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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 44-52
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 11
5' 9" (1.75m)
Body Type
Other and laughing about it
Post grad
Doesn’t want kids
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
What I enjoy most: Helping my partner, friends, and family. Meaningful work that serves the community. Mind-filling conversation. Mind-emptying relaxation. Words and ideas: anything clever, determined, erudite, or touching, neatly stated. If it's witty or joyful, even better. Nothing beats a long walk, unless it's a bike ride to some little seen corner of the city. I work out so I can enjoy being active and stay attractive to my partner. Not much into gear, but I'll try anything if I can learn something from it.

I'm funny (though you wouldn't know it from this intro) and smart, and maybe more serious than most -- some say "intense", but I prefer to think of it as "dedicated". If it matters, I'm an ivy-educated professional, and I'm told I have nice hands. (And on that subject, I can't change what's on top, but the beard's negotiable. We hit it off and you don't like it? It's gone overnight.)

I'm attracted to an independent woman who does great on her own but really thrives with a partner -- a complex, thoughtful, committed person who sees her relationship not as a refuge from the world but as a safe harbor from which to go out into it. Someone who needs a little support for her big ideas and finds it most in me.

Chagrined as I am that this is how it's done these days, if I can fall in love with someone who loves me back, it will enrich everyone we know. That's worthwhile, don't you think?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Helping make life on this shaky planet a bit more safe and predictable. Otherwise, trying to do what I enjoy most; see my summary.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Questioning and sticking to my principles at the same time.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Buildings. Earthquakes. Public policy.

Also, why a guy who's so clearly a combination of Brad Pitt (age), Jon Stewart (height), William Shakespeare (looks), and the Dalai Lama (possessions) is still on OKCupid.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
the same man I am Sunday afternoon and Tuesday morning. (Great answer. Stole it from one of you.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My 2D:4D ratio is greater than 1. You were going to find out sooner or later. I'm not proud. Or ashamed. Or even worried. Some women prefer a less simian date.

Also, I've developed a few pet peeves from reading all these profiles. Like I tend to roll my eyes now at photos from Burning Man. (Uninhibited expression and revelation through community are great. I guess I just find it funny how often it seems to involve a feather boa and a fur bikini.) And why do so many women find the shift key so ... what exactly? Bourgeois? Impersonal? Hegemonic? (Or is it just too much effort? Really, set me straight.) Does this make me a jerk? It's silly and judgmental, I know, and I hope I have it under control. But come on, don't you find some of these profile tropes just a little smirk-worthy? At least I'm laughing at the men too. And at myself. After all, here I am chuckling at wine snobs, while I'm all "hegemonic" and "tropes." And "chagrined." Can't forget "chagrined." ;-)
You should message me if
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you appreciate that I have no photos of loud engines. Or of myself, shirtless.