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44 Raleigh, NC Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 25–44
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Dec 20
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Trying to quit
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Taurus, and it matters a lot
Dropped out of space camp
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I'm not sure I'm up to writing this. I'm not very introspective; I prefer to accept myself as I am, overall, as a synergy. When I notice something that really stand apart from the whole, I try to shape it to fit.

I'm good, I'm bad; I'm open-minded, I'm a snob; I'm fun, I'm lazy. Whatever...I'm mostly balanced, and I try to see things from all perspectives. A true Taurus in every aspect.

I cuss like a chimney, smoke like a sailor, I'm hung like Einstein, and am smart as a horse. Hey, wait...

I ride a Harley, have associated with 'real' bikers most of my life; I'm a veteran, and proud of it; (More to go later. Maybe.)

I wear a "modern" kilt often, and yes, in public. If I had (read: could afford) one or two more, these would be my daily wear.

Funk as puck.

On Humor:
Build a man a fire, and he'll be warm for the rest of the night. Light a man on fire and he'll be warm for the rest of his life.

Friends will help you move. Real friends will help you move bodies.

On dating:
I don't date for the sake of dating. I don't date for the purpose of easy access. Dating is a trial process for finding a lifelong partner. I'd prefer to be, and generally am, single than to date just to not be alone. I'm fine with would sometimes be nice to have someone to share it with, though ;)

On politics:
Socially liberal, fiscally conservative, STRONGLY anti-socialist. Hate what has become of our political system. Strongly dislike the Republican Party for its enforced moralisms. HATE the Democratic Party for too many reasons; including its shift into pure socialism, as well as its love of legislated security. Hate that the Libertarian Party 1) has no political strength, and 2) sold out its Libertarian ideals. I am a Libertarian (as in the ideal, not the party) and Constitutionalist. I think that Bill Clinton was economically the worst thing to happen to this country in my lifetime and that the majority of the current economic crisis can be laid squarely at his feet (NAFTA? WTO?), and that Obama has a chance to catch up with him.

"They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety, deserve neither liberty nor safety." - Benjamin Franklin

"In these sentiments, Sir, I agree to this Constitution, with all its faults, — if they are such; because I think a general Government necessary for us, and there is no form of government but what may be a blessing to the people, if well administered; and I believe, farther, that this is likely to be well administered for a course of years, and can only end in despotism, as other forms have done before it, when the people shall become so corrupted as to need despotic government, being incapable of any other." - Benjamin Franklin

On updating my profile here at OKC:
It seems I only add to what's here, and never/rarely remove what's no longer relevant. I'm a 'statistic in the economic downturn'; I left my career to provide home health/hospice care to my grandparents, and have bounced from job to job looking for a new 'home' since. I've sold my house, my Harley, my astronomy gear, and much else of the crap I've amassed over the years. I have goals to again have a motorcycle that I love, and get back into astronomy and astrophotography. I have a wonderful and amazing Irish Wolfhound who just turned three. I've dropped wanting to own a screen printing business, as there're just way too damned many of them, and the artists are generally much better than I am. I do have other business goals, however, and am working toward achieving those as I also continue to seek re-entry into my former career (IT).

Places I've lived:
(this isn't really here for OKC purposes, but because it seems like I've lived so many places that I'm starting to forget them. Maybe they'll start some conversations, though)
Chicago and west 'burbs
Bradenton, Sarasota, Orlando, St Petersburg, and Tampa, Florida
Savannah, Alpharetta, Atlanta, and Ludowici Georgia
DC (really DC, not VA or MD. 14th and R area)
San Antonio, Texas
Burlington, Vermont
Boston, Mass
Raleigh, NC (current)
About 10 college towns in the Midwest as a kid, including Champaign/Urbana (only one I'm sure of)
That's all I can think of. I got all the major ones, anyway. I think :/

I am *bleep*, *bleep*, and that other thing
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
At this *exact* moment? Procrastinating on OKC. In general? Dealing with/waiting for the finalization of estate probate proceedings, and gathering my resources to start my own screen-printing business.

Other than that, I spend a lot of time riding my motorcycle, going to rallys/events, and camping.

