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29 M Menlo Park, CA

My Details

Last Online
Jul 21
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), Russian (Okay), Japanese (Poorly), C++ (Okay)

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My self-summary
This is my first login in months, and probably it will be more months before the next one. No one really messages me on here anyway, but if you want to get in touch, email at [my first name].[my last name] at gmail. My first and last name are in a link on this profile.

Quiet quirky nerd. (Quiet quirky queer is more q's, but less accurate. I am somewhat more nerd than queer.)

Major identifying activities of my life thus far, with wild guesses on how much time I've spent doing them:

Teaching physics (6000 hours)*
Studying physics (4000 hours)*
Writing software (4000 hours)
Traveling (4000 hours)*
Playing poker (3000 hours)
Playing piano (2500 hours)

* - Mostly dormant
What I’m doing with my life
Traveling, recently. See

Settling, now. I moved into a house in Menlo Park on September 1, 2013.
I’m really good at
living stories
The first things people usually notice about me
This isn't the first thing, but an early remark many people have made: "you think too much." Sometimes it's meant as a compliment, sometimes as a fault; I tend to agree with both of these assessments.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
On piano, Chopin nocturnes for the emotions and Bach inventions for the rationality. On guitar, I usually strum some chords and hopefully someone else sings.

In the kitchen, I'm happy when the rosemary, basil, and garlic are fresh rather than dried.

Catch-22 appealed to my cynicism and pacifism. The Little Prince appealed to my romanticism and idealism. A few works by Ursula Le Guin appealed to my queerness.
The six things I could never do without
Essential: food, clothing, sleeping bag, laptop, and either a backpack to carry these or a room to put them in.

Highly desirable: thermarest/mattress, sheets, towel, piano, guitar, smartphone, coffee, leatherman, flashlight, toothbrush+toothpaste, deodorant
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Which risks are worth taking for the sake of adventure.
Whether I'm still happy with my choice not to have a career.
Whether I'm doing as much for people as they're doing for me.

Sample thought:
Let w(t) be how much I work as a function of time, and p(t) be how much I'm paid as a function of time.

w(t) appears to be trimodal with approximately 50% of the time in the median regime and 25% on each edge. Within each modal region, there is further inner fractal-like subdivision into submodal regions.
w(t+delta t) involves a small probability of jumping between the highest level modal regions, and increasingly higher probabilities of jumping between the lowest modal regions. This basic behavior is transposed by a burnout or boredom function, though most values of w(t) aren't in the regime strongly affected by these.

p(t) appears to be disturbingly uncorrelated with w(t).
On a typical Friday night I am
To answer the letter of the question, I've been playing poker and/or grading calculus tests on most recent Friday nights.

To answer the spirit of the question: I spend most of my leisure time a)at home, and b)by myself. It might be reading, or writing, or coding something for fun, or playing piano.

I spend a lot of my time traveling, too. I often don't think of that as leisure; traveling is a way of life rather than a "vacation" for me.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I sometimes feel like I'm too queer to identify with straight people, and too straight to identify with queer people.

I'm pretty good at lying, and I do it sometimes out of habit, without realizing what I'm saying.

I wrote approximately 300 OKCupid messages averaging approximately 200 words each, more or less evenly spaced over 2007-2012. I got about 60 responses, and met about fifteen people in person. I hung out more than a couple hours with six of these people. I hung out more than a year with two of them.

I feel like my time is about equally well spent on Omegle, even if you count the time it takes to filter out bots :p.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 21–35
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends
You should message me if
You are local and want to come over for a cup of coffee in the morning. It's okay if your morning is my mid-afternoon, or vice versa.

You want to play piano with me. Or you want to play some other instrument while I play piano.

You are not high-pressure. Or at least, you're not high-pressure when we hang out. I'm not an overachiever. So it's probably best if you don't expect perfection in your coffee, or your musical partner's proficiency. At worst you'll be pleasantly surprised ;).

I'm not particularly fond of monogamy. I'm also not very interested in sex. I don't think too fondly of "dating" or "relationships." But I like friends, and I don't try to arbitrarily draw lines on where a particular friendship goes.