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39 • Milpitas, CA • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 25–42
- Located anywhere
- Who are single
- For long-term dating
- Last online
- Apr 14
- 5′ 8″ (1.73m)
- Body type
- Mostly vegetarian
- Graduated from med school
- Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
- Likes dogs and likes cats
- English (Fluently), Chinese (Poorly)
No cavities in 35 years.
20/20 vision (but if you wear glasses, that's hot!)
Probably could do 100 push ups in fight-or-flight situations
Can read while riding in any form of transportation--no nausea or head ache. Neat huh?
No signs of balding (knock on wood).
Never had a nose bleed, ingrown toenail, broken bone, black eye, ear infection, Strep throat, hang-over, ulcer, migraine (and no head aches in general), hernia, or ever fainted.
Would be about 5’10” tall if only I didn't have such short legs.
Once stayed awake for 100 hours.
Interested in meeting this top-shelf specimen? I only seek three things in a woman:
2) BIG HEART, preferably so that we care more about the biggest problems in the world than those of our own.
3) Is willing to and knows how to age gracefully.
So why do I want to be in a relationship? If I may just speak from the heart... Few people actually *need* a spouse--even for family planning purposes, given modern arrangements. But the world is a crazy place. We need to face it every day, this often times brutal, inhumane craziness, coming from seemingly every direction. It can chip away at your soul and hamper you from pursuing your calling or your life's work. I’d like to be able to come home to the love of my life, where we can tell each other about our day, both the triumphs and the set-backs. Before the end of this talk, we will both have vented, listened, empathized, cheered, commiserated, or stratergized, as appropriate; but always, at the end of the day, we can remind each other that the problems of the world are much, much bigger than those of our own, and we are again grounded and readied to face tomorrow--and even to stare down some evils and maybe even fix a problem or two--with the loooooonng perspective intact. That’s a level of intimacy deeper than most offered up in today's world, a level which I'm looking forward to enjoying... with a woman I can't resist falling in love with.
Practicing medicine--scary that doctors say it this way to describe what they do, huh?
Dabbling in angel investing.
One thing I don't have time for any time soon but want to try: Mercyships.org. Check it out!
Figuring out what two people are saying in a heated argument. I can find their common ground or distill their positions down to just the contrasting components in a flash.
Estimating data points that have been measured by others, before looking them up. Go ahead, try me.
BTW, I really would like to say what I'm NOT good at, since this will surely be more useful to both of us to reveal. If you think you can actually live with these, or even see some in a positive light, then that's a sign of compatibility, right? I'm really, really not very good at:
Telling a story or a joke--and this doesn't mean that I don't have a sense of humor; I just can't anecdotalize it.
Styling my hair, buying new clothes, or keeping said hair and clothes looking fresh. But if you enjoy giving someone a make over, then think of me as a willing guinea pig.
Running more than about 2 miles. But hey, beasts of prey lose interest before that, right?
Reading cues. I think I got like a 58 on some random Facebook Asperger's quiz.
Here are some movies which kind of define my sense of humor: There's Something About Mary, Hit and Run, Horrible Bosses, Borat, Bruno, Enchanted, Swingers, Ace Ventura, Fish Called Wanda, The Princess Bride.
Books: I only read non-fiction, especially books about how people think, or dealing with behavioral economics, personal finance, or any biographies by comedians. And Maus will always be beloved.
TV: news, news, and more news. I claim to watch sports but mostly just listen. My favorite things to watch are stand-up comedy and the Comedy Central main stays (Stewart/Colbert/Tosh). I also love TruTV, CNBC, and some of Spike TV.
So many kinds of music... I was kind of in tears when Smashing Pumpkins, Blink182, and Savage Garden broke up.
I'm like a monk--I eat for conscience and for health. So boring on the surface, sooo deliciously satisfying for the soul!
If you want to glimpse my modus operandi, the 6 are: progress, conflict resolution, monogamy&fidelity, altruism, emotional intelligence, and forecasting.
More specifically, there are quite a few perseverating thoughts to list... recent samples:
when and where (and in how many places) to retire
how to be a great parent
the energy productivity of heating/cooling
hyperinflation (how profound it would be), bitcoin;
which tech companies will prevail as we era into big-data
personal finance/investing (CNBC's tag line should be "Scorecard of Innovation")
the Holocaust and other period atrocities
good and bad user interface, especially on mobile
macroeconomics, behavioral economics, neuroeconomics
the rapid transformation of developing countries
material science, especially metamaterials
radical life extension!!!!!!!!!!!, epigenetics, immunology, tissue engineering;
poverty; peace and conflict studies
The Fermi Paradox
traffic and bottlenecks
I advocate only one rule: Please do not rely on the in-box/messaging box more than a couple days. If the internet and our phone's texting files were disabled, and the two people haven’t established a way to speak or meet by then, well what are we doing here in the first place? I know I may be a minority when I say this--but those of us who think this way are adamant--wasting someone’s time by showing interest but not being willing to talk or share your time is in all not appreciated, to be honest. Sorry about having such a strict request, but you probably have heard how frustrating online dating can get for some people. Right?
BTW, I must sound very serious in some sections above. That's only because I'm seriously looking for the right woman, not a casual date.
Thank you for reading. If I'm not your type, happy searching and best of luck to you.
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