very comfortable in my own skin. Im also not afraid to tell you what works, what doesnt and I am not shy. I'm tactful but I'm honest.

I have learned to relax more in my life and dont let things get to me. It takes a lot to rattle me most of the time. Some of my friends like to call me the honey badger, in a good way.

Full disclosure, I'm at the tail-end of a somewhat lengthy divorce. We've both very much moved on, but just due to how rediculously slow the courts are in ny, it's not final yet. It's no longer a marriage. If that's a complication you are uncomfortable with, I understand, as I respect the idea of having all loose ends tied up first. I'd prefer that myself. But it's been almost two years so I'm ready. But I want to be upfront about it. Should be final in another month or so.

Working in the fun, cool, never-a-dull moment land of digital in NYC. Trying to stay in touch with friends. Am excited to see what the rest of my life has to offer.

writing, thinking on the fly, staying calm in an emergency, odd ad hoc bits of knowledge, poking around with new technology, social banter, being real, trying not to take life too seriously or plan for every possible contingency.

My very light blue eyes, and I often hear, "Gee you look JUST like this person I know." At least a few times a month I am tapped on the shoulder to a shocked person apologizing and swearing they thought they knew me from somewhere. (Just this week I got a "hey" from someone only to have them somewhat embarrassed when they realized I wasnt who they thought.) I've heard I look a bit like Jennifer Anniston. I guess? So maybe that's why people think they know me somehow. I'm also known for making you feel comfortable right away. And I'm known for being the one who will be the first to try to break up the tension in a room. I can be disarming. It's a gift from my Irish forefathers. :)

My favorite TV show is hands-down Big Bang Theory but Ive gotten into once upon a time. Brilliant idea and they took full advantage of creative license without stepping over the line. Something the writers should be very proud of as its tricky to play with such familiar characters who are rock solid in the collective psyche since childhood.

For books, Tolkien, Dante, Shakespeare, Milton (yes as in Paradise Lost-told you I was a geek). Love historical novels about the middle ages, Renaissance

jeans, gadgets, skis, good food, my mountain bike, hairbrush.

thinking. It's never quiet in there. And maybe trying to figure out how to achieve balance. I know it can be done!

working out, seeing friends, sleeping, trying oh-so-hard to really get organized this weekend! I swear it will happen someday (just before the Earth spins off its axis), working on my computer, but my favorite is sharing a nice bottle of wine in a room you can hear yourself talk, with good, engaging company and laughing all night.

I have a soft spot for geeks and I like sci-fi more than the average girl. Why on Earth did they change it to syfy?

If I seem like someone you'd like to get to know better and are not intimidated by anything I've said. I'm just getting back in the game so I'm not in a big rush. Enjoying my independence but am open to meeting someone new. And I always like to make new friends along the way. PS. 20-something guys, you are sweet and most flattering, but just a wee bit too young for me. Also please don't contact me if you are looking for a third wheel in an open marriage. I didn't spend all this time and money getting out of mine so I can get in the middle of someone else's. Single or divorce in process only thanks.