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42 Indianapolis, IN Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 28–48
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Jan 8
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Strictly vegetarian
Graduated from Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
| The Truth:
I do not have a type. There I said it. This could be the statement of a 42 year old man who simply does not know what he wants or it could be the sage wisdom of a 42 year old man who values experiences. And if life ought to be an experience, how could I have a type of anything or anyone? With this said, I wish depart false scripts that have been given to me by society or others and partake on the unknown. I want to have that ineffable moment that I know you, I live you (press play on Chaka Khan:

I live and rotate between Chicago, Indianapolis, and Bloomington (Indiana that is...not Illinois or Minnesota).

| The Lie:
I was that guy you saw last Halloween that wore angel wings, a g-string, with sliver glitter sprinkled all over him.

| The Hint:
This is only for those who feel propelled to send me a message, if you choose to initiate this virtual communication (of course with the intent to actually meet): I am the type that actually reads, and views profiles. This is not a guarantee that I will respond but the odds go up if you simply send me a message that tells me a little more about you. Why? Well my experience has been that the person with the least amount of things to say on here equally has the least amount to say off of here. If you disagree, then I just might not be the one for you, and it is cool.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
| The Truth:
* Professor by day, research on social and environmental justice, and student learning
* Perfecting my recalcitrant ways

| The Lie:
* Creator of the Snuggie
* Regretting the night I sired Honey Boo Boo

| The Hint:
* DJ at night in Chicago, Indianapolis (the Ball & Biscuit), and Bloomington (the Bluebird)...and would love to see you come and check me out, not as a date but just to be cool. Hailing from Chicago, and raised on the golden years of House Music this is how I get down: (press playa on Cajamere and Gene Farris)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
| The Truth:
* I am particular trained in many talents (said like Liam Neeson in the Taken movies). Specifically, I am built for Soul Train lines, coffee shops, and Book Stores.
* Probably looking less like a date and more like your personal bodyguard if we hang out.

My coffee shop sound track: (press play on Haitus Kayote)

| The Lie:
* Jazz hands.
* Jumping out of fake birthday cakes wearing a tool belt and work boots.
* Going full a@@ instead of half-a@@.

| The Hint:
* Being good at what I choose to be good at.
* Mastering the art of articulation.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
| The Truth:
* Possibly (according to past comments) my voice on the phone, sense of style, my arms, and sometimes my eyes. And then there is that...

| The Lie:
* My fly being unzipped...
* Or, my striking resemblance to _________ (insert name of bald head Black guy).
(Although a compliment, I look nothing like that Common (MC and actor), Boris Kudjoe (dude in x number of bad movies), Darius Rucker (Hootie & the Blowfish), Montel Williams (talk show host turned cheap product spokesman), "Scatman" Crothers (older guy in the Shining), "Curly" Neal (Harlem Globetrotters), or Mr. Clean (household cleaning products spokeserson)...New addition to the list the Food Network's G Garvin...

I swear I do not look like this man: (press play on Common:

| The Hint:
* One who enjoys food (especially cheesecake, gelato,peanut butter, Thai/Italian/Ethiopian/Caribbean etc.-just because I exercise regular doesn't mean I can't indulge (not to mean that enjoyment translates to eating through those foods in massive proportions).
* One who enjoys simple things in life, such as the laughter of children, there is just something in how they enjoy life despite the ugliness that I am in aware of.
* One who enjoys the "little" special moments like being out late returning home and seeing the stars or moon lit in certain way.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
| The Books:
* Twilight (just joking)
* Ubik - Philip K. Dick (for those who are unfamiliar, this is his last name); Orange is the New Black-Piper Kerman; Crime and Punishment-Michael Focualt; Death of Innocence-Mamie Till-Mobley & Chris Benson; Pigs at the Trough-Arianna Huffington; The Long Walk-Stephen King as Richard Bachman

| The Movies:
* Big Momma's House (uh, definitely joking)
* Raging Bull; Layer Cake; Lock, Stock, and Two Smoking Barrels;
The Big Lebowski;Planet of the Apes (the Original); Children of God; and 13 Conversations About One Thing

