Out with the old - I've deleted my entire self-summary.
I'm a clinical psychologist in Sydney.
The most important aspects of a sucessful relationship:
1. Similar views on the more important issues.
2. Slight differences on other things.
3. The motivation to work out problems and conflicts; to
collaborate as people and figure out how things went
wrong.
4. Transparency (it's even more important if you're a guy
because women can tell if we're lying/distorting.)
Philosophical Dogma
1. Morality is the claim that right and wrong exist; it can
be tested. If you find what you're doing ethically worrisome,
stop to ask yourself what the case/world would look like if
everyone engaged in this behavior all the time (All credit due
to Kant).
Judge not only your own behavior but the behavior of your
closest friends in this regard - if you consider yourself moral.
2. Epistemology: What can not be spoken of must be passed over in silence.
We don't know how much we know - we're not in a position to. It's kind of like, intellectually, we're trying to wash the square of our own backs. We can't see it to be sure it's there - or that it's clean.
3. Science: Relies on perception with the rigour of faith.
4. Faith: Reduces the complexity of the universe; of good, evil, and all that is naturally in between to a worrisome extreme/polarity ...
5. Rationalism: Relies on thought, which relies on experience, which is flawed.
6. Language: Is thinking made observable. I believe every thought we have is, really, some form of a word - or - relies on a grammatical format.
Spirituality: Zen Buddhism has appealing psychological ideals and techniques for self-improvement. It also makes some rather striking predictions about nature which have proven accurate.
I agree with its contentions regarding dependent origination - if you know what that is you understand where I come from. It's not a difficult concept.
Things you could talk with me about: I'm writing a book on Psychopathy, I teach and play chess, I'm a pop culture (movies and music of the 80's and 80's) baby (that's the power of love), my last.fm playlist has a lot of grunge and folk rock on it, trance too... although eventually it all sounds like the background to the ending of a legend of zelda game.
Seriously, chat me up if you want - I'm good company.
I'm a clinical psychologist in Sydney.
The most important aspects of a sucessful relationship:
1. Similar views on the more important issues.
2. Slight differences on other things.
3. The motivation to work out problems and conflicts; to
collaborate as people and figure out how things went
wrong.
4. Transparency (it's even more important if you're a guy
because women can tell if we're lying/distorting.)
Philosophical Dogma
1. Morality is the claim that right and wrong exist; it can
be tested. If you find what you're doing ethically worrisome,
stop to ask yourself what the case/world would look like if
everyone engaged in this behavior all the time (All credit due
to Kant).
Judge not only your own behavior but the behavior of your
closest friends in this regard - if you consider yourself moral.
2. Epistemology: What can not be spoken of must be passed over in silence.
We don't know how much we know - we're not in a position to. It's kind of like, intellectually, we're trying to wash the square of our own backs. We can't see it to be sure it's there - or that it's clean.
3. Science: Relies on perception with the rigour of faith.
4. Faith: Reduces the complexity of the universe; of good, evil, and all that is naturally in between to a worrisome extreme/polarity ...
5. Rationalism: Relies on thought, which relies on experience, which is flawed.
6. Language: Is thinking made observable. I believe every thought we have is, really, some form of a word - or - relies on a grammatical format.
Spirituality: Zen Buddhism has appealing psychological ideals and techniques for self-improvement. It also makes some rather striking predictions about nature which have proven accurate.
I agree with its contentions regarding dependent origination - if you know what that is you understand where I come from. It's not a difficult concept.
Things you could talk with me about: I'm writing a book on Psychopathy, I teach and play chess, I'm a pop culture (movies and music of the 80's and 80's) baby (that's the power of love), my last.fm playlist has a lot of grunge and folk rock on it, trance too... although eventually it all sounds like the background to the ending of a legend of zelda game.
Seriously, chat me up if you want - I'm good company.
