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Last online
Apr 17
5' 7" (1.70m)
Body Type
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), German (Somewhat), Japanese (Somewhat), Hungarian (Fluently)
My self-summary
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Originally from Eastern Europe, I've arrived in the US in May 2013. I'm ethnically German/Jewish/Hungarian (typical Eastern European mixture), grew up in Hungary, have seen 10 years of late Soviet rule...

I'm a software engineer, a "born-again socialist" (no, really - I kind of understand born-again Christians, it feels good to once again believe in something positive for a change), a free spirit, an ex-Wiccan (not that I have anything against Wiccans), an ex-goth, a believer in love at first sight, a quick reader, a wannabe polymath, and some other stuff. ;)

I have markedly feminine traits (partly as I learned most of my assertiveness from my awesome mom), and am quite outspoken about feminism, gender awareness and LGBTQ rights.

I have a weird bias against people who ever verbally express a dislike of cats. I always think that they must be pretty horrible people to not like cats, and then wilfully rub it in other people's faces as if it were a virtue or something.

I can also be awkward, have temporary slumps of self-worth and depressive spells, but I guess the overall sum is positive... At least I like to believe so. :P
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm a mid-level technical decisionmaker at a financial data/software firm. Right off Wall Street none the less. ;) My current stay in the US came about via a modern-day indenture (also known as an L1 visa). Not happy about that, but happy to be here.

I'm a work in progress, by all means. After spending approximately 5 years on becoming a professional by wide society standards (a success btw, I got transferred out to New York after all, and am in a highly responsible technical job), now it's time to become a success on my own terms. As for what that means, I'm very much freedom-oriented, and these years in regular 9 to 5 jobs taught me that this life isn't for me. The more freedom I have, the more successful I feel.

Recently I have decided to learn to sail on a carpe diem move, and ended up joining a local sailing club. It's awesome, I can meet people, and being on the water feels great. I want a lot more of this sort of thing. Maybe learn to fly next. :)

(An enterpreneurial socialist may sound weird, but I don't see it as a contradiction. In this society, I guess owning capital is the only way of having freedom. Also, enterpreneurialism is quite compatible with leftist long-term policy visions, I can talk about that in length when someone is interested.
Also, with more resources, one can better work toward more social and humanitarian goals, too. Bill Gates is totally my hero, with all the humanitarian stuff he's doing nowadays.)

There's a lot in my background I'm working to get back to. Like lucid dreaming and meditation, writing, lots of callisthenics and serious cycling practice, and am kind of struggling with maintaining a primal / paleo lifestyle. I was kind of paleo before I knew paleo existed, and I felt absolutely awesome around that time... I should also practice more on the piano.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I look a lot younger than I am.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Well... When there is too much of something, it's hard to gather examples.

Here's a list of newspapers and magazines I'm subscribed to (digitally), it gives a good overview of me I think: Financial Times, Wall Street Journal, Wired, GQ, Rolling Stone, Dazed and Confused, New Left Review.

For books, I love the novels of William Gibson, got exhilarated and cried on Raw Shark Texts, I absolutely love folktales and legends in unadulterated form, read most of Poe and all of Lovecraft as a teenager, have a slight snobby disdain for Pratchett and Douglas Adams (nothing too serious though), I got captivated by Sorokin's Ice, but nowadays a fair share of the reading I do is of the learning / techincal sort... :)

If you also see some faint line of connection between Raw Shark Texts, Mateusz Skutnik's Submachine, FEZ (the game), Bryan Lee'O Malley's Scott Pilgrim (the comic book not the movie) and Lost at Sea, then I guess we should talk. :P

I rarely watch TV, like absurd cartoons and traditional mystery dramas like Poirot the most, but am quite open to new things. :) As cartoons go, I'm quite picky. I like weird, arty stuff like Adventure Time or Samurai Jack, and messed up Japanese insanity like Gintama. I HATE Simpsons-knockoff "ironic socially critical cartoons" like American Dad or Bob's Burgers with a burning passion. (Don't worry though, I'm okay with people who like them - my brother's a Bob's Burgers fan. I just don't watch Bob's Burgers with him. :P)
I love Wes Anderson films, even though they usually make me a little melancholic. :)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Human affection. (Being touched, and touching someone. Sexually or otherwise.)
A handheld shower. (How do most New Yorkers get by without it?!)
View of the sky.
Thinking about deep stuff.
My family.
Stuff to read. (This usually means my iPad nowadays. When I moved here from Europe, I was quite dismayed to realize just how INCREDIBLY HEAVY books are. :/ Now I have a wall of books back in Hungary, that I cannot read.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game. to create something that will make people's life better. Also what that something should be.
...why old Star Trek episodes vary so much in their quality of writing. Some are ingenious, some are ludicrous... we could fix society and commerce, end or at least curb exploitation and poverty, and reach a solution of human freedom, sustainability and peace.
...what kind of office culture I want to create in the startup I'll kick off a few years into the future.
...whether I can stay in the US, and what I should do if I cannot.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I often fantasize about having a wedding where my partner and I will be wearing the same sort of clothes. :P Two tuxes would be nice, but I'd totally go with two dresses if they insisted.
You should message me if
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I'm looking for the most important person in my life. If I meet some awesome loose acquaintances in the process, all the better of course.

...if you could relate to what I'm doing with my life. ;)
...if you're a socialist who is also entrepreneurial.
...if you want to live in many places for a few years at a time.
...if you'd come sail with me time to time.
...if you want to come to flight school with me and get a pilot's license.
...if you're just as scared as I am of becoming a regular, boring person with a long-term job, a house, two kids and a dog, and growing old without enjoying life. I don't want that. I do want kids, maybe dogs and cats, living in several houses around the world, but none of the boring family sitcom stuff that most people imagine. I want to live an awesome life, and need someone who wants that too.