| The Shows:
* Toddlers and Tiaras (joking, I have no idea what channel this show is on)
* The Walking Dead; Hannibal (stylistically, it is amazing); Southland; Veep; Vice; Game of Thrones; Breaking Bad; Newsroom; and, Luther

| The Music:
* Chief Keef (absolutely not)
* The Roots; SZA;Flying Lotus; Hiatus Kaiyote
Little Dragon; Osunlade
J Dilla; Bonobo; Tokimonsta, Flying Lotus, Andreya Triana, and Jamiroquai are in regular rotation throughout the year
* (if top 40 does not interest you and these ring any bells for you...please "holla" or just come check me out when I DJ)

| The Food:
* Anything Paula Deen (Uh, not!)
* (Chicago) - Mercat; New Rebozo; The Chicago Diner
* (Indianapolis) - The Ball & Biscuit; Yats;
Napolese; Bru
* (Bloomington) - Farm; The Owlery; and, Roots

* If my reading, movie and television watching, and eating habits say something about me...good, they are meant to. I hope you are feeling my words and not just seeing them: (press play on Mos Def/Yasiin Bey)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
| The List:
* Music;
* Cultural Perspective;
* Civic Engagement;
* Family History;
* Quality Friendship;
* Not being pissed on by R. Kelly.

Some other things: (press play on Saint John Coltrane)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
| The Truth:
* Wishing that the words, "swag" or "Swagger," would die the same painful death as "shawty", "bootylicious", "jiggy" and "holla" (despite the fact I used it earlier in this profile)...add "YOLO" while you are at it.
* How to create a smartphone "selfie" inhibitor.

| The Lie:
* Donning a mask and jumping roof tops as the "Fists of Goodness" and fighting crime.
* What would people do if smartphones had a "selfie" inhibitor in the camera.

| The Hint:
* The lives of others;
* Jamaica (land of my family);
* My Life
...also, I know I could be loved but could you?: (press play on "Red" Marley)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
| The Truth:
* Grading Papers,
* Rocking Turntables
* Or, catching up on one of the above shows on my DVR

| The Lie:
* Fighting Crime as the "Fists of Goodness" or listening to Slayer to start my day.

| The Hint:
* Thinking about "Wearing the Black" or becoming the "King of the North."
* Probably sleep, if I am not out of the house by 8pm.

And probably getting none of this: (press play on Little Dragon)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
| The Truth:
* I cannot write a Haiku to save my mother's life (even after a lengthy lesson in 3rd grade).

| The Lie:
* I am the illegitimate child of a U.S. President (not the Black one).

| The Hint:
* That I am willing to admit that I would not share my most private thing(s) with you for a hot minute.
* I actually understand this video: (press play on Flying Lotus)
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
| The Truth:
I cannot make any grandiose claims about WHY one should get know me, all I can say is that I WOULD like you to get to know me. I find myself in three locales (Chicago, Indianapolis, and Bloomington-Indiana) and willing to see who I may find in any of the three. But actually, I am now willing to travel anywhere for a great date (emphasis on great).

| The Lie:
...because I have a strict four "selfie" minimum. This is a joke, but people please find a friend, family member, co-worker, wait staff, or a stranger to snap a photo of you. Not a good look, what-so-ever (unless you are one of those creative types that have impeccable skills in taking a shot).

| The Hint:
In regards to who I am looking for, one who enjoys music (can't say enough about that) doesn't have to be the same as mine because moonlighting as a DJ opens you to a wide selection of vibes and sounds. If you can name who said this or the song, then you get an A-plus in my class: "The anticipation arose/as time froze/I stared off the stage with my eyes closed dove/ into the deep cosmos/the impact push back the 1st 5 rows" or "The new moon rose high on the crown of the sky of the metropolis/ Shining, like, "who on top of this!"

| The Extra:
You are open to a pretty cool dude while bringing yourself, your friend, or your date to one of my DJ outings.
You actually know what is meant by becoming the "King of the North" or,
You think "Off the Wall" is better than "Thriller" or lastly,
You are seeking a relationship and not a man.

Let's share a donut or a beignet at the end of a night: (press play on J Dilla)