Realizing that only the first statement is still true, and avoiding changing the rest anyway, purely out of spite and apathy. Realizing that spite and apathy are non-coexistent, and being apathetic about that as well.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Answering OKCupid questions, apparently:

You've answered: 4,021
Number active: 3,989
We know you: 98.4%
You've answered (or skipped) every active question in our database. Wow."
(emphasis added)

And Quickmatch rating:
Total: 3239
5s: 21 (0.6%)
4s: 240 (7.5%)
3s: 2644 (81.6%)
2s: 286 (8.8%)
1s: 48 (1.5%)

Nice bell curve on that, btw. I'll put this out there now. 3* doesn't mean I find you unattractive, it simply means I didn't see anything extraordinary in what I saw (plus, average has its own attractiveness). As well, with a small rating range of 1-5, there's a broad spectrum within any one class. Conversely, 4* doesn't mean that I *am* attracted to you (not to say that I'm not, either), it just means that I recognize some especially attractive quality in what I saw (or read. I read almost every profile that I give 4* or 5* to, it's actually often the difference between 3* and 4*, or 4* and 5*). 5*, well, if we were to meet, I'd likely be intimidated and stumbling over my words and being generally retarded, honestly.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Eyes, definitely my eyes (so I'm told, anyway. Emphatically). Actually, most people are scared of me at first...I'm fairly large, definitely scruffy. Given a chance, people usually come to find me to be well-spoken, highly intelligent, calm and fair, deeply passionate, and at least mildly amusing.

And that I'm wearing a (Utili-) kilt (
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
There're so many choices for *all* of these!

Let's see, books: "Wheel of Time" series by Robert Jordan, "Song of Ice and Fire" series by George R. R. Martin, Raymond Feists Pug series', "Snowcrash" by Neal Stephenson, John Irving*, "Cuckoo's Egg" by Clifford Stohl, "The Name of the Rose" and "Foucault's Pendulum" by Umberto Eco, Shogun by James Clavell, Lewis Carroll, "Don Quixote" by Miguel Cervantes, "The Art of War" by Sun Tzu, "Spectrum of Consciousness" by Ken Wilbur, "Godel, Escher, Bach: An Eternal Golden Braid" by Douglas Hofstadter ( I have yet to make it all the way through this book. I've started over at least 10 times over the years, and my brain always melts out onto the floor about 1/3 of the way through. Metaphysics meets Philosophy meets Lewis Carroll, and is somehow actually about Cognition and Artificial Intelligence. I think.), anything Shel Silverstein, *so* many more...
(* - As an aside...'Simon Birch' is one of the few movies to have really pissed me off just for existing)
Books/Series top 5 of all time:
Enders Game - Orson Scott Card
A Prayer for Owen Meany - John Irving
The Gunslinger series - Stephen King
Alvin Maker series - Orson Scott Card
SnowCrash - Neal Stephenson

The "Wheel of Time" series by Robert Jordan is one of my few true addictions and is by far my favorite read (and re-read) of anything ever published.

Movies: Moulin Rouge / anything by Baz Luhrman, The Seventh Seal, Cool Hand Luke, Nightbreed, The Princess Bride, Cat on a Hot Tin Roof, 12 Angry Men (classic only), Pi, Falling Down, The Quiet Man, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern are Dead, Erik the Viking, Shaun of the Dead, 300, The Name of the Rose, Amistad, Searching for Bobby Fisher, The Ref, Pitch Black/Chronicles of Riddick, Santa Slay, World Gone Wild (C'mon! Adam Ant as the nemesis to Bruce Dern's mushroom tea swilling antihero, in a post-apocolyptic Kurosawa's Seven Samurai (Pixar's A Bugs Life for the heathens out there) story line, co-starring Michael Pare and Catherine Mary Stuart? How can anything be better than that?!), Faster Pussycat, Kill! Kill!, Wizards / Fire and Ice / anything Bakshi, The Secret of NIHM, Pump Up the Volume, Heathers, High Fidelity, Empire Records, Better Off Dead, The Blood Of Heroes (aka Salute of the Jugger), Shaolin Soccer / Kung Fu Hustle, V for Vendetta, The Goonies, Lost Boys, Prophecy series, Dark Crystal, Labyrinth, Legend, The Hustler, Underworld, Young Einstein, the 2005 remake miniseries of Little House on the Prairie (yes, really), Whipped!, anything Pixar (disappointed in Up! though), Evil Dead series, Nightmare on Elm Street, Nightmare Before Christmas, Penelope Spheeris' Suburbia, more movies and more genres than I can name here
Top 6 movies of all time:
Moulin Rouge
Seventh Seal
Cat on a Hot Tin Roof
Cool Hand Luke
Legend of Fong Sai Yuk (import version *only*)
Pay it Forward

