Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Originally from Eastern Europe, I've arrived in the US in May 2013.
I'm ethnically German/Jewish/Hungarian (typical Eastern European
mixture), grew up in Hungary, have seen 10 years of late Soviet
I'm a software engineer, a "born-again socialist" (no, really - I
kind of understand born-again Christians, it feels good to once
again believe in something positive for a change), a free spirit,
an ex-Wiccan (not that I have anything against Wiccans), an
ex-goth, a believer in love at first sight, a quick reader, a
wannabe polymath, and some other stuff. ;)
I have markedly feminine traits (partly as I learned most of my
assertiveness from my awesome mom), and am quite outspoken about
feminism, gender awareness and LGBTQ rights.
I have a weird bias against people who ever verbally express a
dislike of cats. I always think that they must be pretty horrible
people to not like cats, and then wilfully rub it in other people's
faces as if it were a virtue or something.
I can also be awkward, have temporary slumps of self-worth and
depressive spells, but I guess the overall sum is positive... At
least I like to believe so. :P
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm a mid-level technical decisionmaker at a financial
data/software firm. Right off Wall Street none the less. ;) My
current stay in the US came about via a modern-day indenture (also
known as an L1 visa). Not happy about that, but happy to be
I'm a work in progress, by all means. After spending approximately
5 years on becoming a professional by wide society standards (a
success btw, I got transferred out to New York after all, and am in
a highly responsible technical job), now it's time to become a
success on my own terms. As for what that means, I'm very much
freedom-oriented, and these years in regular 9 to 5 jobs taught me
that this life isn't for me. The more freedom I have, the more
successful I feel.
Recently I have decided to learn to sail on a carpe diem move, and
ended up joining a local sailing club. It's awesome, I can meet
people, and being on the water feels great. I want a lot more of
this sort of thing. Maybe learn to fly next. :)
(An enterpreneurial socialist may sound weird, but I don't see it
as a contradiction. In this society, I guess owning capital is the
only way of having freedom. Also, enterpreneurialism is quite
compatible with leftist long-term policy visions, I can talk about
that in length when someone is interested.
Also, with more resources, one can better work toward more social
and humanitarian goals, too. Bill Gates is totally my hero, with
all the humanitarian stuff he's doing nowadays.)
There's a lot in my background I'm working to get back to. Like
lucid dreaming and meditation, writing, lots of callisthenics and
serious cycling practice, and am kind of struggling with
maintaining a primal / paleo lifestyle. I was kind of paleo before
I knew paleo existed, and I felt absolutely awesome around that
time... I should also practice more on the piano.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I look a lot younger than I am.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Well... When there is too much of something, it's hard to gather
Here's a list of newspapers and magazines I'm subscribed to
(digitally), it gives a good overview of me I think: Financial
Times, Wall Street Journal, Wired, GQ, Rolling Stone, Dazed and
Confused, New Left Review.
For books, I love the novels of William Gibson, got exhilarated and
cried on Raw Shark Texts, I absolutely love folktales and legends
in unadulterated form, read most of Poe and all of Lovecraft as a
teenager, have a slight snobby disdain for Pratchett and Douglas
Adams (nothing too serious though), I got captivated by Sorokin's
Ice, but nowadays a fair share of the reading I do is of the
learning / techincal sort... :)
If you also see some faint line of connection between Raw Shark
Texts, Mateusz Skutnik's Submachine, FEZ (the game), Bryan Lee'O
Malley's Scott Pilgrim (the comic book not the movie) and Lost at
Sea, then I guess we should talk. :P
I rarely watch TV, like absurd cartoons and traditional mystery
dramas like Poirot the most, but am quite open to new things. :) As
cartoons go, I'm quite picky. I like weird, arty stuff like
Adventure Time or Samurai Jack, and messed up Japanese insanity
like Gintama. I HATE Simpsons-knockoff "ironic socially critical
cartoons" like American Dad or Bob's Burgers with a burning
passion. (Don't worry though, I'm okay with people who like them -
my brother's a Bob's Burgers fan. I just don't watch Bob's Burgers
with him. :P)
I love Wes Anderson films, even though they usually make me a
little melancholic. :)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Human affection. (Being touched, and touching someone. Sexually or
A handheld shower. (How do most New Yorkers get by without
View of the sky.
Thinking about deep stuff.
Stuff to read. (This usually means my iPad nowadays. When I moved
here from Europe, I was quite dismayed to realize just how
INCREDIBLY HEAVY books are. :/ Now I have a wall of books back in
Hungary, that I cannot read.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
...how to create something that will make people's life better.
Also what that something should be.
...why old Star Trek episodes vary so much in their quality of
writing. Some are ingenious, some are ludicrous...
...how we could fix society and commerce, end or at least curb
exploitation and poverty, and reach a solution of human freedom,
sustainability and peace.
...what kind of office culture I want to create in the startup I'll
kick off a few years into the future.
...whether I can stay in the US, and what I should do if I cannot.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I often fantasize about having a wedding where my partner and I
will be wearing the same sort of clothes. :P Two tuxes would be
nice, but I'd totally go with two dresses if they insisted.
You should message me if
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I'm looking for the most important person in my life. If I meet
some awesome loose acquaintances in the process, all the better of
...if you could relate to what I'm doing with my life. ;)
...if you're a socialist who is also entrepreneurial.
...if you want to live in many places for a few years at a
...if you'd come sail with me time to time.
...if you want to come to flight school with me and get a pilot's
...if you're just as scared as I am of becoming a regular, boring
person with a long-term job, a house, two kids and a dog, and
growing old without enjoying life. I don't want that. I do want
kids, maybe dogs and cats, living in several houses around the
world, but none of the boring family sitcom stuff that most people
imagine. I want to live an awesome life, and need someone who wants
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