Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
...you have a huge heart & an intensely introspective mind
alongside a brave/desperate willingness to invest them in deeply
meaningful human relationships.
...or if you can buy me a bookstore in Ann Arbor, Annapolis,
Pasadena, Providence, or Cambridge.
***i have a love/hate relationship with the internet as
communication, so i very rarely send unsolicited messages. And i
generally don't do quickmatch. The most likely way to reach me on
here is to say hello (but i probably won't respond if our enemy
percentage is in the double-digits).***
And on the off-chance she's still out there somewhere:
The partner i'm looking for is really (perhaps neurotically)
good (careful, authentic, reliable, brave, loyal,
open-minded), both in her loving, impractically high standards of
caregiving, and in a deep, thoughtful, overanalyzing sort of way.
She pounces on all moral dilemmas, philosophical problems, and
psychological dissonance (in herself and in others) as puzzles to
be worked out. She loves to explore - places, experiences, ideas -
as though keeping a mental checklist. She can be a bit of a
perfectionist, but not in the usual ways. She has a profound,
intuitive, humbling awareness of the infinite nature of existence,
which leads her to make choices with thoughtful, heartfelt
commitment, not from any existential certainty, but because it's
our choices that make us who and what we are. She is old in her
wisdom and young in her play. She thinks (and loves) to the point
of eccentricity. Do you know her?
“Human freedom involves our capacity to pause between the stimulus
and response and, in that pause, to choose the one response toward
which we wish to throw our weight. The capacity to create
ourselves, based upon this freedom, is inseparable from
consciousness or self-awareness." — Rollo May
"It is by an extreme capacity for defiance that certain very rare
people who have everything to hope and everything to fear from each
other will recognize each other." — Andre Breton
"We always deceive ourselves twice about the people we love — first
to their advantage, then to their disadvantage." — Albert
"Hello, dq, I notice that you refuse to capitalize the word 'I'.
Please explain what this choice means to you."
> Douglas Adams once pointed out that human beings tend to
superstitiously capitalize things they don't understand.