Music: Old-school punk (especially more rock-n-roll styled, like Ramones or Circle Jerks), rock of most flavors, classic 'crooner' country, jump swing, rockabilly/psychobilly, filk (humor), some folk, classic/symphonic, some opera, some jazz, more and more and more. *OLD* rap (no gangsta), very little R&B, love funk, anything Shel Silvertein (yes, he did music, too. A LOT of music). I tend to be drawn to FFBs (Female Fronted Bands) quite a bit, as well as female performers in general...but not girly bands or feminazi. Probably a result of being deep in the DC music scene during the RiotGrrrl (r)evolution.

Bands/Musicians/Composers: Cake, P.Funk, old Metallica, Peggy Lee, Ramones, Stray Cats, Sabbath, Dr. Hook (huge fan, prefer Ray Sawyer but also love Medicine Show), Dee Snider, Frank Zappa, Alice Cooper, Poe, Edie Brikell, early Tori Amos, Genitorturers, Pogues, Flogging Molly, Dropkick Murhpys, Gov't Mule, Irish Rovers, Mojo Nixon & the Toadliquors, Joan Jett, Nina Simone, Run DMC, Jim Croce, Ella Fitzgerald, Johnny Cash, Danny Elfman, Circle Jerks, Howard Greig, Savatage / Trans-Siberian Orchestra, on and on and on...

Currently on a Tegan & Sara and Moldy Peaches kick for some reason. Definitely love their quirkiness. Also diggin' Saving Jane lately, as well..."One Girl Revolution" is bad-assed (ties into the whole RiotGrrrl days, I guess).

Songs of note (excerpts from the soundtrack of my life):
"Frustrated" - Joan Jett
"You and Me" - Alice Cooper
"Thank You" - Led Zeppelin
"Sylvia's Mother" - Dr. Hook
"Stickshifts and Safety Belts" - Cake
"Maggot Brain" - P. Funk
"Sex On Wheelz" - My Life With Thrill Kill Kult
"Kool Thing" - Sonic Youth
"Sinnerman" - Nina Simone
"The Ride" - David Allen Coe

Top albums:
Dead Kennedys - Fresh Fruit for Rotting Vegetables
Ramones - Too Tough to Die
Frank Zappa - Overnite Sensation
Grateful Dead - Europe '72 (yes, the Dead make the list. Shut it!)
P. Funk - Maggotbrain
Judgement Night movie soundtrack
Genitorturers - 120 Days of Genitorture
Joan Jett - Glorious Results of a Misspent Youth
Alice Cooper - Welcome to My Nightmare
Pigface - Fook
NIN - Fixed (E.P.)

Foods: I like all 'styles' of food, but I tend to be a bit picky about the specifics, so my staples tend to be simple: steak and taters, pizza, stuff like that. Love a good hummus, but rarely find a good one. I do love fondue for special occassions, though ;) I hated fish when I was a kid, but love it now (except for sushi and tuna). I love shellfish, but not oyster in an way. Risked escargot once and fell in love...mmm Sunday mornings by the beach with escargot and mimosa after a show...good times! Loved onions when I was a kid, now I'm allergic :/ I could live on mushrooms, cheese, and stout lager. Have found a new interest in teas, although I still prefer coffee anywhere but at home.

