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  • Ages 36–51
  • Near me
  • Who are single
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My details

Last online
Today – 10:12am
5' 11" (1.80m)
Body Type
Not at all
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), Japanese (Somewhat), Chinese (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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As a kid I decided that having an interesting life took precedence over conformity. That's proved to be a good decision to live by.

Caring for family & friends, caring for the environment, social justice/anti-oppression causes -- all things I hold dear.

I like to work hard and play hard.

Generally adventurous about life - except food. Sorry, kind of boring there. Though I once ate a deep-fried caterpillar in Thailand... (kinda like a french fry)

Enjoy being physically active, try to take care of my body (and mind and heart).

Family is important to me and I love mine. Culture is important to me and I love mine (Chinese, Japanese, American). A natural result is I respect that of others.

I'd love to meet someone who would enjoy singing Beatle songs together (at least the ones I can play on guitar) for hours on end. That would be pretty damn fun.
What I’m doing with my life
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Making multimedia performance art, directing/editing humorous environmentally-themed music videos, writing in various formats, traveling the world (esp. Asia) doing various art projects.

Newest performance telling my late-mother's life story and about Asian American single motherhood (2013). Here's a sample:

Example of an art project in S. Korea (2011):

Latest music video (2012):

I also teach peer counseling classes (listening skills; assisting people to move through emotional issues).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening to stories, telling stories, most sports that involve a ball (esp. baseball), video editing, fixing mechanical things, inventing things, cooking what I cook well, eating my own cooking, playing with kids. Playing. Spelling. Washing dishes. Vacuuming.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My paradoxical combination of serious intellectual depth and stupid humor.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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This part feels tedious. Sorry, will try a few...

Books: Dreams From My Father, Angela's Ashes, The Right Stuff, Bruce Lee: Artist of Life, Black Elk Speaks, Origins, You Gotta Have Wa, The Last Man on The Moon, white pages of the phone book. I read a lot of non-fiction, esp. history. Current reading: "The Golden Age of the Chinese Bourgeoisie, 1911-1937". It's very hard to remember how to spell "bourgeoisie"...

Movies: American Hustle; August Osage County; Nebraska; Gravity; Dallas Buyers Club; Saving Mr. Banks; The Book Thief. OLDER - Manzanar Fishing Club; The Help; American Beauty; Field of Dreams; October Sky; Apollo 13; Forrest Gump; Apocalypse Now; just about anything by Pixar.

TV: Don't watch much, but love The Daily Show. Jon Stewart is my current cultural hero. Castle, and not just cuz they occasionally employ me...

Music: Pat Metheny Group, Miles Davis, X, Beatles, Prince, Alan Hovanhess, Bob Marley, Stevie Wonder, Brian Eno, Kymistry, Quetzal, Corrinne May, too many more...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Family, friends, a guitar, baseball glove & bat (counts as one), MacBook, Sequoia Natl Park.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to create exciting, fun, powerful art.
How to help people (and myself) move through the things that get in the way of living more freely and fully.
How to get rid of some of the stuff cramming my studio.
What is that weird noise outside at 4AM?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Working on some creative project. But I can be persuaded to do something else, especially if it involves amusement park rides, ice cream, or being in nature.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I cried during "Toy Story" when Buzz Lightyear realized he was just a toy. :D
You should message me if
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You appreciate the unconventional.