TV got left out. Here goes:
Firefly (I think this was one of the most intelligent shows I've ever seen, and still rates as "Best series ever to air" in my opinion); 24, Commander-in-Chief (mainly because Geena Davis just gets more and more beautiful as she gets older), sometime Gilmore Girls (great dialogue, Lauren Graham is one of the most beautiful women I've *ever* seen), X-files, Alias, Jericho, The Adventures of Brisco County Jr., All Creatures Great and Small, Breaking Bad, Eureka, Chuck, Bab5, Buffy/Angel, Heroes, ReBoot, Dead Like Me, My So Called Life, Young Ones, Good Eats, Big Bang Theory, Terminator-SCC, Inuyasha, Northern Exposure, Deadwood, most poker shows, some NFL football, Stargate (all series), Battlestar Galactica, Adventures of Brisco County Jr., more I can't remember
Top five ever:
Young Ones
Breaking Bad
Babylon 5

Top current:
Breaking Bad
The Event
The Walking Dead
Game of Thrones

Other random faves: Frank Frazetta, Salvador Dali (I miss living 45mins away from the Dali museum in Florida :( ), PusHead, International Delights French Vanilla, eCigs (DSE901), "Drawing on the Right Side of the Brain", Andrew Loomis, Sculpey, ZBrush, "gentle giants" (Irish Wolfhounds/Great Danes/Mastiffs), gadgets, Tivo, D&D (old rules), 3d modelling and animation, computer programming, astronomy/astrophotography, woodworking/machining, sleep, coffee, fried bologna, blinky lights, dusk and dawn, books, quiet time

Semi-fanatic about: "Wheel of Time", Shel Silverstein, Firefly, ReBoot, old school underground punk and industrial music scenes, Moulin Rouge
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Changing this, but the old/original is at the end. Why? I've lately become annoyed at this section in almost every profile I read (and I've read over 3800 profiles to date!). Fact: Yes, you CAN live without your cellphone, STFU. Fact: Yes, you CAN live without your internet, STFU. Fact: Yes, you CAN live without all the physical crap you (and I) have in the list. Next part of my thought (rant) on this: Fact: NO ONE can live without air, sun, gravity, etc., STFU! Stop being sheeple, sheeple!

Now, I am beginning to think that it's time for the Six Things list which gets right to the heart of the matter:

The Six Things I Could Never Do Without (during the Zombie Apocolypse!):
1) Authentic katana (sword); swords don't run out of ammo
2) 12-round semi-automatic 12-gauge shotgun. 'Cuz sometimes you just gotta
3) Crank-charge emergency radio with flashlight, with earphone
4) Bolt cutters. Trust me on this one
5) Quality prybar
6) Quality hunting/survival knife
See, now that's a realistic list. and important! The ZA is coming, sheeple. Then what good are your cellphones and internet gonna do ya, huh?

OLD LIST:My motorcycle; my animals; computer/internet; gadgets; books; being able to count to six
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.

...and why I don't/haven't updated this profile in so long... probate's years done, sold the scoot due to layoff/finances (and the dog couldn't fit on it )

... and that language is just a communal agreement to attach nuances of meaning to otherwise meaningless symbols...what if I don't agree with the communal contract? What if I think that the sound "chair" should symbolize a pepperoni and anchovie pizza with candy sprinkles?

Oh, and that, for no real reason, I HATE the "Owns Dogs and Owns Cats" selection. I am *responsible* for an amazing dog and amazing cat, both of whom I love dearly and one of which I paid dearly for the privilege of being responsible. Does that make any sense?

How much so and why pirates > ninja
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Lately (Jan 2011) my work schedule is 5p-1a most nights, including Fridays, so working. Generally read or work on a quiet hobby (3d/programming/painting/airbrushing/researching) when I get home so as not to bother the roomie. I'm really not exciting anymore, and I'm pretty sure this is a good thing ;)

Learning guitar used to be in that list, but this fall I suffered some bad nerve damage to a fingertip on my left hand pulling my dog out of a fight, so that's out unless/until I can feel the strings again. I might give it another try sooner.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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About religion...I listed myself as "Atheist but not too serious." It's the closest they had. Feeling a little guilty about it, but it's really the only appropriate option that's available. I believe in God. Not in a faithy way. I know there's a God, have known since I was a kid. I *don't* believe in the church as I've experienced it throughout my life. I don't believe in the faces and methods 'Christianity' as shown through the ages, to this day.

I believe that my relationship with God is, in a way, like any other intimate relationship...between me and Him. I have no need to tell anyone all the little details, it should be enough for you that I'm in that relationship, and there is nothing but trust, love and respect.
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